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LGBTQ* Vlogs: Bisexual Erasure

Camille, poised, educated, approachable, funny, and insightful as ever, offers her own insight and discusses bisexual erasure of those who identify as bisexual.

Camille, the creator and moderator of Tumblr’s GayWrites as well as AskGayWrites, is a site you I (Rebecca) will stand up for as one of my favorites on Tumblr. It is well sourced, researched, and like many blogs, Camille puts endless hours of her own time into the large project that is GayWrites.org.

Check her out! And, If you feel inclined, subscribe to her YouTube Channel.

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Bisexual Erasure Pt. 3: Sometimes, I feel like I’m not good enough for the queer community because I’m bisexual and not a lesbian. Here’s why. 

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An updated, alphabetized list of blogs which post or promote diverse media. This list is not specific to queer media so send in any recs for blogs which talk about books, films, tv shows, comics ect ect in a diverse light (including but not limited to gender identity/sexual or romantic orientation/race/disability). If I’ve missed you off just send us an ask to let us know you want to be included.

-Lauren

A-D

// bi-characters // bimagazine // bisexual-books // characterlikeme // disabilityinkidlit // dcugays //

E-H

// fandomsandfeminism // feministtv // freelgbtqpia // fuckyeahlesbianliterature // gayya // gaywrites // give-me-media-diversity // harmonyinkpress //

I-L

// lgbt-ya // 

M-P

// marvel-qomics // neverasinglestory //

Q-T

// queerbookclub // queerbooksforyou // queercomicsblog // queer-media// queermediarepresentation // queersuperheroes // richincolor // riptidepublishing // thegayya //

U-Z

// weneeddiversebooks // writingwithcolor //

Autistic People and Boundaries and Consent

In response to this post by brutereason, my friend Camille of gaywrites asked me the other night if it is considered ableist to expect Autistic people to know about boundaries and consent, and I explained that it is actually ableist to not expect Autistic people to know about boundaries and consent. A part of the neurodiversity movement is for people to presume competence and to hold Autistic people to the same standards of basic human decency as non-Autistic people. A lot of times parents of Autistic children will say something like “Oh, they are Autistic. They can’t help it.” when the child does something like hugging someone without their consent or otherwise violating someone’s boundaries. This does more harm than good for Autistic people because it teaches the autistic person that it’s ok for them violate the boundaries of others and that it’s ok for their boundaries to be violated in return because they were never taught how to see and respect other’s boundaries. 

The only difference between non-Autistic people and Autistic people learning about boundaries is the strategies used to teach them. Autistic people naturally have difficulty reading facial expressions and body language so it’s important to be direct. For example, when someone doesn’t want to be touched, they withdraw and pull away from the person. An Autistic person who has trouble reading this kind of body language might not know that the person doesn’t want to be touched and continues to try to touch them. In this instance, the non-Autistic person should say “I don’t want to be touched. Please don’t touch me.” 

It is also important to teach people on the autism spectrum how to set their own boundaries and to make sure they are respected. This can start early in childhood. For example, some autistic people have some sort of comfort item whether it’s a stuffed animal, a pen, etc. Let’s say there are two children playing together. One is autistic and named Chris and the other is Sam who is not autistic. Chris has a teddy bear that is their comfort item, but Sam wants to play with it. Sam reaches to grab the teddy bear, but Chris pulls away and says “No! My bear!”. Sam tries to grab their bear again anyway. Sam and Chris’s parents see what is going on and tries to intervene. Chris’s parent says “Chris, you need to not be selfish and let Sam have a turn with the bear.” and takes the bear away from Chris and gives it to Sam. Chris begins to have a meltdown because they don’t have their comfort item, but Chris’s parent says “You’ll get your bear back after Sam has played with it.” Chris’s parent violated Chris’s boundaries with their bear and taught Chris that they shouldn’t have their boundaries respected by not noticing that Chris was trying to communicate that their boundaries weren’t being respected through their meltdown. What Chris’s parent should have done was ask Chris “Is it ok if Sam plays with your bear for a little while?” and, if Chris said “No.”, then Sam’s parent should have told Sam “Chris doesn’t want you play with their bear, and that’s ok. How’s about we find you something different to play with?” This not only teaches the autistic person to set their own boundaries, but it also teaches others to respect the boundaries of autistic people.

TL;DR: In short, Autistic people can and should respect boundaries, and non-autistic people can and should communicate those boundaries in a way that makes sense to the autistic person and expect the autistic person to respect those boundaries.

anonymous said:

fave lgbtqpia tumblrs?

In no particular order:

projectqueer

transqueermediaexchange

unspeakablevice

fuckyeahlesbianliterature

bisexual-books

queerbookclub

bihistorygroup

bimagazine

gaywrites

dearnonacepeople

bad-pan-defs

pansexualfacts

beyondthebinaryuk

fandomsandfeminism

bi-colours

queermediarepresentation

lgbtlaughs

lgbtqblogs

tipsfortransfolks

fuckyeahintersex

therainbowhub

fuckyeahbiguys

anagnori

genderfork

genderoftheday

bi-characters

bisexualpoc

queermuseum

queerpublichistory

harmonyinkpress

riptidepublishing

bicommunitynews

autostraddle

originalplumbing

lgbtballetpride

This is the ones we could think of, we’ll add more when we’ve had a bit of a think, thanks for asking.

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LGBTQ* Ally Cookies and Ally Rules

Dear Piers Morgan: How To Be An Ally 

from GayWrites.org’s creator, Camille.

Camille, the creator and moderator of Tumblr’s GayWrites as well as AskGayWrites, is a site you I (Rebecca) will stand up for as one of my favorites on Tumblr. It is well sourced, researched, and like many blogs, Camille puts endless hours of her own time into the large project that is GayWrites.org.

Check her out! And, If you feel inclined, subscribe to her YouTube Channel.

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New video! This week, I’m talking about Crystal Bowersox, Alan Cumming, bisexual erasure, and why it all matters.

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Yes. This. So much this.

I’m proud to be mentioned in this essay. It is so important, I think, to call out ignorance when it affects children. Unknowing parents, looking for advice, might end up inflicting deep, emotional scars on their gender non-conforming children. Thank you gaywrites.

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LGBTQ* Videos You (May Have) Miseed

Gay Writes's Camille's Bi Erasure (Pt.3)

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Finally, a new video! A couple months back, I talked about how the media is generally awful at covering bisexual issues. Today, I’m talking about how that’s affected me — particularly the reasons why I sometimes call myself “gay” instead of “bi.” 

fairytales for gay youth: A boy and the color pink

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There once was a boy
named Abel,
a boy who
liked the color pink.

This boy was raised 
on a farm
and hard labor was 
nothing new to him.
He worked hard
for his Ma and Pa,
even helping to raise
his brothers and sisters.

One day this boy
went to the market
to pick up only a few things,
but while there he saw
a beautiful silk pink hanky.

He bought the hanky
and took it home to
show his Ma and Pa
how wisely he had
spent his earnings,

His Ma and especially his Pa
was not pleased at all,
"Pink is for girls,
not for boys.”
And with that the hanky
was thrown into the fireplace.

After that the boy never
mentioned or bought
anything else pink into the house.

Two years have pasted
and the Abel is now
16 years of age,

He sits under a willowtree
whose flowers always bloom pink,
and it is there that another boy,
by the name of Timothy arrives.
The Timothy only smiles
handing Abel a pink hanky,
then rushes away.

Ever since that day
the two boys secretly meet
under that willow,
and under that willow sometimes
there is talking, laughing,
and even silence.

Two more years have pasted
and in the dark of night
rocks hit Abel’s window.
Abel pokes his curious head
out of the window
sighting Timothy below.

"Timothy! Ma and Pa
will be furious for that
rock throwin’ you doing”

"Abel I’ve come to steal
you away!”

Abel only got silent.


|d.R.r.|
"Timothy what are you
talking about?”

Timothy gets a ring
out of his pocket.
The ring is a simple
gold band but has
a single beautiful
pink diamond.

"Abel, I have been saving
coins since the day I met
you to buy a ring this fine;
I knew since the first day
I would marry you-
Will you marry me Abel?”

It only took Abel seconds
to answer and be out of
the window.

They rode in the darkness
of night;
Abel latched on to Timothy’s back,
to the next town over,
there they were secretly married.

Upon marrying Abel realized
that Timothy had already bought
a home and land just for this day.
Abel kissed Timothy
tears down his cheeks.

"I love you." they said in unison.

They stepped into their
marital home,
and lived

happily ever after.


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LGBTQ* Blogs and Vlogs You Might Dig

Camille is the creator and moderator of Tumblr’s GayWrites as well as AskGayWrites

Make sure you check out her Year in Review and if you feel inclined, subscribe to her YouTube Channel.

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New video, finally! My beautiful girlfriend Kaitlyn and I talk about femme invisibility, or being overlooked in the queer community because of how you look. Bonus topics include catcalling, “looking gay,” gender performance, superpowers, and so much more. Let me know what you think, and don’t forget to subscribe on YouTube

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