I heard a lot about this recently. It seems true for me, at least… earlier I was upset over some miniscule thing with my gf and it felt like my heart was ripping in half. I wanted to crawl under a table and never come out again, or roll around until it stopped aching.
Theory is, contrary to popular belief: AS individuals feel things so strongly they often shut down as a defense mechanism.
I have no source other than word-of-mouth from professionals I have lots of faith in. So if someone has a source I’d love to read it pf.
Now before someone jumps down my throat for this; its not that I don’t care. Its that I don’t show it, and going to a funeral would be a DISASTER.
I feel very bad for her, and for everyone who knew the deceased, and I imagine it is a terrible loss. But I’ve never been inclined to cry when someone else is, hugging people is painful, and I’m not very good at offering sympathetic words. I want to try and fix things when problems and painful emotions arise, and as I am not Jesus, I can not fix this problem so I tend to recover from it much faster.
And its hard to explain to people that you’re not a sociopath for just standing there and staring at them awkwardly while they mourn.
Thank god my girlfriend understands this. I hope everyone gets as lucky as I have.