friendly-advice

melinda45doc asked:

Hey Marc, friendly advice, you might want to turn off your ask in addition to staying off Twitter when 3x12 airs. It's gonna get real crazy.

Oh, don’t I know it…

You Don't Owe Anyone Your Friendship

Do not allow people who are anything less than positive, supportive or encouraging to occupy space in your life that could be used for people that genuinely care about you. People treat you how you allow them to treat you; if you feel like the friend that is always compromising, always reaching out to the other, always apologizing when you’ve done nothing wrong, you need to let your “friend” know how much this bothers you. And although no one deserves to be treated like crap, you are enabling their shitty behavior by not speaking up. Do not allow yourself to avoid “confrontation” because you are afraid of being alone or losing your “friend”. If they are your real friend, when you speak up about your hurt feelings, they will apologize and change. And if they do not apologize or change, but walk out of your life, then really they weren’t your friend in the first place.

Do not allow people to walk all over you. This doesn’t mean you have to be mean or rude or unkind; it just means standing firm in understanding your value and your worth as a good friend. You are caring and kind, almost to a fault; spend that time on people who are worth it. Do not feel pressured into silencing yourself. Your feelings are real and your concerns are valid. Speak up because you deserve to be heard.

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These harmonies send shivers down my spine.

WHOA THERE!

DASH POLICE- I’m gonna need you to pull over, pal. Do you know how fast you were scrolling? You were going a solid twenty posts per minute in a strictly ten posts per minute zone. That’s no good, buddy, no good at all.

Now I’m gonna let you off with a warning, but remember to slow it down, take some time to reblog, like a few posts, maybe add your opinion on something. Just remember not to tag your hate, and don’t go being an asshole. Think before you talk out your ass. Stop and smell those hipster posts now and again, and take a break to use the bathroom, get a snack, stretch, maybe go outside and get some fresh air.

Oh and, one more thing, before you keep scrolling.

You look great, and if I wasn’t a strict professional, I’d ask to touch your butt.

Carry on, friend.

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LITTLE LEYTON THINGS • Lucas’s Edition
Lucas’s jealousy for any guy who came close to his precious Peyton

Imagine your favourite characters sitting in a circle playing truth or dare. The two most competitive in the room start a dare war with each other and it gets hilariously out of hand.

YEARS AND YEARS OF PEOPLE LITERALLY PLAYING WITH HIS BRAIN WHAT WITH THE BRAINWASHING AND WIPING HIS MEMORIES OVER AND OVER AND ALL IT TOOK WAS ONE MENTION OF HIS NAME FROM THE MOUTH OF HIS CHILDHOOD BEST FRIEND AND EVERYTHING CAME UNDONE i just please just leave me *curls in a ball and cries forever*

Things you think are compliments but are not compliments!

Wow, isn’t it great you know a writer or artist or glassblower who has let you see their work? Yeah. Okay, here’s the thing: sometimes it’s really hard to know what to say. Do you want to be brutally honest in a way that helps? Do you want to tell them the absolute truth about what you mean? Do you want them to feel good about themselves? Do you want to politely hint at something?

Whatever you say, you want it to be taken the way you meant, right? After all, it’s easy to tell whether you’re giving a compliment or an insult. This is not intended to hurt anyone’s feelings, just to let you know that those things you think are helping build people up? Might not be doing exactly that…

Here are just a few things that you probably think are compliments, but artist/writers/yodelers generally do not enjoy hearing: 

  • "UGH THIS IS SO GOOD IT MAKES ME NEVER WANT TO DRAW/WRITE/BASKETWEAVE AGAIN!"
  • alternatively, “THAT’S, I QUIT, I’LL NEVER DRAW/WRITE/BREW BEER AGAIN”
  • or, “KILLS SELF BECAUSE THIS IS SO GOOD AND I WON’T ACHIEVE THAT!!!”

What you mean: “I BELIEVE YOU TO BE BETTER THAN ME. YOU ARE GOOD.”
What they hear: The artist/writer/french-braider feels really uncomfortable and is uncertain about ever showing you their work ever again. What if they hurt your feelings? What if, worse still, they’re responsible for you not doing the thing you love? Ouch, no one wants to be responsible for that.

  • "I read/watched/saw/absorbed something just like that!"
  • or, “Oh my god, like in Star Wars?”

What you mean: “This is so great it reminds me of another great thing!”
What they hear: “You’re unoriginal.”

  • "I don’t even like this kind of thing, and I liked this!"
  • aka, “Wow, I usually hate science fiction, but I loved your story about gay space pirates!”
  • or “I’ve never been drawn to alchemy and I don’t know anything about it, but the way you turn lead into gold is really something special!”

What you mean: “Your writing/drawing/shotputting is so amazing, it was able to capture my heart when everything else in the genre had failed!”
What they hear: “Better than the rest of that garbage I hate.”

  • "I found very few mistakes!"
  • or, “I’m very nitpicky, but there wasn’t anything wrong with this!”
  • SIDENOTE: THIS DOES NOT APPLY IF THE ARTIST/WRITER/FIRE-JUGGLER ASKED FOR CRITIQUE, BETA READING, OR EDITING HELP.

What you mean: “This is flawless, and I’m not just saying that to be nice!”
What they hear: “I was looking for reasons to tear this down. I may or may not have actually enjoyed the experience.” 

Those are just a few off the top of my head. Again, not trying to say that these are bad things to say: just be aware of how they come across! Obviously my reactions aren’t the same as everyone on the planet, but I’ve chosen things that I’ve heard other writers/artists/smelters mention as well.

Pag nagmahal ka, hindi mo kailangan ng opinyon ng ibang tao sa taong mahal mo.

——YAN ANG LAGI NIYONG TATANDAAN. Dahil at the end of the day, hindi naman sila ang makikisama dun sa taong mahal mo, kundi ikaw naman. :)