I have this debate with myself (and friends) all the time… When it comes to online dating, what is most important? Is it the pictures? The “About Me?” Combination of both? Or is it your “screen name” that first sparks someone’s interest.
I still haven’t figured out the answer, but last night I decided to give my online dating profile a little facelift (including a new screen name) to see what happens.
Last week I had a date. I met him through Tinder, and we made a plan for drinks. Strike one with this guy was the location he picked. A dive beer bar on 2nd Avenue. Strike two with this guy is that he isn’t gainfully employed. Rather he does a little bit of this and a little bit of that. Strike three… No attraction in person. When I went home, I called my mom to tell her about the date and when she heard he “freelances” her immediate reaction was “Bye-bye, no 401K.” I cracked up laughing because I thought the same thing. For years my parents and their friends always joke with me that when I meet someone I should ask, “So what percentage do you put into your 401K?” I would never do that, but on a few occasion I’ve thought maybe I would just so see what reaction I would get.
I pride myself on having my own 401K, granted I should be adding more to it but I do what I can. To test out my theory on what men really notice on dating profiles, I changed my name last night to “IHaveA401K.” When I told two of my friends they fell to the ground laughing. My parents cracked up. And I simply found it amusing and curious to see what the response would be.
My name has been approved and now I have to wait and see if I get any traction. I’ll be sure to keep you posted!