feminisms

anonymous asked:

Damn little boobs suck

wanna know what sucks? ur attitude pal!

SMALL BOOBS ARE GREAT

BIG BOOBS ARE GREAT

BOOBS WITH STRETCH MARKS ARE GREAT

BOOBS WITH LITTLE NIPPLES ARE GREAT 

BOOBS WITH BIG NIPPLES ARE GREAT

BOOBS THAT ARE UN EVEN OR 2 DIFFERENT SIZES ARE GREAT

ALL BOOBS ARE GREAT

Conversation at my boyfriend's family Christmas Dinner
  • *little baby cousin running around in his fab fairy costume*
  • Uncle:(to his mom) Why do you let him do that? He is going to be messed up when he is older.
  • Mom:Yeah, he isn't, he just hangs out with all the girls on the street! He loves dress up!
  • Uncle:But if you keep letting him dress like that you'll turn him gay!
  • Boyfriend:You don't turn gay.
  • Uncle:...
  • Boyfriend:And even if you did, it's not a bad thing.
  • Uncle:So you're telling me if your son dressed like that, you wouldn't be mad?
  • Boyfriend:No, actually. I would take him to the store and buy him his favourite dress there!
  • I don't think I could possibly love him more.
Growing pains;

Every year since I graduated high school, the group of womxn I used to hang out with (otherwise known as my “best friends” at the time) reunite over an adorably bougie, OC tea party. Every year, it’s the same: I arrive 35-40 minutes late, present for gift exchange in hand, and excited to see my friends after a year of new experiences to share. This year, however, was very different for me.

Unfortunately (or fortunately depending on your take), each year since I started college has been more challenging than the next; I would consider 2014 to be one of the most difficult and rewarding years of my life. I finally feel myself ceasing some of the characteristics of the humxn I want to be and developing myself further. I’m imperfect and I’m okay admitting it.

I’m empowered by the strength in owning my mistakes and learning from them. I’m liberated by the consciousness I’ve had the privilege to have been afforded. I’m happy being me, for the first time in a long time.

Initially, I thought this year’s tea party would provide the same comfortable routine as previous years. To my naive surprise, I quickly realized how uncomfortable I really felt in that space. Out of the 12 womxn around me, I was 1 of only 3 womxn of color, 1 of us is differently-abled, and none of us are openly identified as queer (and if we did, that might start a gossip shit-storm).

Every bigoted comment drew a searing pain in my gut. These womxn were everything to me when I was a teenager; the once revered image I had of their boundless intellect and empowered nature was tarnished by their “anti-feminism” and “all lives matter” banter. The condescending conspiracies about “radicals” manufacturing the existence of white supremacy or toxic masculinity for their own critiquing pleasure made me nauseous.

How could I have grown to realize that I am a pawn of an oppressive, exploitive system that my “friends” live to reinforce?

There are few things more disheartening than reuniting with friends of eight years only to realize that you are meeting them again for the first time. Only now, you are a different persxn, one with critical thinking skills and a low tolerance for close-mindedness, meeting people you always knew, eloquent in their ignorance and complacency. Only now, you are rudely awoken to the color-blindly racist, misogynistic monster you used to seek validation from. 

Though I spent most of my life trying to assimilate to the parameters of their comfort, they never sought to understand me. 

anonymous asked:

Hi (iloveyou) I've recently been bothered by this so, how did you handle situations where someone makes a sexist comment about "women being doctors"? I plan on pursuing primary care and I've had my share of people giving me comments like "shouldn't you be into babies?" or "Oh you gonna be one of them 'women doctors'?" I usually just smile and then rant about it on tumblr later. I live in a very conservative area so I'm expecting this will continue, but, how do you deal with these situations?

I don’t know what “woman doctor” is supposed to mean. At least in the derogatory sense in which some people use it. I live in a very conservative area too, and I get these comments occasionally, but I think they come mostly from ignorance rather than any maleficence. 

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I don’t understand why with doctors we have to specify by saying ‘lady doctor’. Do we say “lady teacher” or “lady senator” or “lady lawyer”? It doesn’t make any sense to me. 

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So when you get these comments from people, kindly escort them into the 21st century. 

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How bout respond with something along the lines of, “What is a woman doctor? I am a woman, and I am a doctor. And I am a doctor who takes care of women.” If you’re feeling particularly ballsy you can add,  ”as a primary care doctor I am a woman doctor and a baby doctor and a man doctor and an old people doctor and an ignorant sexist people doctor too.” Take ownership of the term and make it your own. Then throw it back on them and make them think about what they say.

Then go about your lady doctoring. 

SEND A LETTER TO TUMBLR STAFF TO END ANON HATE.

THIS IS SERIOUSLY GETTING OUT OF HAND. and not just because my fandom has been affected recently. It happens to everyone, everywhere on the internet and somehow it needs to end.

MESSAGE TUMBLR STAFF

POLITELY REQUEST FOR ANONYMOUS MESSAGING TO BE REMOVED

LET THEM KNOW ITS GONE TO FAR

There has to be reasonable people behind the running of this website. If they can see what is happening I don’t believe, even for a second, that this is what they’d want there site to be known for. We’re already known as a pretty crappy part of the internet for a lot of dumb reasons, this doesn’t need to be added to the list.

DO IT NOW. NO TIME TO WASTE. MAYBE 2015 CAN BE THE START OF A HATE FREE INTERNET AND WORLD.

Most feminists ‘believe that because they are feminists they cannot be racists.’ Euro-American feminists, like all liberals, sooner or later, have come to the point at which they are willing to ‘acknowledge that racism exists, reluctantly of course, but nobody admits to being a racist’… [White] feminists need to understand that as long as they refuse to recognize that oppressive power-over is an intrinsic element of their racism/ethnic prejudice, they will continue to do violence to feminism.
—  Ada Maríz Isasi- Díaz from “Mujerista Theology” on White Feminists. (via la-mujerista)