It’s tempting to believe that this online row – a toxic combination of misinformation, anger and anxious masculinity – is just about one specific technology industry’s subculture, or that it will blow over. But by labeling Gamergate a “gaming problem” and attaching a hashtag to it, we’re putting unnecessary boundaries around a broader but nebulous issue: threats and harassment are increasingly how straight white men deal with a world that no longer revolves exclusively around them.

There is a toxic question that surrounds abused women: “why didn’t she just leave him?”

The answer, too often, is that many women that do leave get killed.

“The thing that I did not know that was so revealing to me was that anywhere between 50% and 75% of domestic violence homicides happen at the point of separation or after [the victim] has already left [her abuser],” says Cynthia Hill, director of HBO’s Private Violence.

“When I met Kit Gruelle, she would always point out: ‘Estranged husband. Ex-husband. Ex-boyfriend. Estranged boyfriend.’ It was always that she had tried to leave. She had done exactly what we think they’re supposed to do and she dies. And her children die.”

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Fucking preach.

Mercy, huh. Reeva Steenkamp is dead. At the hands of her abuser. Did he show mercy when he shot her to death? Yet we are expected to show mercy in terms of his sentencing. Ok. I get it.

You know what “message” this sentencing could have sent to “the community?” That women’s lives matter.

Instead, what we’ve learned (and what we’ve learned time and time again) is that men’s lives matter, men’s careers matter, men’s reputations matter, men’s money and power matters… And that women’s lives are irrelevant.

Reeva Steenkamp is gone, and Pistorius will continue on. What’s five years, after all? Five years that he likely won’t even serve in full?

The message is that men can get away with murder. Particularly when the victim is a woman.

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A Bevy Of Famous Ladies Sing Along To This 50-Year-Old Classic. Wow. This Song Is Magic.

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