Also, people automatically assume that since they are ~different~ (this includes race, gender, minority, etc.) they get to DICTATE how other people feel. “you don’t have it as bad as you think.”
That attitude is really toxic. Like, I have dealt with learning disabilities most my life, and bad anxiety, so I try not to assume I had anything bad, naturally. Yet, people would dictate how they talk to me based on that. “Oh but Connor, you’re a cis-white-male, how can you even talk? You probably have it WAY better!” Because everyone equally talked to me like I was stupid and not worth their time. My parents begged my first boss for a job for me, pretty much, since I was too nervous to do it on my own.
The reason this attitude is toxic is because you’re doing what those you hate do. By telling other people “They don’t have it as bad” because of a preconceived idea that only the minorities get to have hardships and pain, which is a really nasty and gross opinion by the way, you’re kind of reversing the flow of things.
Yes, women should fight for their rights, yes, gays should too, and trans, and asexuals, and all genders and orientations and minorities can do that, it’s all acceptable and perfectly okay.
Just don’t tell me that I don’t have it as bad or close to you. It’s disgusting and honestly, you’re telling me I am not allowed to feel. I’m not allowed to think. What? Because perhaps my race or society as a whole has oppressed you? My own society and/or RACE has cast me out as a stupid idiot on MULTIPLE OCCASIONS. It took me FOREVER to talk to people without them talking down on me. I never show the fact anymore that I went through elementary, middle, and high school in a special ed program. Because people change their tone in their voice, they change their expression, they show that “Oh, I’m talking to one of THOSE people.”
and I honestly hate that. I hate being treated special. Sometimes I can have exceptions, like when I’m having an anxiety or panic attack, but most of the time, no. I hate it.
Sorry, little rant there, but I hope ya’ll get me.