I feel like some people really need to stop going ‘Well, Felicity has never said I love you.’ and start asking ‘Why hasn’t Felicity ever said I love you?’
Somethings to consider:
Felicity was abandoned by her father. A fact that apparently has taken a big toll on her and her mother. A good example of the effect this had on her is her reaction to Cooper’s ‘death’ at the end of her flash backs. She made herself over completely, possibly revealing that part of her goth phase stemmed from trying to be what she thought she needed to be so he’d stay. She’s a chameleon when she wants to be. Felicity used to count cards in casinos in Vegas, she’s a good actress.
We’re clearly seeing something similar with Ray seeing as a lot of people have stated that it feels like Felicity is acting out of character. Hint, she is. Not completely, but on occasion, a little.
For 5 years, Felicity thought Cooper committed suicide because he couldn’t handle being in prison and to her she was part of the reason he was in prison. That’s some pretty heavy shit ok.
Felicity met Oliver when she was being completely herself. Honestly, for the longest time she thought she never had a shot with him and given his past (pre island) she probably didn’t really want it. He was a player to her knowledge, but he was nice to her and eye candy and a crush formed and then she was let in on the secret. Which, of course, changed a lot of stuff. She and Oliver got to know each other and an extremely deep bond was formed and yeah, it’s clear to a lot of people with eyes that her crush turned to love much faster than Oliver’s feelings did because she was never really trying to avoid it. To Felicity her emotions come to her as easily as breathing. She’s very self aware and emotionally intelligent, much more so than Oliver is. She just never thought anything was gonna happen. I mean, Oliver wasn’t exactly doing anything about their tension and she never made her feelings clear either, for a lot of reasons including the fact that she was there for end of season one Lauiver and then Oliver leaving. She knows when bad things happen, Oliver shuts down, he stops everything because he blames himself (look at the s3 premiere, it’s exactly what happened).
When Oliver said ‘I love you.’ HE WAS HANDING HER THE SYRINGE AT THE SAME TIME. Please do not forget this. He may have felt and he may have meant it and it showed, but he was more or less asking her if he could use her as a tool in his battle with Slade. This is why I really wish the ‘There aren’t any cameras around this time.’ wasn’t cut. I don’t think she was in on the plan until that moment, I know others do but I’m not in that camp, and if she was, they didn’t practice it with an ‘I love you.’ To her, even if he meant it, he was still saying it with an ulterior motive.
And Felicity blatantly asked Oliver if he meant what he said and he didn’t say yes or no, he gave her a silent maybe with a smile. Then they go on a date and he gives her an amazing speech that ends up being another maybe. Maybe, maybe, maybe. Their kiss, while I love it, is just another maybe. I think it’s been pointed out that during season two, Oliver would always just say these things and then just…walk away. Like, he blows hot and cold with her a lot, he always has and he still is. And she literally warned him, if he said what she knew he was going to, she was ending it for good. What the hell is she supposed to do when he’s standing there saying they can’t be together one moment and kissing her the next and then saying he loves her backwards?! What is she supposed to do with things like ‘And you know how I feel about her.’ when an episode later she has to listen to him say that he can never be with anyone. Guys, this is literally the definition of mixed signals.
And most importantly, she asked him to let her go, she’s not going to say I love you because there isn’t any reason for her too, she’s doing literally exactly what she told Oliver she’d do if he ended it. Yes, Felicity is in pain, she’s in pain every damn day because, just as Diggle said, the only way she and Oliver are going to be truly happy and truly themselves is if they’re together. But they aren’t together, Oliver made sure of that. There may have been a time, if the date hadn’t ended the way it did and the hospital scene didn’t happen, when she could’ve said it, but Oliver made sure the opportunity never presented itself.
Felicity is trying to move on because the alternative is waiting and watching and listening until the day she has to see him die because he’s yet to tell her that he wants more than that.
A relationship is a two way street and Oliver can’t just stand there saying one thing while doing another. This is pretty much what he learned at the end of 3x07. He screwed up, he knows it and now he’s facing the consequences. And Felicity isn’t a machine that’s going to spew back ‘I love you’s every time Oliver says something heartfelt, that’s not how it works. She been hurt before, Oliver’s hurt her, she’s not just going to open herself up to more pain than she’s already feeling based on words that’ll be made meaningless the next time Oliver tells the world he has to go it alone.
You can still be in love with someone without saying the words.
You can still care for someone even if you have to distance because you’re hurting emotionally.