ending-friendships

I’m 10000% done with the “person feels irreparably betrayed and ends friendship when bff doesn’t tell them everything ever” trope. It seems to be super common in DC’s TV universe, sadly. For reals, though, Iris West needs to sit the fuck down and shut the fuck up, because Barry isn’t obligated to tell her a goddamn thing about his life and guilt-tripping him about his decision to be an individual and have secrets is a shitty thing to do. That the perpetrators of this bullshit are often female is just misogynistic scum icing on the shit cake, too.

anonymous asked:

okay, what if my boyfriend broke up with me bc he "didn't love me anymore as a girlfriend" but he wanted to keep our friendship because im like family to him? I want to get over him bc he doesn't love me anymore but I want him back so badly. I'm still stuck on him. We still talk each other, he even hugs me and helps me with anything. But he also hangs out with a lot of girls. I don't even know if it hurts to him, or if he cares about what happened or if he even cared when we were dating. advice?

I’m going to tell you something that a lot of people don’t hear, you do not have to be friends with him if it hurts. YOU DO NOT OWE HIM FRIENDSHIP JUST BECAUSE A ROMANTIC RELATIONSHIP DIDN’T WORK OUT ♡ 

He broke up with you, so he doesn’t get to decide when you’re friendship starts / ends – that’s totally up to you. With that being said, if right now you’re hurting being around him, then take a step back and give yourself time to heal. A relationship is rarely a switch that is easily turned off so don’t feel like you have to be like “oh welp he doesn’t want a relationship, dim the relationship light, flip on the friendship one!” no, you do you my friend! 

Just because he hugs you and helps you doesn’t mean that it’s really really helping you tho ♡ I think that you need to take a lil break from your ex boyfriend, give yourself time to heal and then reevaluate the friendship option because right now, it’s hurting not helping. But just keep in mind that he doesn’t get to decide that you two stay friends, that is totally up to you ♡

anonymous asked:

I saw a video of Siwon meeting Hangeng at an event in China on instagram. I just hope one day the members will be able to meet Luhan// Kris too, one day.

Oh definitely. I’m the one to believe just because they left a company it does not mean their friendship ends just like that. These guys had a bond together so definitely when they see each other I know they will be able to smile and shake hands together. Just like Kris and Luhan. Luhan and Lay.

oh-snap-teagan asked:

alright so just tell me what you would do in the situation: you have a best friend for, uhm, 15 years. but the person is now different, fake. you think it's time to end the friendship, but you now he/she is already depressed, her parents are divorced and her grandpa just died as well. on the day you finally get the courage, she tells you that her dog had died and her brother is going into the army. you know that she will still be fake but u dont want to hurt her. sry 4 drama and unrealistic 😂

Okay well I don’t think I’d end a 15 year friendship, I’d talk it out with them and see where it goes. I wouldn’t wanna leave a friend after so long and especially if they’re going through such hard times and are in need of me :-)

Confession

Do you sometimes feel like you don’t deserve good things to happen in your life just because you are simply shitty? Insecure, weak, annoying, moody, unsocial, depressed. You can smile and trick your mind that the “fake” happiness is “real”. Still…you need someone who will just slap you in the face for stupid thoughts which you know aren’t true, although you’re convinced that’s how it suppose to be.
I can’t open up and if I do, it’d take me ages and I’d fuck it up. There was no time in my life that at some point I’d totally fucked up my relation with people. I had to end so
many “friendships”, I had to apologise for my stupid behaviour, I had to beg. What seems to be the problem is that I’m aware of it…of my insecurity, lack of responsibility, avoidance of engagement, but I don’t know how to help it. I’m so scared that I would look funny and weak to people.
I’m extremely scared of people’s opinions…especially people who I care about. Every time I try to hide it, pretend I don’t think about it, ignore thoughts and feelings, but it’s simply impossible. I lost many things and relations, just because it’s difficult to explain myself. I don’t want to do that, I do not want to explain myself. Therefore I decided to stay alone, so I’d not have to change myself. I’d have to deal with my complicated self lonely. Stay weird.

anonymous asked:

When do you know that it's time to end a friendship?

When they contribute nothing but anxiety, stress, sadness, or all of the above to your daily life ♡ if you two don’t get along anymore or they turn violent / emotionally abusive towards you ( like manipulative or just nasty towards you) then it’s time to end the friendship. Don’t treat people like queens if they treat you like a doormat. 

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online & answering your questions, ask away ♡

ashadeofpemberley asked:

UnlikelyFriendship!Rumple- Do you think you might ever become friends with Belle? She seems to be very fond of you...

Friends? She seems to think that we are friends, but in my experience friendships usually end with a lot of backstabbing. Still, Belle is…unique. I can’t imagine her ever doing anything like my friends have done in the past. I wouldn’t say I am for of her, more…intrigued. She’s very beautiful and brave, how could I not be fascinated. Don’t tell her I said that.

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David Tennant Appreciation Week: Day Five

↳ Favourite Friendship: David Tennant & Billie Piper

“Fortunately we get along. We all get along, and we need to,                           really, because it’s long months and it’s quite intense and we’re shooting 13-hour days. You’re thrown together all the time.I feel like I’ve made a friend for life.” –Billie Piper on David Tennant

“I properly love Billie, she’s a great friend, and a fantastic actress. She’s got that magical thing that you can’t quite bottle, and before I was on the show she was a huge reason of why it worked.” –David Tennant on Billie Piper

Just because we don’t talk anymore doesn’t mean that I’ve forgoten about you. It doesn’t mean that I no longer care. Truth is, I still do. I do my best to check up on you, to see how you’re doing. To see if you’re okay, but every time I get the urge to talk to you, it suddenly hits me that, we’re strangers, you don’t want me in your life, that’s the reason I’m no longer a part of your life. But, even though everything changed, I just want you to know that, I’m still here. I’ll still be here for you, I’ll still lend you my shoulders and ears. I don’t care what time it is, what I’m doing. Don’t hesitate to talk to me, because half the time, I wish you were talking to me. I just really miss your presence, I miss, you being my best friend, I just miss you in general…