Fall In Love with Yourself First

By: Emilia

There’s a four letter word that we all know very well. With it’s absence we feel numb and with it’s presence we are either mad or madly insane (I don’t know which one is worse). Love is the core of all of our feelings and thoughts. Love is what keeps this world turning, even during tragedy.

As human beings we are taught from birth to behave inside people’s confines. We are not taught to be ourselves, but to act like ourselves. There are a few people in life who love every single detail about us, and those are the people who we can act silly around, cry our hearts out on, and sit incomplete silence with. Those are the people who settle into our hearts like dust on a bookshelf and stay with us until our last breath.

However, we humans do have many defects. Love does certain things to us that we cannot explain to other people or even to ourselves. We sometimes would like to lose ourselves in them rather than just be with ourselves solely. We drown ourselves in their unconditional love and whole existence, and envelope ourselves with their pure desire for us. When we do not like ourselves, we mask our ache with their love, and think that, that is acceptable.

Loving ourselves changes our perception of everything around us. Words can no longer belittle us and downgrade us; thoughts do not have the ability to destroy, torch, and obliterate our hearts; and other human beings are exactly that: just other human beings.

We search for relationships to make us happy, when really; we are the people who hold that key to happiness. We do not need a man or a woman to make our hearts flutter closer to our rib cage, to tell us that we look gorgeous when we are find ourselves unhappy in the bathroom mirror, or whisper to us how beautiful the day is  when we know it ourselves. You don’t need someone to tell you how great you are for you to be great.

There are many things you can do when you get yourself in a rut:

  • Put on makeup, buy yourself an expensive outfit, do your nails or get your nails done. And at the end of the day, wipe your makeup off, stare into your mirror with a wet face, and feel as beautiful as you did before you took it off. You deserve to feel as good about yourself as every other person in this universe does.
  • Surround yourself with beautiful, positive people. Have those kinds of nights where you forget to tweet about something, or take a picture of all the fun you are having. Be with people who make you forget you have a phone at all.
  • Be alone. Stay home one night with some great food and just relax. Count the stars in the sky, sleep in, and don’t forget to tell someone you love them. Do not believe the things you tell yourself so late at night. The world isn’t as complicated as you make it. 

Photographer: Emily Keenan

Knits

By: Emilia

 It’s cold outside. All I want to wear from now on are comfy sweaters and thick socks. I have to admit that winter is not only my favorite season because of the weather, but because of the clothes. Life is so easy on Saturday mornings when all I have to do is put on my favorite sweater and curl up under a soft blanket. The weather gets pretty chilly during the winter months, so if you’re in the same boat as I am, stay with me.  

Sweaters

I’m going to start out with my favorite clothing piece of all time: a nice, cozy sweater. When I was out winter shopping, my arms were getting a workout from all the chunky sweaters I had in my hands. I wanted to buy every sweater I saw. With sweaters, there’s no hard thinking the night before school as to what you’re going to wear the next day. I love to wear a long sweater over black tights and my favorite pair of boots. Some days I’ll wear a cropped sweater over a skirt and pair it with some lace up boots and socks. Sweater cardigans make life easy, too. Throw them over a long t-shirt and tights. Wear It with a neutral colored tank top and some skinnies. Knitted dresses are beautiful, also. You can pair a sweater dress with some tights and some boots, or if it’s not so brisk out, just wear it with some patterned socks and black boots. It’s professional enough for work and school, yet super comfy.

Some of my favorite sweaters: 1 2 3 4 5

Sweater cardigans: 1 2 3 4

Sweater dresses: 1 2 3 4 5

Socks

Socks pair well with neutral colored booties and keep you warm during the cold. Knee high socks look great when matched with knee-high boots, brown or black. Lace up boots are styled easily with some patterned socks, peeking through just the top of your shoes. Roll down your socks a bit to accommodate ankle booties. You can also wear socks over black leggings or sheer tights.

A few of my favorite socks: 1 2 3 4 5 6 7

Scarves

Bad hair days are the norm for me, I don’t know about you guys. I usually end up putting my hair in a high pony tail or simple bun when it doesn’t want to cooperate. However, I feel like I’m missing something when I put my hair up. So, I throw on a scarf before I leave my house. My closet consists of neutral colored scarves, easy to pair with any outfit.

Some scarves: 1 2 3 4 5 6

Mittens/Gloves

It’s a must to keep your hands from freezing off during the winter. Whether you’re being goofy with your friends or family in the snow, or can’t bare the breeze from your work or school to your car, gloves are super important.

A few gloves to keep you warm: 1 2 3 4 5

Headwear

I’m not much of a beanie fan myself, but when it get’s cold, I need something to keep my ears warm! So on the beanie goes, and suddenly my ears don’t feel like ice anymore.

A few things to wear on your head this winter: 1 2 3 4 5

Blankets

Lastly, something to cuddle up in bed with. I love to wrap myself in a warm blanket after a cold day outside and have a cup of tea on my night stand. A good book would definitely top it all off and off to sleep I go. Do any of you guys love these kinds of nights? They are so magical to me.

Heavenly blankets: 1 2 3 4 5

I hope you all have had a great winter so far and this year, treat yourself to soft things and stay warm. Wherever the sun is out, I hope maybe you could wear a few of these items. If not, hope everything is well over in the sunny parts of our world. Happy new year x

Photographer: Juliette

Brighten Your School Day Blues

By: Emilia       

We all have different opinions on school. Although, lately I’ve only heard negative things about school. Even I have trouble rolling out of bed in the morning and stumbling to the bathroom without giving into that temptation of crawling back under the warm covers. Some of us hate having to eat breakfast so early while some of us despise having to search for a seat on the bus full of rowdy kids and grumpy classmates. School isn’t all terrible, though. Having friends and being able to see your crush makes things a lot better. Leaving for lunch to a fast food place or having some time at the end of the class to do nothing can change our day for the better. Again, it’s those little things that build up to huge moments. Here’s some tips to brighten your spirits during the week.

1. Make Friends or Talk to New People

This of course is a huge topic. Being able to connect with people who have the same interests that you have is a wonderful feeling. It’s okay to have a few friends or even one best friend. Somebody you can complain about school with and text stupid things to during class while the teacher isn’t looking can make school easier to bear. Don’t totally block yourself off from people. Actually having people you look forward to seeing everyday is vital. If you are having trouble finding people who interest you, join clubs or teams. Being in groups who have to work together to complete something quickly introduces yourself to other, and you kind of have to start to love them if you around them so much. When new kids enroll, try welcoming them and inviting them to sit with you and a group of friends at lunch. You know absolutely nothing about this new kid, so it’s nice to get to know someone with a fresh face.

2. Wear What You Love

What I wear and what you wear to school are probably two very different things. And that’s okay. You don’t have to dress up every day if you don’t want to – actually, you don’t have to dress up at all if you dislike putting in that effort. Throwing on sweats, nice shoes, maybe a shirt and a cardigan is so simple. You can even wear sweats and pull on a hoodie. It doesn’t matter. And if you love to wear skirts or dresses every day, then do so. It’s a terrible thing to worry about something so silly like an outfit while you’re in class. If you feel good in it, then that’s truly all that matters. If you go for comfort, then wear it in the best possible way. Be confident in whatever you wear, because there’s honestly so much more to worry about in school.

3. Create A Good Bond with Your Teacher

Nobody likes a kiss up or a teacher’s pet, but I’m not saying that’s what you have to be. If you find a teacher or professor interesting, raise your hand in class and talk to them after the bell rings. Don’t fake your relationship with teachers, just have a strong one. It is so much more comfortable to be in class with a teacher you aren’t afraid to talk to or make eye contact with. It’ll improve your work and make coming to class not such a burden. I’m one of those people who are super awkward and shy, especially towards teachers. I won’t lie, they intimidate me. I’ve noticed that the teacher’s I always ask questions to, answer problems for, or just say goodbye to when the bell rings are my most comfortable classes. Tell them good morning before class starts or wish them a good weekend on Fridays. Little things like that will make being in class not so tense and such a bore.

4. Have A Plan

Being organized is very beneficial as we’ve all heard. Our schedules are crazy, though. It’s hard to know what’s going on tomorrow and if you’ll even be free tomorrow night. Make a “kind of plan” in your head or if it’s easier, buy a nice planner and write it down. I usually think about what to do the next morning, like if I want to pack my lunch first or eat breakfast first. I think about after school and make plans to get my homework done by whatever time I think is best. I leave time to study and relax. Usually at 8 pm is when I try to leave time to chill, because I hate leaving homework for last minute. Honestly, If I’m able to finish my homework before 11 a few nights out of the week, I’m all good. This plan is not strict or a plan you have to go by. It’s just nice to know what you’re doing and when you’re doing it. It takes some stress off and lets me think about more important things.

5. DON’T STRESS

This is crazy. I must be absolutely mad for telling you not stress or even telling you that it’s possible. But it is. Honestly think about school for a bit. Take out all the negative things and realize how stress free it actually is. We make everything so complicated. Leaving things to the last minute is our fault, not our teacher’s. Studying for hours on end is something we tell ourselves we have to do. I’ve found that studying a few times in little time increments is the best way to study. At the end of the night, I read it over before going to sleep, and I do much better on tests then I do on tests I have studied two hours straight for. The amount of homework you have is insane, I know. But really, you have what you have. If you can’t change something, don’t get so stressed about it. As my anatomy teacher always says, “If you can’t do anything about it, there’s no reason to stress.” Let time do what time does. Do your best; because that’s all you have. Breathe deeply when you get stressed and while you’re feeling like setting fire to all your homework, remember what you’re working so hard for. Hang inspiration quotes around your room and a picture of your dream college. When you turn a paper in or complete a quiz, know that you’ve done everything in your power to do well on those assignments. Leave no room for regrets, because that’ll just create anxiety for next projects and homework assignments. You’ve done what you could and settling for your best, from what I’ve learned, is all you can do in high school. 

Photographer: Lee Ann