Gender ID not lining up with assigned Gender ≠ Gender Dysphoria.

Let me make this perfectly clear.

Gender Dysphoria is a condition that often coincides with the Trans experience.

Gender Dysphoria is 100% valid.
Gender Dysphoria can be distressing.
Gender Dysphoria can be uncomfortable. 
Gender Dysphoria can even be only mildly annoying.

Gender dysphoria is NOT IN ITSELF the experience of not identifying with your assigned gender.

There’s already a word for that: Transgender.

Gender dysphoria can be a symptom or consequence of the experience of being transgender, which is why it’s easy to confuse the two. 

There are people who aggressively believe and declare that in order to be trans you must also experience dysphoria, thus propagating that confusion. They mistake transgender identity for dysphoria, causing a rift in information, in understanding, and in the trans community. 

Gender Dysphoria is not the same as being trans. Please stop using this ideology to exclude people in our own community. 

- Aspen

I edited the 4th paragraph/section’s phrasing because it was equating anatamy with gender

— Emma

anonymous asked:

Is it weird that I feel guilty when my boyfriend is sexual with me..? I'm cis and he's trans so I don't really touch him or anything because that would probably trigger his dysphoria and make him hella uncomfortable. Idk if it's normal to feel guilty that I can't (for lack of a better phrase) "return the favor"

I don’t think you should exactly feel guilty about it. He honestly doesn’t have much control over it and I’m sure he hates that he’s not comfortable enough. The best thing to do in this situation is to talk to him about it. Ask him if he would be okay with you doing anything, ask what boundaries there are. ask before you do anything that may trigger his dysphoria. It’s important to be understanding and patient with him. It’s nothing personal regarding you…It’s all the shit in his head regarding his body. He may not be comfortable with it for a while, it’s something he will have to overcome. Work through it with him.  

-Blake (maliciouswolf)

Things NOT cool to say to a transguy

- *Uses birth name* “It’s okay though, because you haven’t actually started your transition.”

- *Uses female pronouns* “Well, you don’t look a guy yet.”

- “I was/ would have been proud to have a lesbian friend…”

- “So… Have you/ are you going to have the op?”

- “If you’re gonna be a guy, you better man up.”

- *In front of friends* “Well, you still have girl parts.”

Stop Glorifying Trans Kids Only After They Commit Suicide.
  • <p><b></b> It tells trans kids that they will only be recognized/remembered/loved/be seen as beautiful if they kill themselves. Yes! Please honor them! Yes! Remember these kids and do good things in their name but for god's sake STOP GLORIFYING CHILD TRANS SUICIDE.<p/><b></b> Please reach out to your trans peers and make sure they are not lonely and not invalidated because goddamn it can be scary and lonely to be young and trans. Please let them know that they aren't alone and that they have allies and that it's tough but they are tougher and they are beautiful and important. Please reach out to the trans people in your lives and let them know that they are loved -now- and -alive- and not just if they kill themselves.<p/></p>

Since I haven’t seen any posts describing what gender dysphoria actually is, I made this as an introduction to it, and how to help cope with it! PLEASE spread this, even if you aren’t gender dysphoric or transgender. This is very important information to educate people on!

If this information struck a chord with you and you want someone to talk to or have further questions, feel free to send a message to my inbox! There are also many advice/support blogs which can help you out.

Some further resources:

“That was dysphoria?” 8 signs and symptoms of indirect gender dysphoria

transgenderteensurvivalguide’s Trans + Nonbinary Flowchart

another list of some identities

a few alternative pronouns

a few masterposts with lots of resources! X X X X

two masterposts specifically for trans girls and women X X

masterpost for trans people of color and another one

Transgender Housing Network

The Leelah Project and Transgender Clothes Exchange on tumblr

my trans resources tag + my friend’s

Good Vibes!! + my trans positivity tag