Donor Conceived

I can’t help but worry that our children will grow up to resent us for using a sperm donor. I don’t want my children to grow up feeling lost, lonely and like something is missing in their life. My wife and I used a known donor but we don’t know him if that makes sense. All he told us is the basics, his first name(if thats his real name?) His eye colour, hair colour, and height and blood type. We know he’s jewish and is a practicing jew. We also know he lives in London and works at  University. He said he has a wife and 3 daughters that he fathers. He’s agree to not be part of the childrens upbringing and not be in the picture. Under Uk law he is not the father, he is the sperm donor and he has no legal rights to the children. We aren’t worried about that though. We know that he has donated to other couples although Im not sure how many that is or how many children were conceived. He does however have a facebook page for all the receipients that he donated to.

So its a good way to see who he donated to and their children (our childrens half siblings!) Shell is skepitcal about joining it, I want to, I want to keep in touch with these parents so maybe we have meet ups and our children can meet. I watched the video about donor children wanting to meet their siblings and how much they needed it and felt wonderful when they did meet up with their siblings. I don’t want to stop or get in the way of our children meeting their half siblings that are out there. Shell isn’t sure about it, but in all honestly she should put her feelings aside and let the children decide if they want to do the meet ups. I personally think its in their best interest to allow them.

I don’t want to make our children feel that having two moms wasnt good enough and that they didnt think of us both as their parents and not just the bio mom. See shell carried our daughter Dekayla and I carried our son Lennon and if we have more ill carry them to, we used the same donor so our children and future children are half siblings.It was important to us that our children be biologically related through the donor.

I am a little concerned though because I been reading a lot of post on tumblr of children conceived via sperm donor and they are all angry and feel like there is a void in their life. They don’t resent their mothers but they feel lost and lonely and like something is missing even if they grew up with two parents. They have the need to find their sperm donor who they refer to as dad or father.

They seem to be upset, mad and unhappy about being a donor conceived child. They feel like they need their father in their life, that they don’t know who they are and they need to find him to put the pieces together. I am worried that our children will feel that way, that they need their donor-father in their life and Im scared that I wont be enough for my non-biological daughter and that she wont think of me as a parent/mum. I just cant shake off all those post of children feeling lost and wanting their father. Also how they  hate fathers day and how much it effects them.

We love our children very much and we will allow them to contact their donor and help them find their half siblings. We will be honest and open from the begining and maybe some of those children wasn’t told about being conceived via sperm donor and they found out by accident or maybe their parents lied to them about it and they  found out.their dad isn’t their biological dad. There are so many factors to consider in why some of those children are so mad and feel the way they do. I know its natural to want to find your family and we wont stop our children, its the same for children who was adopted. They need to find their biological parents and siblings.

They still love their parents who raised them and their not trying to replace them but they have a need to find out who they are, where they come from. I would think its the same for children donor conceived. I am just so worried now after reading all the negativity post from children donor conceived. But who knows maybe our children won’t feel that way because they will be told from a young age they are donor conceived and we will talk about it like its no big secret or big deal and let them know they can find their donor and or siblings and we will help them. Maybe them knowing that we will be there for them wont make them so angry. Time will only tell I guess.

*Note: Not just lesbians/single women use sperm donors, straight couples use them to.

Former Ravens player give kidney to brother; a former Steeler

Chris and Ma’ake Kemoeatu are no strangers to winning tough battles. Ma’ake celebrated the 2013 world championship with the Baltimore Ravens and his younger brother Chris has two Super Bowl rings thanks to his stint with the Steelers.

But it was Chris’ failing kidney that forced the Hawaii natives to put their football careers on hold. Ma’ake—a perfect donor match—left the Ravens to help.

“Because I am the oldest of my younger siblings and I have to lead by example and take care of my younger brothers,” Ma’ake said.

“It has definitely brought us closer as brothers,” Chris said. “It’s really been a humbling experience for me to see him make this huge sacrifice for me.”

But before doctors could do the kidney transplant, there was a setback: tests discovered Chris needed heart surgery, as well.

“I had to talk to him in football aspects. Alright, it’s fourth and long right now. We thought we were going to get the first down but it’s fourth and long right now. We gotta go deep and he threw for a first down and made it through the heart surgery and got in the endzone and did the kidney surgery,” Ma’ake said.

Not only was Ma’ake the perfect match medically, University of Maryland Medical Center doctors say the brothers’ relatively comparable size made the match even better and the surgery went smoothly.

Though no longer officially a Raven, Ma’ake says Ravens management has been a huge support for the family throughout this tough ordeal.

Ma’ake did not rule out returning to football but both he and Chris say after all they’ve been through, they’re looking forward to returning to their family, the businesses they own and the charitable foundation they run in their home state of Hawaii.

Doctors say both brothers should be cleared to return home to Hawaii in about six weeks. (Photo: Amy Davis/Baltimore Sun)


iOS 8 offers you a new Emergency Contact option for the lock screen in the Health app.

Open the Health App and click Medical ID. You can fill out if you have any medical conditions or allergies & reactions that medical personnel need to know about, as well as your Organ Donor status, weight & height info, and most importantly: an emergency contact that they can call.

It works from the lock screen. Once you setup your ID card, from the passcode lock screen, they can tap emergency, then medical ID, and then you can put your emergency contact info there.

One of the confusing parts that I found was that to select a contact, you have to actually tap their number not just their contact card.

Pol this is fucked up

Scientists in Israel have demonstrated that it is possible to fabricate DNA evidence, undermining the credibility of what has been considered the gold standard of proof in criminal cases.

The scientists fabricated blood and saliva samples containing DNA from a person other than the donor of the blood and saliva. They also showed that if they had access to a DNA profile in a database, they could construct a sample of DNA to match that profile without obtaining any tissue from that person.

“You can just engineer a crime scene,” said Dan Frumkin, lead author of the paper, which has been published online by the journal Forensic Science International: Genetics. “Any biology undergraduate could perform this.”

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(as a curiosity I’ve found out about this while viewing an episode of Law&Order where someone tried to frame one of the protagonist for a crime using fabricated DNA. Sounded too conspiracy and fiction for me but looks like is fucking true :|


11 Questions from noctumsolis

  1. Rule 1: Always post the rules.
  2. Rule 2: Answer the questions the person who tagged you asked, then ask 11 new ones.
  3. Rule 3: Tag 11 people, then @-link them in the post.

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1. Are you excited by 3D printing? Why?

Yes! As an engineer who graduated right as 3D printing started being mentioned in our hallowed halls, I think it would’ve make my life significantly easier, especially with my senior design projects. 

Also, an alumna from my school made herself some rad shoes using 3D printing: 


On a more serious note, I’m really hoping that we can start using 3D printing to do things like manufacture replacement organs and eliminate or reduce the need to wait for donors to save lives. 

2. What’s your favourite style of traditional art?

I go nuts over folk art, guys. If you ever get a chance, go to The High Museum in Atlanta because they have my very favorite exhibit of folk art that I’ve seen today. There’s just something that I find endearing about the unpolished nature of folk art - it’s done because people want to create something for the sake of creating it. It’s an act of love created through resourcefulness and it speaks to me. 

3. Are you artistically inclined yourself?

Not really? I like to doodle at meetings and I do a little needlepoint here and there but for the most part I’m not trying to deal with or inspire affect with the things I do. 

4. Do you have any laboratory equipment in your home?

Not at the moment! I’d love to incorporate that into our home’s decor along with some antique maps - Klein bottles are especially pretty. Because I’m lazy and I spill stuff, I’d love to have a magnetic stirring plate. My old roommate had beakers that we drank beer from on occasion!

5. Do you craft?

When I get a wild hair to do so, yes! I like knitting a lot, plus a do some cross stitch here and there. 

6. What’s your favourite drink?

Ugggggh, dude.. this is a hard one. There isn’t just one, so I’m going to break it down here. 

Non-alcoholic: oreo shake from Chik-Fil-A

Beer: Creme Brulee from Southern Tier Brewing (closely followed by Samuel Smith’s Organic Chocolate Stout - it honestly tastes like chocolate milk to me)

Wine: Gewürztraminer

Straight Alcohol: Either Lagavulin 16 or Ardbeg Uigeadail, both neat

Mixed Drink: White Russian (put oreos in it somehow and we are gonna be besties) or an a shot of Bailey’s and Jameson dropped into a Guinness (I know it has a name, but I find it to be disrespectful so I don’t like using it) 

7. Would you come to my sci-fi party on the international space station?

Duh, of course. But only if you also use your unlimited monies to develop a time machine, go back and snag Ray Bradbury, and have him do some readings from The Martian Chronicles. 

If you can’t do that, I’ll still come. I hope you’ll have freeze dried guacamole!

8. What is the dominant colour of your wardrobe?

Purple because I’m regal as fuck. 

9. Is your space (house, room, whatever) tidy?

The fella and I are currently living in temporary housing at the moment, so it is pretty darn tidy! That would be because we only have four bags of our belongings to mess stuff up with. Now, tomorrow, when the movers come to the new place.. that’ll be a different story. Like a horror story kind of story. 

10. What item from your childhood do you most cherish?

I had this blanket made from material that showed a map of the One Hundred Acre Forest that slowly lost stuffing throughout the years. I don’t know if I still have it or not, but it holds a special place just because it had been a constant for such a long time. 

The item I most cherish now isn’t from my childhood, but it is a book of recipes that my step mother put together for me at my request. They’re all recipes from family members or family friends from both sides of the family. It ain’t gourmet, but it is from the heart. That will undoubtedly turn into a family heirloom. 

11. What idea that you got from a book, fiction or otherwise, has stayed consciously with you the longest?

When I read The Martian Chronicles (this one again, right?) in middle school, I already had a kind of tenuous relationship with religion, but one story solidified my skepticism of religion and how it is “advertised.” The story from TMC was, if I remember correctly, about missionaries trying to convert alien species to Christianity and it discussed having to change Christ’s image to appeal to different groups of people. There was a deeper and probably less cynical moral, but it just stuck out to me that religions will do whatever they can, twist whatever they need, to try and look appealing or justify their activities. 

Oooookay, now it’s time for my questions!

1. Do you look good in hats? 

2. What’s your proudest moment today? Of your entire life? 

3. Do you have an outfit or accessory that makes you feel like you are hot shit/supreme entity over all you survey/a complete badass/that you consider to be lucky? Why does it make you feel that way? 

4. What’s your ultimate comfort food? Post a recipe if you can make it at home!

5. If you had three weeks off from your obligations and a large quantity of money, where would you travel? 

6. Is there something that was omitted from your education that alarms/frustrates you? 

7. Have you ever cried because of something you read in a book? 

8. Do you have a YouTube video/meme that can always bring a smile to your face? 

9. How do you define adulthood? 

10. You know that thing you love so much but no one else seems to know about? Tell me about that thing. 

11. Has a song ever changed your life? 

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Mandy the Doll

Mandy is an antique porcelain doll over 90 years old supposedly made in Germany or England around 1910 or 1920. She was donated to the museum in 1991. What makes her so unusual is the powers some say she possesses.

Her previous owner related to the museum all the strange things she is supposedly capable of. The donor would wake up to the sounds of a crying baby in the basement. Upon inspection, she found an open window and no baby. After Mandy was donated to the museum, the crying stopped. However, the museum staff and volunteers problems were just beginning. Lunches would mysteriously disappear from the refrigerator and be found tucked away in a drawer. Objects such as pens, books and pictures would go missing. Some would turn up later. Others were never found. Footsteps were heard when no one was around.

When she first arrived at the museum, Mandy didn’t have a “permanent” place within the building. She sat facing the public entrance and provided fodder for visitors. Later, she was placed in a case alone in another part of the museum. Rumors stated she couldn’t be placed with any other dolls, as she would harm them. Then again, she may not like being by herself. After being locked in a room, staff found papers thrown all around the room as if she allegedly had a tantrum. She’s been known to “play” around with electrical equipment, causing them to malfunction. Visitors have claimed to feel uneasy or sad around her. Some say her eyes have a tendency to blink or follow people around the room. Her fingers and head move on their own as well.

If Mandy is as bad as some say, how did she become possessed in the first place? No one knows for certain. Although, there’s a possible legend. There is a story, which has the doll being trapped in a basement with a little girl. She died and supposedly her spirit became trapped within the doll. Many years after this allegedly happened the doll was found in the basement after hearing a child crying. When they found it, the doll was crying tears of blood. Don’t believe there is any evidence to prove this story to be fact or fiction as of now. Either way, it doesn’t stop people from flocking to Quesnel Museum, hoping to see Mandy put on a show.



anonymous said:

Will you cloth diaper your babies? What about ear piercing for little girls? Circumcision for boys? Would you ever use a sperm donor if you never found anyone you wanted to be with? Would you only breast feed? Leave the cord attached? Vaccinate? :)

Yes absolutely!! I can’t wait to have a little crew of babes runnin around in cute handmade cloth diapers!! I won’t pierce my babies ears, they can do that later in life if they choose to! I don’t see circumcision as necessary, so I don’t really think I’ll be doing that to my lil babe! I don’t think I would use a sperm donor if I don’t find a mate. If God’s plan for me includes havin babies then that’s awesome, but if not then it’s okay too :) (but hopefully it does!! haha) yes I want to only breast feed :) I’m all for delayed cord clamping/very interested in a lotus birth!! Vaccinations kinda freak me out- my mom was always HELLA anti-vaccine and I didn’t have em and turned out fine ! haha but this could always change between now and the time I have babies, who knows???

anonymous said:

So i dont want to cause any trouble just Curious, but what if that never happens and they never bring their spouses to events. But when we see kerry daughter wouldn't that be the true & final testament if kerry and tony are actually together?

No trouble! Personally, I don’t think so. Tony doesn’t necessarily have to be the father to make them together. These are just a few scenarios:

  1. Tony is the father.

  2. Tony wasn’t able to have any more kids, they wanted one, she used a donor.

  3. Kerry cheated on him, got pregnant, he forgave her.

  4. Kerry decided she wasn’t waiting on Tony to get his divorce, wasn’t getting any younger, wanted children, so she got pregnant with or without Tony’s input.

This is Ruthie. Ruthie was born without all the functions of her liver, and she’s having a rough time. When she was a baby, a doctor took part of her small intestine and made a little patch up for the missing parts of her liver. But this is only temporary.

Ruthie needs an organ donor, and her operation will cost around $500,000 dollars. Her family can’t pull that money, so all they’re asking for is $40,000 dollars.

With your help, Ruthie can have her surgery. Without her surgery, her body will soon outgrow the patch she has in place.

If you want to donate to Ruthie’s surgery, click here.

If you want to send a check, click here.

If you want to donate and find companies willing to match your donation, click here.

If every one of you donated 1 dollar, Ruthie’s surgery would be paid for in no time.

Ruthie and her family need all the help they can get, Ruthie already has hospital bills piling up, as every time she has a fever, she has to go to the hospital and get her blood checked for bacteria, then stay there for a few days.

Ruthie deserves a life outside of the hospital, and even if you can’t make a donation, it’d help so much just to signal boost this and reblog it.

Sperm donor fights attempts to force him to pay child support to lesbian couple
A sperm donor is fighting an effort to force him to pay child support for a child conceived through artificial insemination by a lesbian couple.

William Marotta told The Topeka Capital-Journal newspaper he’s “a little scared about where this is going to go, primarily for financial reasons.”

When the 46-year-old donated sperm to Angela Bauer and Jennifer Schreiner in 2009, Marotta relinquished all parental rights, including financial responsibility to the child. When Bauer and Schreiner filed for state assistance in Kansas this year, the state demanded the donor’s name so it could collect child support for the now 3-year-old girl. (AP Photo/The Topeka Capital Journal, Jeff Davis)