One year ago today, the Supreme Court struck down key parts of the Defense of Marriage Act (DOMA) which has catapulted the current lawsuits and rulings across the nation in support of marriage equality. It is only appropriate to have a rainbow cake, either virtually or in reality to celebrate the changes that are coming for LGBT couples.

Along with the federal ruling yesterday (that will most likely be appealed again) for Utah and Indiana, a republican senator has come out in support of marriage equality. 

The Pentagon announced Wednesday it will extend federal benefits to same-sex spouses of members of the military, a move that was impossible before the repeal of DOMA.

Benefits will be available no later than September 3 and include some of the following provisions:

The Pentagon also said it would allow leave for couples who are not stationed in jurisdictions that recognize same-sex marriage – including 13 states and the District of Columbia – so they can travel elsewhere to be married.

Same-sex spouses will be eligible for entitlements such as military health benefits and housing allowances on a retroactive basis if they were legally married before the June 26 Supreme Court decision, according to the announcement. Entitlements will begin at the date of marriage for those who wed after the ruling.

I’m really and truly proud of our country for making this happen. It was a struggle — one that’s far from over — but man, is this going to change a lot of lives. 

This week, Democrats kicked off the new session of Congress by reintroducing the Respect for Marriage Act, a bill that would destroy what’s left of DOMA. 

When the Supreme Court made its landmark decision rejecting DOMA last year, it only struck down the portion barring federal recognition of same-sex marriages. As it stands, the 14 states that still ban marriage equality are not required to recognize legal same-sex marriages that have taken place elsewhere.

If the Respect for Marriage Act is passed, it will repeal DOMA in its entirety.

If it were to become law, all legally married same-sex couples would have access to federal marriage benefits and protections, even if they moved to states that haven’t legalized gay marriage. It wouldn’t require states to pass marriage equality laws; it would only require that legally married same-sex couples living in those states receive the same federal benefits as other married couples.

The measure isn’t likely to go anywhere. It only has one GOP cosponsor, Rep. Ileana Ros-Lehtinen (Fla.), in a Congress led entirely by Republicans. Despite the fact that it’s been introduced in every Congress since 2009, the only action it has ever seen was in November 2011, when the Senate Judiciary Committee passed it.

But Democrats are making it clear by reintroducing the bill on day one that LGBT rights are a party priority and something they want to champion ahead of the 2016 presidential election. This year’s bill has 42 cosponsors in the Senate and 79 in the House. It also picked up a notable new cosponsor: Senate Minority Leader Harry Reid (D-Nev.).

There are so many measures in place that block same-sex couples from accessing the rights that other married couples have. As much progress as we’ve made, there is still so much left to do. This bill wouldn’t legalize marriage equality nationwide, but it would make a huge difference for those couples living in states that aren’t ready to accept them. Let’s go. 

Watch on

Aaron Sorkin, master of channelling infinitely serious cultural issues through a pop-culture medium, nails the issue of gays in the military through his Newsroom lead character, Will McAvoy.

Pair with Sorkin’s timeless Syracuse commencement address on developing your own compass.


2013: The Year of the Ninja

Last year at this time, we told you that we wanted to take 2013 by storm. We wanted you to storm right along with us. And guess the f*ck what?! WE DID. WE ALL DID.

This year, we filmed 25 webcasts all across America, starting in Niagara Falls, stopping in Virginia, Idaho, Tennessee, California, and eventually landing in a Delaware rest stop wearing Santa suits. We went to SXSW and did a panel on cyberbullying. We went to San Francisco pride, celebrated when DOMA was overturned, and had our interns take over NYC Pride all at the same time (ahhh!). 

We stayed live on the internet for a TWENTY FOUR HOUR StageIt fundraiser, and found out the true meaning of delirium while you helped us raise $5,000 in just one day. You then helped us raise $53,000 dollars to start The Parents Project, a first-of-its-kind digital resource for parents of LGBTQ youth. We filmed our first four videos for parents, in partnership with, to help speak to the many questions that families face.

We wrote a book that comes out this October.

We began Second Opinions, where a panel of writers with various backgrounds and experiences add different and much-needed perspectives to our work. We collaborated with MTV to write a weekly advice column focused on sex and relationships, and also began writing for Autostraddle.

Dannielle moved to Los Angeles.
Kristin got married.

We traveled to high schools and college campuses across the US, including events at The College of Idaho, University of Tennesee at Chattanooga, The Paul Cuffee School, Virginia Tech and The Brooklyn Friends School. We spoke on a panel with the founders of the Lesbian Herstory Archives in Brooklyn about the changing face of activist work from the 1970s to the present day.

We were named one of the Top 25 Significant Queer Women of 2013 by Velvet Park magazine.

As usual… none of this would have been possible without your continued and unparalleled support of our work. We can never thank you enough for fueling us, in every way, to reach far beyond our biggest hopes for ourselves and for Everyone Is Gay. This coming year holds so much in store for all of us, and we are so excited to begin it with you. 

Here’s to a f*cking incredible 2014.


The National Guard organizations in all 50 states are now complying with a Department of Defense policy to recognize same-sex couples — even in the states which were initially resistant to the change.

After a portion of DOMA was struck down over the summer, the DoD mandated that the National Guard extend benefits to all legal spouses of troops, whether they were same-sex marriages or not. But states like Florida, Louisiana and Texas pushed back, citing their state constitutional bans on marriage equality.

Fortunately, the DoD won this one.

"Following consultations between the National Guard Bureau and the adjutants general of the states, all eligible service members, dependents and retirees — including same-sex spouses — are now able to obtain ID cards in every state," said Defense Secretary Chuck Hagel in a statement today. “All military spouses and families sacrifice on behalf of our country.  They deserve our respect and the benefits they are entitled to under the law. All of DoD is committed to pursuing equal opportunities for all who serve this nation, and I will continue to work to ensure our men and women in uniform as well as their families have full and equal access to the benefits they deserve.”

Good, good, good. 


Okay not only was the animation in this scene pretty good, I like how it takes everyone a second to realize what exactly just happened

Yugi and the Pharaoh were supposed to be two in one, even when Yugi wasn’t holding the Puzzle he could still feel the connection. You had to shatter the Puzzle to break that. 

But no one ever considered that Yugi would be taken instead

Fer Buleria and Valentina at Villa Equus, the dressage paradise created by Spain’s Olympic medalist Beatriz Ferrer Salat. Today, they were enjoying the pleasure of enjoying an early morning ride in the autumn mists. The first foals of this magnificient stallion were born this spring.

Fer Bulería y Valentina en Villa Equus, el paraiso de doma creado por medallista olimpica de España, Beatriz Ferrer Salat. Hoy en día, que estaban disfrutando el placer de montar por la mañana en la niebla de otoño. Primeros hijos de este semental nacidos esta primavera.


Tom & Glen: The First Married Gay Couple to be Granted a Green Card at the New York City USCIS Office.

The photo above is of Tom & Glen with attorney and The DOMA Project co-founder, Noemi Masliah, taken outside the Federal Building immediately after their green card interview. The officer was kind enough to stamp Glen’s passport as a permanent resident of the United States so that he could travel abroad immediately. (His actual green card will follow by mail in 1-2 weeks.) Congratulations to Tom & Glen after nearly 4 years struggling between Australia and New York they have finally defeated DOMA and its legacy.