anonymous asked:

One thing I feel like this fandom ignores is that fact that a good portion of the fans are <18 and the things they say are just so nasty. Tumblr is supposed to be a safe place and antis just stigmatize all larries so if your a Larrie you must spend all your time forcing sexualities and genders on them and who tops and bottoms? And we don't care about any other lgbtq+ people or issues other than Larrie or even before we shipped them and that's just not true at all. 1/2

A lot of us are queer and the thought that our role models are apart of the community is very comforting. And even if you see the way they act and say they’re only friends you can’t deny the fact that they break gender norms and the closeness they all have is beyond how normal lads act towards each other in public. Which is all very refreshing and it makes us all feel safe bc if harry kisses louis on video and puts it on the Internet they won’t hate me if they meet me and find out I’m queer 2/2

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When I saw this post going around and all the notes it had, I was genuinely horrified. I’m not kidding about the stigmatization.

me: *steps on a larrie*
larrie: *makes crunching sound like its a cockroach*

I think maybe one of the hardest things to cope with as your consciousness of yourself as a disabled person starts to develop, is that a significant percentage of people think you shouldn’t really be alive.

They think you should be aborted as a fetus.

They think medical procedures, surgeries, organ donations etc. are wasted on you.

They would like it if your genes were no longer in the human gene pool.

They do not want to save you from poverty and homelessness unless you are useful, either as a worker or as an *inspiration* object.

When these people look at *you* they may deny this. But when they vote, when they write, when they speak, and when they think about policy, they think these things about disabled people as a population. 

And even if you as an individual accomplish a lot, there will always be a disabled person out there who fits their idea of a drain on society, someone who we would all be better off if they didn’t exist.

I think about this a lot.

anonymous asked:

Calling someone an illegal alien or an illegal immigrant if they came into the country illegally is perfectly okay. I don't even understand why this is being debated. If a slavic serbian foreigner came into the country illegally, would you be okay with calling that person an illegal alien? Of course you would. The thing is, people are making it about race because the majority of illegal aliens are NOT slavic serbians. If they were, it'd be no problem since they're not PoCs. Plain and simple. 1/2

Furthermore, these terms aren’t meant to dehumanize but to DEFINE a person or people who have entered the country illegally. Like it or not, you foreigners NEED to gain citizenship to enter the United States. That’s the way it works. It’s not fucking fair that the people of the United States have to potentially keep people in here who may not even speak english and may not even want to assimilate into American culture. How would you feel 2/3
if a bunch of white americans went to Japan without learning the language and culture just decided to fucking stay there and not leave Japan even though they’re not japanese citizens? You’d be pretty pissed off if that happened wouldn’t you? The same applies here. It’s no different. 3/3

yo there’s a huge difference between being okay with appropriation and fetishization of an identity and using these parts of your identity to make a living

intersex people and trans women will put slurs in their porn work to earn revenue because that’s what is searched for; because h***aphrodite and t****y work way better for the people dehumanizing them than proper labels

people of color will create “tourist trap” like things to draw in white people that see a shallow and racist/xenophobic overview of their cultures

non-straight people do in fact create random crap with pride flags on it for allies to sport (”straight but not narrow!! uwu”)

using your own dehumanization to make a living =/= being okay with it

ok but like fuck the mountain men honestly like i hate when people try to act like they’re just as sympathetic as the grounders or the sky people or that “cage was just trying to help his people to survive, same as clarke and lexa” like ok sure but the survival of the grounders and sky people doesn’t depend on the violation of the bodily autonomy, the torturing, the drugging and turning into cannibals, and the death of other people. 

and most of the mountain men who helped the 44 didn’t even care until the sky people showed up, people who they considered “civilized” and could relate to, but were fine with being complacent in the dehumanization, torture, and murder of the grounders prior to the arrival of the sky people

I hate being told "that's not very ladylike"

“That’s not very ladylike” because a girl doing something a man does makes you uncomfortable.

“That’s not very ladylike” because she must speak a certain way, act a certain way, and dress a certain way to avoid being further dehumanized.

“That’s not very ladylike” because gender norms have their way of jumping to the opposite gender and it makes you uncomfortable.

“That’s not very ladylike” because you’d rather her be silent than speak her mind.

“That’s not very ladylike” because she must be ashamed of the body she was born with for your comfort.

“That’s not very ladylike” because she must be clean and easy on the eyes, easy on your eyes.

“That’s not very ladylike” because her worth is measured entirely on the men she attracts.

“That’s not very ladylike” because her worth is measured entirely by what men think of her.

“That’s not very ladylike” because you’re looking for something to hold against her.

I hate being told “that’s not very ladylike”.

anonymous asked:

I am unable to understand why "illegal" is a slur. If you're here illegally, if your parents are here illegally, then you're fucking illegal. It's not a race thing, while mostly mexican, other races immigrate here as well. Facts can't be sugar coated, tumblr. If someone tries the "lol ur mexican are you legal" kind of shit that's wrong, but if someone is illegally here then they should be deported. Stop crying RACIST when laws are being broken

I think the problem is when a person is referred to as ‘an illegal’ because it’s very dehumanizing. I don’t think anyone considers it a slur when used as an adjective.

-The Canadian One

why are straight people so intent on us respecting their ‘opinions’ but throw a bitch fit when we politely ask to be treated like normal human beings?? like what?? 

And then these people say they just don’t want it shoved in their face and that they just don’t want their kids to see it. Like son, listen here. I’ve had heterosexuality shoved in my face my whole life and when i was little i was surrounded by straight people. If i have to see straight people every fucking where i go i think y’all can handle a couple gay people. and also seeing gay people doesnt turn you gay. i saw many many straight people and look how i turned out. 

so no. im not going to respect your opinion when you literally dehumanize me and tell me who i am is wrong. 

and on one last note, if you claim to not be homophobic but tell me we can’t have rights and that you think who we are is wrong. then ur still homophobic. 

we are no fucking different than you. so calm ur tits and deal with the fact that we exist and that we’re not going away anytime soon. 

I think what bothers me so much about the “feminists are ugly” or “feminists are hairy” or “feminists are lesbian” stereotypes is–

So fucking what?

Some of us ARE ugly. Some of us ARE hairy. Some of us ARE lesbians. And it shouldn’t fucking invalidate anything we’re fucking saying to you.

But you know, if you believed that, if you actually believed that our sexual usefulness to men is irrelevant to the conversation about our basic human rights, you wouldn’t be a fucking misogynist, would you?

On a rare occasion, a woman will tell me that she doesn’t mind being objectified by men. To that I say:

That’s nice, but he’s not doing it because you don’t mind. He’s not waiting until he finds you, the (probably) only woman in the area who doesn’t mind. He’s doing it to every woman. He’s doing it because he wants to and he doesn’t care who likes it, and who doesn’t. He doesn’t stick around long enough to ask, he just takes.

anonymous asked:

Freakin America the land of the 'free' in which we murdered and stole the land and now we're saying mexicans cant come and live in our country just because they're on our border? How stupid is that? We slaughtered and raped native american tribes and stole their food, supplies, and land and gave them very little as apology yet american dare to try and call itself free while dehumanizing and restricting everyone.

Asked to identify the age of a young boy that committed a felony, participants in a study routinely overestimated the age of black children far more than they did white kids.

The study, published in the Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, aimed at figuring out the extent to which black children were likely to be treated differently than their white peers solely based on race.

Author Phillip Atiba Goff of UCLA told the American Psychological Association, “Our research found that black boys can be seen as responsible for their actions at an age when white boys still benefit from the assumption that children are essentially innocent.”

In the graph below, their research shows the shows the number of use of force incidents by officers in the study:

The below graph shows the results of the study of mean age overestimation by college participants (left) and, frighteningly of police officers (right) in the study:

Police participants in particular grossly overestimated the age of black children when they suspected them of felonies especially. In fact, when a police officer suspected a white child of a felony, they underestimated their ages on average. College students also mimicked this trend in grossly overestimating the age of black children they suspected of felonies vs. white and latino children.

“[T]he implicit dehumanization of Blacks,” the study’s authors write, “was a significant predictor of racial disparities in the use of force against children” — though they’re clear to note that it is “plausible that negative interactions with Black children disproportionately produce implicit anti-Black dehumanization.”

The humanity and innocence of black children and their bodies does not exist in our virulently antiblack society. There is no sanctity of black life, and we will even execute 14 year old black children like George Stinney for the crime of existing in our white supremacist society. Even criminal white children will still be seen as children, whereas black children are simply miniature adults bound to fill another bed in the prison industrial complex. Sickening.

(h/t For Harriet)

You never had to prove them wrong

When you grow up with stigma, people tell you a lot of well-meaning things that actually cause problems. When you face people treating you like you’re less of a person, someone will often say something like:

  • “You’ll prove them all wrong some day”.
  • “It’s ok. You’ll show them. You’ll prove that you’re better than they ever could have imagined.”

And then, when you accomplish things, it often becomes, “Well, you proved them wrong, didn’t you?”

  

People who say this often mean well, but this is a form of victim-blaming, and it can hurt people who believe it really badly. The truth is:     You didn’t prove them wrong. You never had to prove them wrong. They were already wrong.     Prejudice is not something you have to earn your way out of. Dehumanization isn’t your fault. You don’t have to prove that you are human in order to be human. You don’t have to have amazing accomplishments in order to prove that you have worth. Everyone has worth. People who don’t recognize yours have always been wrong.   You didn’t prove them wrong. They were already wrong. About you, and about everyone else too.   You might have to fight to be seen as a person. You might have to fight for your life and your safety and for basic respect. That’s a fight you may or may not win. It’s a fight that, no matter how hard you try or how good you are, you will never win all the way. There will still be those who hate you and see you as subhuman.   But you can be ok, anyway. You’re ok. You’re whole. You deserve better. It’s not your fault they don’t see it. It’s theirs.   You have always been a full person, fully deserving of respect and equal treatment. People who treat you as a lesser being have always been wrong.   Knowing that helps.

anonymous asked:

If you are in a country illegally then you are a criminal. If illegals don't like being called "illegal" then they shouldn't have come in illegally.

The problem is with the term ‘illegals’. It’s dehumanizing. 
-The Canadian One