Speech therapy

According to my dad my speech is wonky. Ever since I got my new hearing aids my speech is slipping. What.
According to him I don’t pronounce my R ‘s and TH’s and S and F. Okay…
Whoops? I do not want to take speech therapy again. I’m okay with how I talk. I don’t want to relive the long hours of learning how to pronounce certain words and miss events because of it.
I mean I’m grateful I CAN speak but I don’t need it to be “hearing approved and satisfied” I worked my ass off as a kid until teenager (did I have a choice? No) to speak to please the hearing world.
I speak how I speak there’s no critiquing it . Leave it. But thanks for trying.

The problem with assuming that being able-bodied is the norm, is that able-bodied parents who have children with ‘hidden disabilities’ are gonna have a hell of a time realizing it. Like no joke my parents thought I was ignoring them for five years, meanwhile I lost 50% of my hearing.

This 15-Year-Old Has Never Had A Conversation In His Life — Until Now (VIDEO)

This 15-Year-Old Has Never Had A Conversation In His Life — Until Now (VIDEO)

A condensed version of a documentary tells the story of 15-year-old Patrick Otema who has been deaf since birth. The Ugandan teen has never had a conversation with anyone as long as he has lived. He has only been able to communicate with people through body language and basic hand signals. That all changed after he meets sign language teacher Raymond Okkelo.

Okkelo became deaf as a young child…

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xephsis asked:

Sending in a second ask because room and giving you the option to answer privately if you want. So I'm a naturally curious person, and as such have questions, but I'm not sure where to begin. So I suppose the first question that comes to mind is the opposite side of the coin of your "things not to say" video in that, given that there are things you definitely shouldn't say, are there things that are okay to say/ask? (Also, you are absolutely gorgeous.)(Feel like that should be first though...)

First thing’s first: always ask the person who is d/Deaf/HOH if they’re up for talking about it. If you’re meeting them for the first time, it’s probably best to not ask all the questions right off the bat about their deafness ‘cos that just turns it into a “oh, so the only thing you are is deaf who cares about your interests and stuff let you just ask you about you being deaf!!” and like, nah, that’s not all we are, obvs. Or you can ask all the questions, but don’t make deaf questions the only questions. I mean, ask me what my favourite iced coffee is at some point.

If it’s me you’re talking to, I don’t mind if you asked me how the deafness occurred, if it was something I was born with or if something happened. You can ask me what my preferred communication method is/how I usually do about communicating with people. You can ask me about the hardships people who are d/Deaf/HOH have to go through just to be able to make a living. You can ask me about police brutality against d/Deaf/HOH.

I’m gonna answer this publicly so other d/Deaf/HOH folks can chime in ‘cos I just finished dancing and I’m pooped and need a shower and I can’t think of everything right now.

But just know there is a time and place for it. Talking about this stuff can be exhausting. Learning is good. We’re happy to help you out. Just make sure they’re not ridiculous questions and that we’re in the mood to do a lecture.

Disability Sensitivity Training Video-

A hilarious video helping out able-bodied folk to end the awkward when interacting with people with disabilities :P

A really neat video from BSL Zone about Britain’s first baby to be registered with a sign name on her birth certificate. (Video won’t embed, but you can view it at the link.)

From a description on Mental Floss

Parents tend to give their children names in their own languages. What could be more natural? When Tomato Lichy and Paula Garfield, a British couple who are both Deaf (the capital “D” indicates that Deaf is a cultural identity), were about to have their second child, they began to look into whether it was possible to give their baby, legally, a sign name.

A sign name is not just an English name spelled out with the fingers. While Deaf people do have English names, which can be written, spelled out, or mouthed, they use signs, created specially for individuals, to refer to each other within their own community.

Rant: Hearing People Saying "It's Okay" When I'm Asking for Communication Access

It happened again today.  

I did my civic duty and voted this morning.  Even though I’m living in unfairly disenfranchised Washington DC where our only representative in the U.S. House of Representatives has no voting power and where we have no Senator at all, I still voted.  (All that stuff about DC’s disenfranchisement, though, is an entirely separate rant.)

I stood in line for maybe two minutes tops before I was able to go check in. So the poll workers started talking to me.  It was clear that the immediate thing they needed to ask me for was my name so I could just show my id without needing to understand exactly what they were saying.  And when they spoke some more and pointed to the next table, well I didn’t understand what they said then either but it was clear enough that they were done with my check in and needed me to proceed to the next step.  So I just did that.

So the people at the next table start talking to me too, and this time I’m not clear what they’re saying, so I ask them to write.  Instead of writing, they just start trying to lead me while still talking.  I keep asking them to write what they had been saying.  But instead of writing, the woman says, “It’s okay.”

This is a thing hearing people have done to me before:

Me: I’m having trouble understanding.  Please write that down.

Hearing person: blah blah, it’s okay, blah blah

Me: No, I’m saying I need you to please write what you are saying.

Hearing person: It’s okay, it’s fine. (Keeps talking and continues to not write anything or make any attempt to obtain a writing implement or paper.)

Excuse me?

Why do hearing people do this?  Why do hearing people seem to think that I need reassurance when I’m simply explaining that the current approach to communication isn’t working for me and that I need for them to switch communication strategies?  What is going on in their heads when they say “It’s okay” without actually doing anything to MAKE it okay?

Once, some years ago, I was trying to complain to someone at the hospital that I had been waiting hours for the sign language interpreter I had requested to arrive with no sign of either the interpreter or any communication on the status of obtaining an interpreter.  Instead of saying, “Oh, I’m sorry, let me check what’s happening with that,” they said, “Don’t worry about it, it’s okay.” WTF?

So it’s not just a one time thing, it’s a thing that hearing people do.  Instead of accommodating my communication needs, they keep on trying to communicate in a mode that I have already explained isn’t working while saying “it’s okay” or otherwise trying to reassure me.

NEWS FLASH for all denizens of the universe who do not themselves experience disabilities that affect communication with ill-informed non-disabled people:  When a deaf person says, “this communication style isn’t working for me” then NO they are not seeking reassurance.  They do NOT want to hear that it is okay for them to be left without comprehension, abandoned to communication isolation, and denied the communication access they have requested. 

NEWS FLASH for hearing non-disabled people: It is NOT UP TO YOU to decide if it is “okay” that the current approach to communication isn’t working or that the people who were supposed to hire an interpreter for you failed to do their job.   

NEWS FLASH: If a deaf person is saying that communication isn’t working, then this is them saying that NO IT IS NOT OKAY.

NEWS FLASH: If a deaf person is asking you, “please write” (or “please get an interpreter) then what they need is for you to ACTUALLY WRITE. (Or actually go check on why no sign language interpreter has arrived and what can be done to fix that).  ”Reassuring” them that ‘it’s okay” DOES NOT REPLACE ACTUALLY WRITING.

NEWS FLASH: Saying “it’s okay” while STILL NOT PROVIDING the communication access the deaf person has asked for is the OPPOSITE of helpful.

NEWS FLASH: If a deaf person asks you to change communication strategy, then what they need is for you to ACTUALLY CHANGE COMMUNICATION STRATEGY.

There’s more rant I could rant about all this, but this is already long enough.

Possible supplemental future rant (which also happened when I was trying to vote this morning): Hearing people who do this:

Me: I didn’t understand, please write that down

Hearing Person: Oh, I understand you just fine, your speech is perfectly clear.

(?? Hello? Logic? Hello?  And, why on Earth do some hearing people think that deaf people are only worried about them understanding us and not about US understanding THEM?)

anonymous asked:

i know you said that you don't sign, but is there any chance you know of, or can point me towards someone who might be able to suggest, a couple resources?

A native signer is always going to be better than books and online resources. SigningSavvy has signs, but I don’t know how current it is. Two people I can think of that you can ask are wanderingstrider and rated-d.

Deaf wizards not knowing how to say spells and making up their own signs for them and coming up with creative, powerful new spells in the process

Deaf wizards giving their friends name signs that are actually unique spells (when signed with a wave of a wand) that remind them of the friend, maybe a puff of a certain aroma or a special light show or a cascade of specific flowers

Deaf wizards mastering nonverbal spells WAY before their peers because they could never use the verbal ones

Lip-reading Deaf wizards always having the upper hand in duels

Hogwarts not having any interpreters and the staff feeling super awkward but the Deaf wizard being like FUCK IT and enchanting a quill to transcribe everything the professors say. Their peers look on in jealousy as all their hands start to cramp while they take notes.

Deaf wizards being expert mandrake-potters who don’t even have to wear earmuffs