honestly, we’ve always been on the same page.
two people can show up in a relationship with different backgrounds, opinions, convictions, and expectations, but when you choose to invest in another person, you seek to uphold the other by accommodating them and serving them for the benefit of your relationship. For Charles and I, it has been the case that if one of us feels more convicted, the other one submits to that conviction. If you’re comfortable with R-rated movies, but he has a personal conviction to not watch anything rated beyond PG-13, you adhere to that for the sake of his conscience and for the well-being of your relationship because it matters that we honor one another and not pressure each other to compromise. The one with the looser boundaries (in any area of life) should humble themselves and yield to the other’s conviction. If he isn’t doing this with you in terms of physical intimacy, he’s gotta go. Tell that boy buh-bye. It is so crucial that we honor each other, and strive for a relational atmosphere of safety, respect, and love. And love doesn’t try to convince the other to “chill-out” or “grow up” or “get over it and just please do ____.” That is a selfish partner. However, I will say that you need to openly communicate this with him so he has the opportunity to understand and have the freedom to choose whether he agrees, and if he does, forgive him and move on and continue on y’all’s journey of learning how to honor the other in day-to-day life, because that is what builds true intimacy.