I no longer wish to be part of a community that not only worships those who act the most aggressively towards fellow fans but encourages and condones harassment, emotional blackmail and manipulation, forcing victims to come out about their abuse publicly in order to prove that they’re not “Problematic” for shipping something dark, compromises the mental health of those victims by publicly calling them rapists and abusers so that other fans will cut them off without ever speaking to them in order to form their own opinion about a situation, the list goes on and on… and on…
It’s exhausting. It’s been bad for my health. It’s no longer fun when at every turn I have to hold myself together. It’s heart-breaking, seeing other people suffering.
You took something that brought so many amazing, creative people together and turned it into an excuse to harm and pat yourself on the back about your “good work.”
And you call yourselves fans. You call yourselves activists. You call yourselves Right. You call yourselves Good.
I really, really hope that when you finally reach the point of maturity where you can have an outside perspective on your actions, you can look back and say, “I hurt so many people, and it was wrong to do. I was an asshole” and then put every atom that holds your heart together towards being a compassionate, aware, and kind person. One who does not use real-life horrors as an excuse to terrorize other people. One who recognizes that there is a real person with real experiences and real feelings on the other end, who you have never met and may never ever actually meet… And so to say that you can judge this person’s entire life, their thoughts, their emotions, their motives, their perceptions, and rightly decide what kind of “literal trash” they are, is not only completely removed from reality, but very, very self-absorbed and cruel.
Being cruel is a choice. It’s not an unfortunate byproduct of “standing for justice”, and will never be. You must believe that you have the capacity to make kind, compassionate, rational choices. You must believe that you can analyze your initial, internal emotional responses to something but then use your head and remember that, “Hey, I don’t know this person. I literally know nothing about them other than the fact that they like this ship that personally squicks me for reasons XYZ. Am I really being a good person by starting a witch-hunt and forcing them to talk about how they were beaten by their mother on the internet in front of the entire community in order to prove they don’t abuse people IRL because they ship these two villains in a violent way?
Who am I helping?”