college visits are a [puts on sunglasses] shady business 

to all of you worrying about college decisions and living away from home and meeting new people—it’ll be fine I promise! 

6 Questions to ask when you’re making a tough decision

1.  What option would I choose if I knew I would definitely succeed?

2. What would I do if I didn’t feel scared?

3. Who can I talk to who’s been in my shoes?

4. What are the likely outcomes of each choice and decision?

5. What is the worst thing that could happen; what is the best thing that could happen?

6.  Am I making this decision for myself, or am I choosing to please other people?

>>> COLLEGE DECISIONS PSA <<<

TOMORROW, MARCH 27, 2014, is the day that the American Ivy League schools and a few other ‘prestigious’ American universities will release their decisions online to their applicants.

If you’re an applicant, remember:

  • no matter what, you’re awesome
  • Ivy decisions are crapshoot as fuck
  • you are a magestic sunflower who is going to shine bright int he sun no matter where you go
  • IF YOU GET IN GO U!!!!! u rock
  • IF YOU DON’T GET IN GO U!!!!! it’s their loss and it’s cold over there

If you’re a friend:

  • be sensitive
  • literally do not send them texts asking them where they got in, like jfc give them some space yo
  • if they tell you, YOU BETTER CELEBRATE/COMFORT THEM LIKE NO FUCKING TOMORROW

Good luck you smart tumblrites.

to everyone receiving college decisions really soon:

1. breathe. first of all, forget everything your jaded intuition (plus scores of other classmates/adults in your life who think they know it all because they read some WSJ article about how ~colleges never accept anyone anymore~) is telling you - it’s so easy to assume the worst. there’s no use in this. there’s a lot to be criticized about this system, but you are in control - up until the second you get a decision, anything can happen. embrace the freedom & possibility that comes with that until you can’t possibly anymore.

2. don’t even think about those countdown apps & try not to look at the clock. no matter which way it ultimately goes, you’ll look back at the time you spent chewing your fingernails in dread of an email as wasted. it also fosters bad anxiety & you are fabulous and don’t need that toxicity in your life!!

3. remember in a year, you will struggle to remember how this process even felt. it will be a blip on your radar. hell, i’ve had my decision for several months and i can barely remember how it felt to fill out the application & wait… 

4. you *will* get in somewhere. you *will* find a home. this really goes without saying. 

5. anything can happen. i get that everyone says this and can never back it up but um. seriously. my transcript is littered with B’s. i’m not a genius. i’m not even in the top 20% of my class. and i’m going to oxford university next year. SERIOUSLY. anything can happen. (the contrapositive of this is unfortunately also true - but if you don’t get in to your dream school, it is not (NOT NOT NOT!!) down to you personally. this process, while as holistic as it can be, can be notoriously lottery-esque at times.) trust that you will end up where you belong because if you’ve worked hard, you really will.

6. don’t let anyone tell you you’re not amazing. seriously, if you’re reading this, you’re likely blogging your life, interests, curiosities, and passions on a website like tumblr in addition to juggling classes, extracurriculars, and (as a teenager) raging hormones that often leave you without the motivation or will to keep on going. being a young adult is so hard. you’re, quite literally, figuring out how to live, and in the case of things that go on a resumé or record, how to get it right the first time. the pressure is enormous, and it’s okay to be sad, angry, disappointed, and/or overwhelmed. just remember you are doing so well and don’t take any shit, even from yourself - you’re a boss-ass bitch.

I was on the Georgetown University Class of 2016 Page on Facebook and a student made this incredibly amusing post. (It’s a college rejection letter, one that you could send to all the schools that you are denying)

“Dear X University,


I have thoroughly reviewed your school and I am very sorry to inform you that I am not able to offer my enrollment to X University class of 2016. 

This year, I had a record number of college acceptances and had to turn down many schools that I would have like to attend in the past. I would have thrived in great majority of my schools academically and socially. I, therefore, was faced with a tough decision of choosing the best school from a pool of very competitive schools.

Please understand that this decision is not a reflection of your school’s academic excellence and potential. I am very confident that you will find other students who are willing to attend your institution.

I appreciate your interest in me and wish you the very best in your future endeavors.

Sincerely,

(Student’s Name)
Director
My College Decision Office”