to everyone receiving college decisions really soon:
1. breathe. first of all, forget everything your jaded intuition (plus scores of other classmates/adults in your life who think they know it all because they read some WSJ article about how ~colleges never accept anyone anymore~) is telling you - it’s so easy to assume the worst. there’s no use in this. there’s a lot to be criticized about this system, but you are in control - up until the second you get a decision, anything can happen. embrace the freedom & possibility that comes with that until you can’t possibly anymore.
2. don’t even think about those countdown apps & try not to look at the clock. no matter which way it ultimately goes, you’ll look back at the time you spent chewing your fingernails in dread of an email as wasted. it also fosters bad anxiety & you are fabulous and don’t need that toxicity in your life!!
3. remember in a year, you will struggle to remember how this process even felt. it will be a blip on your radar. hell, i’ve had my decision for several months and i can barely remember how it felt to fill out the application & wait…
4. you *will* get in somewhere. you *will* find a home. this really goes without saying.
5. anything can happen. i get that everyone says this and can never back it up but um. seriously. my transcript is littered with B’s. i’m not a genius. i’m not even in the top 20% of my class. and i’m going to oxford university next year. SERIOUSLY. anything can happen. (the contrapositive of this is unfortunately also true - but if you don’t get in to your dream school, it is not (NOT NOT NOT!!) down to you personally. this process, while as holistic as it can be, can be notoriously lottery-esque at times.) trust that you will end up where you belong because if you’ve worked hard, you really will.
6. don’t let anyone tell you you’re not amazing. seriously, if you’re reading this, you’re likely blogging your life, interests, curiosities, and passions on a website like tumblr in addition to juggling classes, extracurriculars, and (as a teenager) raging hormones that often leave you without the motivation or will to keep on going. being a young adult is so hard. you’re, quite literally, figuring out how to live, and in the case of things that go on a resumé or record, how to get it right the first time. the pressure is enormous, and it’s okay to be sad, angry, disappointed, and/or overwhelmed. just remember you are doing so well and don’t take any shit, even from yourself - you’re a boss-ass bitch.