anonymous said:

This may be a bit TMI for some people, but trans men, (if you have them) please be sure to continue with gynecological visits! My brother did not, and although it doesn't always happen, he developed some severe uterine problems that ended with him becoming so ill, it required emergency surgery and a fairly long (3 months) hospital stay. don't let your regular gyno visits lapse. In the U.S., Planned Parenthood will do exams for free AND can help you find trans resources!

Yeah, it’s easy to let this kind of thing lapse. If you haven’t had a hysto, you need to make sure that everything is still healthy! Not just trans men though - any trans person with a vagina.

anonymous said:

What's your opinion on parents who name their children with masculine/feminine names and paint bedrooms feminine/masculine colors?

I don’t feel either of those things should be considered gendered to begin with. I don’t think blue is ‘masculine’ or pink is ‘feminine’, I think needing that is part of cissexism (and partly misogyny as well).

I would prefer to fight the notion that names are only ‘boys’, ‘girls’ or ‘unisex’ (Why can’t all names just be unisex? How come we can’t have boys named Rachel and Genevieve and girls named Kingston and James? There isn’t any reason, not a logical one anyways).

I don’t believe colours are ‘feminine’ or ‘masculine’ anyways except by the whims of society (pre-world war two pink was considered masculine and blue feminine, so clearly there isn’t actually a real reason for this business of gendering colours).

I think people should paint baby rooms good colours for babies, any colour that helps keep them calm and happy and then let the kid pick their own colours when they get older. For names I think parents should pick the name they feel is best and then, if the child decides they don’t like it, they should be able to change it without issues from anyone. I don’t think names should be gendered at all, and I’m certainly not going to tell other people what they can and can’t name their own child.

this one time, a friend of mine faked coming out to her family. she told them all she was gay to prove some kind of point to the conservative catholic lot of them. then she posted about it on facebook to remind all of her friends that she was, in fact, very much about penises. (“straight.”) after all of which she wanted my approval that she had done the right thing. i did not approve. she was upset by my lack of support. 

i don’t think it was the faking being gay that bothered me. i think it was the fact that she was very concerned about making sure her peers knew it was ~not the case~ i think it was the transphobic equivalence of being straight with liking dicks. i think it was that she wanted my approval.

things you are born with:

  • around 300 bones in your body
  • an appetite
  • sometimes a lil tuft of hair

things you are not born with:

  • a gender

gender awareness and identity appears to develop sometime in toddler-hood (though gender identity is fluid for some people and can change over the course of a lifetime). so stop saying “the gender [x] was born with.” it’s inaccurate and cissexist.

  • her:you're bisexual? um, i'm a gold star lesbian, i don't want to be anywhere a dick has been
  • me:oh really? well i'm a gold star thespian
  • me:*exits stage right out of this conversation, with flourish*

Instances of unrealistic diversity in reality

We are a new submission blog aimed at exposing how ridiculous the notion of diversity in media being unrealistic is. We collect stories from everyday life of events or interaction that, if portrayed on television, would draw criticism for “trying too hard to be inclusive” or “checking diversity boxes”. We want to encourage the active observation and appreciation of diversity in everyday life, including but definitely not limited to age, ability, body type, gender identity, race, religion, sex, sexual orientation, socioeconomic status, and especially all facets of intersectionality.

In short, we’re collecting instances of unrealistic diversity in reality and we’d love if you came and shared your story with us.

this is p important i think so i’m making it a separate post:

you cannot determine someone’s gender or their birth designation simply by looking at them. to claim otherwise is cissexist.

“Cis” Turns Twenty

As of today it has been twenty years since the first known use of the word “cisgendered” on the Internet.

Can we finally be done with the claim that terms like “cisgendered”, “cisgender” and “cis” are neologisms? Can we finally be done with the claim that they are never used outside of academia? Can we finally be done with the claim that they were coined for use as slurs?