The thing about CIO...
Is that most people have no idea what it is. Sometimes babies cry no matter what you try, and you can’t do anything about it. Anyone who acts like this has never happened to them is full of it.
If your baby cries all the way home from Whole Foods, because they don’t want to be in the backseat, and you don’t hold them in your lap instead of leaving them in their car seat, that is not crying it out. Not even if they cry themselves to sleep back there seconds before you get home.
If you’ve done everything to comfort your baby, and nothing has worked & you want to cry along with them because of your breastfeeding migraine, but you put them down for a minute to take some deep breaths, that is not crying it out. Not even if after two minutes they quit crying. That doesn’t mean they felt you “abandoned” them while sitting right there next to them. It probably means they were overstimulated, as infants can get, and needed to wind down.
If you are in the Navy Exchange, and your baby starts crying as you are walking to the checkout lane with all your crap, and you pay for all your stuff & put it in the car first instead of sprouting some extra arms Go Go Gadget style & feeding or changing them on the spot, that is not crying it out. (But it is a cartoon reference most of you are too young to get).
If you are home alone, and your baby has been cluster feeding all day long because of a growth spurt, and you are starving, dehydrated & exhausted not to mention running low on your milk supply, and you put them down for a minute to get something to eat & drink but they loudly protest, that is not crying it out.
If you have a postpartum appointment where your previously torn taint is getting checked, and you’re taking a shower while your baby peacefully naps, but then they start screaming because you aren’t holding them & still you finish washing and shaving your hairy werewolf genitals before drying off and running to them, that’s not crying it out. And I’m anticipating that happening to me today. I’ll let you know.
I just don’t want moms thinking that if their baby ever cries for any reason that they’re horrible parents. Not true. And not the same thing as ignoring your baby’s needs in order to make them “self soothe.”