“I believe I should be a mentor to my child until she grows up and is on her own. As a parent though there are times that I doubt if I’m qualified to do that. Yesterday while my kid was sleeping she asked me, ‘mom, how can I live life well?’ I told her, “live life happily.’ However, that’s not the sort of question I should answer so easily like that. Honestly, I also don’t know the answer. Life as a mother is like being responsible for another me.”

“아이가 독립하기 전까지는 제가 멘토가 되어야할텐데 부모로서 그런 자격을 가지고 있는지 회의가 들 때가 있어요. 어젠 아이가 자면서 “엄마, 어떻게 사는게 잘 사는거에요?” 라고 물어보더라구요. “그건 행복하게 사는거야” 라고 대답해줬는데 그렇게 쉽게 대답할 질문이 아니잖아요. 사실 저도 잘 모르겠거든요. 엄마로서 산다는 건 마치 또 하나의 나를 책임지는 일 같아요.”

Violence Against Native Children Lauded by Rapid City Media, By Danielle Miller

When Native children are being assaulted, the immediate reaction should not be to seek justifications for the attack. This is exactly what Rapid City Journal did, by finding any argument they can to victim blame the assaulted students.

This pattern has already emerged through other Rapid City publications.  KotaTv news recently released a story mitigating the actions of racist perpetrators by referring to the assault as “bad behavior”. KotaTV also published another article as a tactic to garner sympathy for those institutions complicit in negligence to address the incident until it went viral. The article deflected from the trauma suffered by Native students and centered the harassment of Eagle sales workers. The article was also used as an act of damage control to distance the Eagle Sales name from the incident. The concern was all centered on protecting the brand and attempting to shift the narrative to frame their workers as victims.

The reshaping of narratives is unacceptable because it mitigates acts of violence. Respectability politics do not justify violence. Victim blaming is rape culture. Racists and abusers use this rhetoric as fuel to justify violence against the marginalized.

Ultimately, these Media outlets hide behind the excuse of neutrality or playing devil’s advocate when they are really attempting to change the narrative and shift blame on Natives, thus contributing to the cycle which normalizes and sanctions racism based violence.  This goes further than media creating a “buzz or controversy”, but is an intentional act to uphold this culture of racism.

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Perhaps. Because perhaps one day I’ll find love again. Perhaps one day I’ll get married. Perhaps one day I’ll have kids. Perhaps one day he’ll feel love. Perhaps one day he’ll have kids. Perhaps one day he’ll understand and perhaps one day he’ll truly regret. But perhaps we never met and perhaps I never truly felt.
Children need quality time from both parents. Instead of distracting them all day with television and video games, make time each time to bond with them as such moments are the memories they will cherish, and it increases the chance that they will listen to you when they get older
—  Abu Muawiyah Ismail Kamdar

when you’re babysitting children and you’re on your phone scrolling and you laugh and in under .2 seconds you’ve realized your mistake because you’re immediately surrounded by needy children that need to why aRE YOU LAUGHING ADULT WHY TELL US WHY