At the age of 24 I began to ask my doctors if I could be sterilized. Year after year at my annual exam I would state my case – each year unchanged from the previous year. At each visit my physician told me that I was too young, what if I changed my mind? But the reality was that I didn’t change my mind. In fact, my desire to not have children grew and grew with each passing visit.

[…]I had asked for a procedure for six straight years with no break in my desires, opinions, or beliefs. Why did the medical community continue to deny me of my personal right to sterilization? I attempted to argue with her, citing examples of several men who were allowed vasectomies at the age of 21, but she wouldn’t budge. My anger was fueled by such blatant sexism. What is the difference from an adult man deciding he doesn’t want to procreate and an adult woman making the same choice? Why can’t I be the one to decide what’s best for my life? And why, with the advancements in healthcare and women’s rights issues, were women still being forced into conforming to the societal definition of how women should conduct their lives? Society has begun to recognize how the stereotypical nuclear family ideals are outdated, yet at the same time these ideals are perpetually imposed – harming those who choose to live outside of this box.

Kill the myth that people have “finally made it” in life only once they have a family with kids.

Kill the myth that people have “finally made it” in life only once they’ve gotten married or found some great romantic interest.

Kill the myth that people have “finally made it” in life once they graduate from high school, college, earn a job, gain financial independence, and so on.

Kill the myth that there’s any point in life that people have “finally made it.” Life is fluid, inconsistent, ever-changing, and everything we think we have is not always beneficial to us or stable, and everything has the ability to be lost or drastically altered in just a matter of seconds. 

All these myths were built on the foundation of some form of oppression, and continue on because of the problematic idea that our worth and meaning in life is based on what and how much we do, rather than the fact that we simply exist.

andimsatan asked:

Since we're talking about having children: when I was in health class last year, we were talking about the topic of marriage. The teacher (out of the blue) asked me how many kids I wanted; I replied with "zero." The teacher then said "You don't want a family? How sad! Why don't you want to be happy?" I got really angry, and told my mom about it that night, thinking she would report her or do something. "That IS really sad. I can't believe you don't want kids or a husband. I'll pray for you."

Future response for when people say that to you:  “What’s sad is that you think procreating is the only way to achieve a fulfilling and enriching life.”