Interview with an INFP talking about Careers and dreams...
Suzannah: I was going to save this for our new blog project that we are working very hard on but decided to go ahead and post it due to the sheer awesome patience of my friend Mak who answered these questions. Thank you so much Mak for participating in this little interview and waiting patiently for me to post it!! :)
Mak is an INFP who hosts a blog called Dare to Write and once did me a great honor by interviewing me for an INFP creative individual’s post…I have always wanted to interview her as well. Seeing that she is an experienced, mature INFP who is very good at talking about her life and the lessons she’s learned I decided to ask her some of the questions we get sent into our ask box for INFPConnection.
We decided to ask her the career and “dreams coming true” based questions just to see what her responses are, I was so impressed with her responses, how do you guys feel about her responses? Can you relate? Did these answers help you?
1. As a kid, did you have a set vision of what you wanted to be “when you grew up?” or was it always changing with your interests?
I love this question because I frequently revisit my memories to see if I could learn something new about myself and about how I can better tackle the future.
Whenever I was asked as a kid what I wanted to be when I grew up, I would always say “doctor” because I learned early that it was the most adult-friendly response, but there were a few things that were secret dreams that I never shared with other people:
I wanted to own a private library where people could come to read and relax. The first floor would be a bookstore, the second floor would be a coffee shop and the third, a large reading room with big, comfy couches and soft carpets. I also, at one point, wanted to own a chocolaterie where I would actually live upstairs. Oh, yeah, and I also wanted to become a nun.
It never crossed my mind as a kid that to think about whether or not these were realistic dreams, haha.
2. Do you often think about the person your childhood self was and if they would approve of you now?
Yes, all the time! In fact, I try to be a person my childhood self would be proud of.
3. Do you spend a lot of time wondering about the “next step” for yourself, or do you find the joy in the moment of whatever you are doing?
Man, I probably spend way too much time thinking about the “next step”. I’m learning these days to take steps towards the future while enjoying the moment. I’m still figuring this one out.
4. How do you balance working towards a career and also time to refresh yourself as an introvert and creative person?
Hmm…I haven’t figured out the balance yet. I tend to go between the 2, in phases. In one phase , working diligently towards a career and in the next, feeding my creativity and indulging in my introversion. I tend to be a “all or nothing” person, which means balance is a work in progress for me, haha.
5. How do you tell yourself to keep going whenever things get really messy?
Honestly, when things get really messy, I allow myself some time to freak out, to cry if I need to, panic, call a loved one or just cocoon. I might even go to that place where everything looks dark, feels dark and seem hopeless. But then, after a while, something happens. I’ll either read, hear or see something on TV/social media/podcasts/around me and something inspirational will stick with me and that thing will become what I hang on to, taking me from moment to moment until I’ve climbed out of the dark hole.
6. Do you think it’s important to love what you are doing for a living? Would you leave a job, career or place in order to follow your dreams?
Yes and yes.
However, more important than loving what you do for a living, you have to love who you’re working with. I’ve found that even if I don’t LOVE what I’m doing, I can usually find a way to infuse it with meaning to the point that I come to enjoy it, but when work relationships are bad, I can’t function, physically or emotionally.
7. What is one really big lesson you’ve learned in your lifetime about following your dreams?
This quote I heard recently comes to mind as I think about this question. “It does not matter how slowly you go as long as you do not stop” - Confucius.
It’s taken me a long time to clarify what my dreams are and I still continue to work on them because I’ve had the voice of other (well-meaning) people in my head for a very long time about what I SHOULD do. I finally accepted the fact that I am a late-bloomer…or rather, a slow-bloomer. It’s easy to look at how fast other people are going and ask if something’s wrong with me. This quote reminds me every day that the most important of the journey is the last part of the quote: DO. NOT. STOP.
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Did you guys enjoy this sort of post, and would you like to see more types/INFPs interviewed?