I'm a man who is fascinated and disgusted (like watching a train wreck) by the way many men are treating women online and in real life these days. Catcalling, the MRA movement, "nice guys", Bronies... I just don't know what happened (although my non-academic guess it has something to do with increasingly isolated, anti-social, pornography-filled lifestyles). On behalf of the good guys (not nice guys!), I apologize for these boys. I hope you all find the men (or women) you deserve.
I want to give a call to action for men who are considering sending messages along the lines of this one. By sending us these messages, you are obviously trying to separate yourselves from these creeps. But chances are, you have, at one point or another, engaged in similar behavior.
So I want to challenge all of you to a) critically think and reflect on your own behavior and continuously check yourself and, b) start calling out men on the internet and real life. Call out your friends. Call out your family. Call out that douche on reddit. Sending us messages apologizing “on behalf of your gender” doesn’t accomplish anything; it’s just asking for cookies for “not being that guy.”
We do sincerely appreciate messages like this one. It’s nice to know that men are equally disgusted by other mens’ behavior. But if you really want to help us, then please consider trying to actively change the culture around us.