Okay I’m sorry but I need Snow to learn something real fast and hard right now because this is getting ridiculous.
Emma is who she is because of the choices she’s made in her life. Snow did nothing in regards to that.
I get that both Snow and Charming were afraid and simply wanted to ensure their child had the best possible future, but neither one of them gets to argue that any disgust Emma feels at their actions is a direct result of those actions. Snow saying it was worth it just made me want to scream because she is basically telling Emma that anything inside her that can’t imagine hurting an innocent baby is because her parents made it that way. That it wasn’t her choice. That Emma coming out still a good person despite all the terrible things that have happened to her isn’t because of her strength and the things she’s learned, but because someone else engineered her that way.
Snow is completely invalidating Emma and all her feelings by saying, well this is why we did it, because it made you into this wonderful person see!
I just. I’m so tired of people taking away Emma’s agency and making her feel like nothing, like she’s accomplished nothing. I’m tired because first it was Neal, then it was Regina and Rumple and now it’s even her own parents. At least her father has the decency to look ashamed of himself.
The only two people who have never invalidated and put down Emma and made her feel like nothing are Henry and Killian. And Henry is her child, he idolizes her, despite understanding her flaws. Because she’s his mother and his best friend and she is always there for him. To Henry, Emma is probably the strongest person he knows. And Killian, he’s a respectful fucking person because he understands that personal agency is important.
I honestly want Snow to realize that it doesn’t matter what she and Charming did. Emma is who she is because of her own choices. They didn’t decide her feelings for her before she was even born. And they don’t get to use her disgust at what they did as justification for doing it in the first place.