bronyetiquette

[text reads “No, watching a kids’ show is nothing like coming out as LGBT. Do not ‘come out as a Brony.’” Image is Fluttershy looking annoyed.]

(Based on a submission.)

I have actually see people say that they were going to come out as Bronies on National Coming Out Day. No. Just no. LGBT* people face a lot of violence and discrimination in out society over their identities. It is not at all the same as being a grown man watching a little girls’ show.

*Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, Transgender

[text reads: People may think that their jokes are more important than your comfort. But no matter what they think, no matter how much they want to upset you, you are stronger than you think they are. Image is Celestia smiling .]

This is a bit different than my usual thing, but I figure it is worth saying.

This is NOT to say that edgy jokers have a full right to do that, or that people are not allowed to get upset if they make horrible jokes, or defend them, or try to send extra death threats if they stand up against them. Of course it’s not okay, and there’s plenty reason to be upset. This is just trying to be a hang in there message. 

[text reads “Don’t act as if shy characters need your protection.” Image is Fluttershy quietly opening a window.]

There is a creepy, protection vibe towards Fluttershy that Bronies have. It makes real-life shy people uncomfortable, coddled, put upon a pedestal, and it’s just unpleasant to watch.

Besides, with a show that wants to illustrate how female characters of varying personalities can be strong on their own, it’s rather hypocritical for male Bronies to think she needs some sort of male protection.

[text reads “Embrace body diversity.” Image is Pinkie happily talking to Mr. and Mrs. Cake.]

(Based on a submission)

This especially is true for human versions. Often times, people complain if the ponies are drawn in anything but skinny with huge breasts. Bodies vary. Just because it doesn’t fit your idea of human beauty, doesn’t mean you have the free pass to make rude comments.

And especially keep your damn mouth shut when you see cosplayers.

[text reads “Don’t mix canon up with fanon.” Image is Dash hugging a book.]

(based on a submission)

Bronies have their own fanon set up, and there are times when they get angry at the show for “ruining” things. Don’t. It’s silly, and you’re not writing the show.

On a side note, not all Bronies/fans will have the same fanon. So don’t argue over those. None of you are right.

[text reads “Nobody’s obligated to ‘love and tolerate’ you. Picture is Discord staring down the main ponies.]

Often people like to use this as an end to arguments, or to deliberately provoke others. It is used by people to put themselves on a pedestal and attempt to make themselves immune to criticism. It is not the peaceful message Bronies try to claim, it’s demeaning.

[text reads “Don’t derail complaints with ‘we’re not all like that!’” Image is Diamond Tiara critically looking at a paper.]

If someone talks about a really horrible experience in the fandom, you should be horrified that such a thing happened in the first place, not whine that people are ~judging the fandom.~ Priorities, everyone. It’s not always about you, so don’t be selfish. You’re putting Discorded Rarity to shame.

[text reads “Remember the target audience. Just because you like the show, doesn’t mean you can take over.” Picture is Twilight smiling at Scootaloo, Sweetie Belle, and Apple Bloom]

No, the show isn’t for grown men just because some vocal ones like to crow their love for the show from the rooftops. It’s for little girls. When voice actors speak at conventions, make sure the children get to hear them. Don’t ask crass questions. If you see kids dawdling around the toys, let them. Don’t demand the show cater to you. Grown men get most of the entertainment, so let someone else have something for once. It is not insulting men to say that a show isn’t for them, it’s just a fact.

[text reads “You don’t have to defend someone just because they’re a Brony.” Image is Applejack, Apple Bloom, and Spike looking startled/horrified.]

You are certainly under no obligation to defend someone just because they’re a Brony. Bronies, like any human, are capable of doing terrible things. Defending them just because they like the same show as you will not do you or the fandom any favours.

[text reads “Sticking horse-related words in everything gets tiresome very quickly.” Image is an enthusiastic Rainbow Dash at a podium while Twilight is standing beside her, annoyed.]


It’s also a terrible way to get your point across. If you start calling “everypony” or “fillies and gentlecolts”, or start replacing human anatomy with horse anatomy, you’re going to sound very ridiculous and not get your point across.

And if you have no point, you should still stop before you annoy and alienate people. Not everyone is in on these cutesy games.

[text reads “Not everything is a shoutout to Bronies.” Image is Pinkie Pie with her hair down, sitting among a flour sack, pile of rocks, and a turnip bucked wearing party hats. And a cake.]

No, “Party of One” was not a shoutout to an infamous gory fan fiction. Not only are writing staff not supposed to read that sort of thing, but the story was written before the Brony fanbase came out. And yes, there are sometimes references to things more geared at adults, but that’s nothing do. Disney’s Aladdin did this a lot with their Genie character, but it was still a kids’ movie.

[Text reads “Your small, awesome, insular circle of brony friends is not indicative of the community as a whole.” Image is a group of ponies, mostly pegasi, walking in a group triumphantly, lead by Twilight Sparkle and Spike. Fluttershy is being hoisted up by two pegasi.]

I don’t mean this sarcastically. I know how sometimes, if you have a group of really cool friends, most of whom are members of an oft-maligned group (furries could be another example), it can be really easy to disbelieve the common stereotypes that float around about those groups. What are people talking about, members of _____ fandom aren’t all weirdos! All my friends are _____ and everyone is cool as heck! Where do these stereotypes COME from?!

Hint: It’s not nowhere. Congratulations, you and your friends managed to forge a small social circle made up of nothing but cool people who don’t share the endemic problems of the larger social group. That’s really cool (honest)! But it doesn’t speak of the larger problems in those fandoms. Y'all are exceptions.

If you and your friends honestly don’t share the problems that your fandom gets criticized for, there’s no reason to get defensive or bristled at those criticisms; they don’t apply to y'all! But they do to some. They do to MANY. Try to take an honest inventory of the community as a whole and count yourself and your friends as lucky, rather than the whole rest of the world as biased.

[text reads “Don’t base your life around the show.” Image is Spike remorsefully holding a burnt bit of paper.]

It’s just a show. It can alienate friends if you constantly talk about it, and in the long run, there are other things out there. You don’t need to eat/sleep/breathe the show. It’s a cartoon, not real life.

[text reads “Don’t compare not getting your own way to losing a child.” Image is Applejack holding her hat, looking concerned.]

When a certain clip was altered, Bronies suddenly started claiming that the cartoon horse was their child, and said child was stolen/killed, whatever.

No.

No.

Why no? Because you do not compare what is one of the worst things that can happen to a person to a clip in a child’s show being altered so that it no longer caters to the non-demographic audience. It’s quite impossible for a lot of us to imagine the heartbreak of losing a child. Don’t trivialize it.

[text reads “Lauren Faust’s ideas aren’t the only ones that are valid.” Image is Rarity staring at a picture of herself and Sweetie Belle, drawn by Sweetie Belle.]

(Based on a submission)

Lauren Faust has a lot of great ideas and was missed a lot in Season 2. But she’s not the only one with good ideas. Some things were changed from the initial pitch (Pinkie gave Fluttershy her wings for example), and there are a lot of writers on board. Not to mention Hasbro asking for things to be included because they want to make toys.

A lot of Bronies insist that Lauren Faust would have done things this way or that way. You don’t know for sure, and besides, she’s been proven willing to compromise and change things, like the example I listed.

Furthermore, the franchise was created by Bonnie Zacherle, not Lauren Faust. Yes, that was the old generation that Bronies pride themselves in hating, but G4 wouldn’t exist without it.

[text reads “Hasbro doesn’t owe you anything.” Image is a younger Twilight and Shining Armor sharing an apple.]

There seems to be this misconception going around that Hasbro needs to make more Brony things, simply because they’re a large audience. This isn’t true. Hasbro’s just here to shill toys. Sure, they may be small, silly, and girly…but that’s kind of the point.

[text reads “Don’t trivialize real-life tragedies with ponies.” Image is Celestia with a serious face.]

Recently, there was a mass shooting in a movie theatre. Hub (or was it Hasbro?) expressed their sympathies to the victims and their families…only for some genius to pop up and tell them to send ponies.

…good thing even other Bronies weren’t pleased to see this crap.