I know that people mean well when they go around saying “it’s impossible not to be able to breastfeed” or “everybody can breastfeed”
I know that their aim is to push people to try their hardest and that’s exactly what it does.
That’s what it did to me.
I spent my breastfeeding journey with Felix telling myself that “this time I won’t fail because everybody can breastfeed and it’s impossible to fail”
So I did absolutely everything I could and I still failed.. And then since I had it in my head that it was impossible to fail, but I still managed to, well.. that really broke me. I was devastated and I thought I was the most useless person to ever roam the earth and I hated myself.
I had failed at something that everybody can supposedly do.
Well not everybody can breastfeed, so maybe instead of spreading false information and calling people uneducated, some of you should read up on “insufficient glandular tissue (IGT)” and also “Raynaud’s Phenomenon”, these were my final diagnoses’, and I’m surprised so many people haven’t heard of these conditions at all.
Some of you who think formula feeders are uneducated, are the most uneducated of all.
I also think that maybe, instead of just thinking you’re an amazing person and mother for breastfeeding (which is true, breastfeeding is an amazing gift and it can be such hard work), you should also realise how incredibly lucky you are.
Even if you had a rough start, and got mastitis nine times and your baby or toddler feeds every five minutes- realise that you’re lucky.
Just like not all women can conceive naturally, not all women can feed their baby naturally.
The human body isn’t always created perfect.