I'm only telling you this so maybe you think of it the next time you’re beating yourself up about being “emotional“, and instead remember that you’re human, and feelings are not only okay to have but they’re also NORMAL because (and I hate to break this to you, but) you are not a robot.
If I cry, my eyes get bloodshot, my whole face gets puffy and blotchy, and it stays that way for awhile afterward. There’s no fooling anybody with that look. It’s entirely clear I’ve been crying.
Now that you know that detail… Once, a good friend knew just by looking at me that something was up, and when she asked me what was wrong—as I was still crying, eyes bloodshot and face blotchy—I tried played it off by saying my eyeballs were just sweating.
With a straight face! “It’s nothing. My eyeballs are just sweating.”