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I’m a trans man who wants a birth control method that gets rid of my periods and doesn’t contain estrogen. Whatcha got for me?

Someone asked us:

Hi. I’m a trans man, but I can’t afford to go on testosterone yet. My menstrual cycle really bothers me, and I may start having sex with men soon, but the estrogen in birth control pills (and the symptoms that result ‘cuz of that) makes that really, REALLY not an option I want to take. Is there any method of birth control that does not contain estrogen? Preferably one that also gets rid of periods? (Preferably one that’s also likely to be covered by my crappy insurance?)

Believe it or not, you have a lot of options to choose from!

There are quite a few hormonal birth control options that don’t contain estrogen. These “progestin-only” methods include: the implant (Implanon or Nexplanon), hormonal IUDs (Mirena or Skyla), the shot (Depo Provera), and even some kinds of birth control pills.

Many of these methods have been shown to lessen menstrual bleeding – and sometimes even eliminate it (though it’s common to have some spotting, especially for the first few months). Speak with your nurse or doctor to figure out which of these options fits your needs best.

And let’s not forget about the good ol’ condom. Condoms are the only way to protect yourself from STDs as well as pregnancy, so it’s a great idea to use them even if you’re also on another form of birth control.

Under the Affordable Care Act (aka Obamacare), most types of birth control are now covered by insurance. Learn more

I hope this helps!

-Mylanie at Planned Parenthood

One illustration shows what it would look like if birth control logic was applied to men 

Slut! Whore! Baby-killer!

These are just some of the insults lobbed at women on a semi-regular basis, simply for taking control of their reproductive health. But what if the tables were reversed? Following a midterm election cycle that passed what might be the most restrictive anti-abortion measure in the country, it’s worth thinking about what would happen if men were tasked with family planning. 

The role-reversal is illuminating | Follow micdotcom

TMI but needs to be said.

It really bothers me to hear anyone say that women who are in pain from menstrual cramps are being overdramatic. For my last few periods, I have been violently vomiting and have not been able to eat. I am on birth control to relieve the pain and another pain medication and they barely help. I couldn’t leave my bed, I couldn’t eat, I couldn’t shower, and I was up all night vomiting just liquid because I had no food. All women are different and experience a range of pain during their period. Some are lucky to feel nothing at all while others like myself feel like they’re dying. Please realize that some ladies out there are not trying to be whiny and complain about their period, but are in serious agony.

Critics of the male pill are wrong. It would end conception by deception, empower men and be the ultimate sexual revolution

Earlier this week scientists in Australia revealed a ground-breaking formula for the world’s first male contraceptive pill. Researchers at Melbourne’s Monash University detailed a reversible way to stop men releasing sperm during orgasm, without affecting their pleasure, sexual function or long-term fertility. The findings – which promise to change the dynamics of sex forever – were published in the journal Proceedings of the National Academy of Sciences.

But, while they attracted much interest, they also garnered some cynicism. In particular, from journalist Tom Sykes, who claimed the idea was ‘the least sexy bit of news in the past 40 years’ and threatened to emasculate men at their very core.

He’s wrong.

In fact, it’s the exact opposite – it would quickly become our best friend in the bedroom because it would liberate us from being the reproductive underclass.

Currently, while women enjoy the lion’s share of contraceptive choices, we have just three: condoms, vasectomy and abstinence. While vasectomies are extreme and may increase the chances of male cancers, condoms are rarely the practical ideal. They vary in comfort and fit, they can be difficult or embarrassing to get on – risking erection loss – and, crucially, they can puncture; either literally, or the romantic mood.

More worryingly, they can also be tampered with. Ask Liz Jones.

In comparison, the female pill has been a monumental success. Launched in 1960, it is now used by more than 100 million women worldwide and is a cornerstone of the women’s movement. Sykes said it himself: ‘Many feminists argue that much of what it means to be a woman today is actually defined by and is a result of women having access to the Pill. It has liberated, not diminished, them’.

The same will be said for the male pill. Why? Because it’s as much political as it is pharmaceutical. Not only would the male pill offer limitless, no-strings sex, but it would also empower men to control the outcome of their sexual encounters; only becoming fathers when they wanted to.

Yes, accidents happen, but the gritty reality of men being ‘trapped’ would end overnight. No more shotgun weddings, no more duped daddies, no more surprise calls from the Child Support Agency. Specifically, men wouldn’t have casual lovers deciding when they became fathers. They’d make that crucial, life-changing decision themselves. And, in 2013, so they should.

Paul Elam is a men’s rights activist and the publisher of the American website AVoiceForMen.com, which gets thousands of hits every day from 18 to 24-year-olds. He argues that men have as much riding on pregnancy as women do in the long-term, but not nearly as much control.

‘The arrival of a male pill would mark the first time in history that men will be empowered to see themselves as near-full participants in reproductive choices,’ he says. ‘And it will force wider culture to see them in the same light too.’

‘Currently, men compete for sexual selection and wait to be chosen. When they are, they wait to be informed of any consequences.

‘They wait to be told if the baby will be carried to term, or will be aborted. They wait to be told if they will be allowed to participate in the life of the child. They wait to be told what they will have to pay, and how much for how long, regardless of whether they want or intended to be a parent.’

Given that Britain currently has one of the highest teen pregnancy rates in Europe, this issue is clearly affecting our young boys too. Besides, in an age of so-called equality – where women demand an end to the closing gender pay gap (but seemingly couldn’t care less about the life expectancy gap – so much or equality), why should they have all the power in this matter? After all, absolute power corrupts absolutely. And, whether it’s politically correct or not to say so, lots of women manipulate birth control and violate men’s choices.

Just take Amanda Holden’s situation into account. Only last month she confessed to deceiving her husband into fatherhood – even though he expressly said he wasn’t ready for another baby. Dismissing this, she manipulated the understanding on which they had sex and effectively took control over his sperm, his lineage and his choice.

This is an outrage.

Ironically, if a man stole a woman’s eggs and – by some twist of science – conceived a baby and then charged her child support, all hell would break loose. It would be a feminist hot topic. But where’s the uproar when the genders are reversed? These are matters that have a deep and lasting impact on the lives of men, and the ability to prevent them is nothing less than revolutionary.

That said, the sisterhood shouldn’t worry too much. The male pill would also be good for women. While the original pill is highly effective, it’s also packed with side-effects that include weight gain, DVT threat and reduced libido. A new alternative taken by their partners can only be a good thing.

It also allows men to share the responsibility for birth control, without forcing them to forsake the pleasure of sex. It may also allow women to stop taking dangerous medications that pose significant risks (or they may continue to take their pills as an added precaution). Either way, it brings choice and personal agency to both sexual partners.

However, the benefits wouldn’t all be physical – but social too, because a male pill would finally smash the myth that a woman’s desire to have a child is greater than a man’s not to. In a world of crass self-entitlement but virtually no father’s rights, this is crucial. Particularly because the narrative on the issue is so sexist against men.

Ask around you and plenty of women will say: ‘I’d never trust a man to take the pill’ – which is precisely my point, because that’s exactly what men have had to do. We’ve been forced to trust women who say *they’re* on the pill – with often devastating results. Besides, if everyone took responsibility for themselves, wouldn’t it simply mean that all pregnancies were planned by both parties – all the time?

Aside from being fair to men, a pill which offers that sounds like the best bit of news I’ve heard in 40 years…and then some.

From A Voice For Men.

If I were going to describe the perfect contraceptive, it would go something like this: no babies, no latex, no daily pill to remember, no hormones to interfere with mood or sex drive, no negative health effects whatsoever, and 100 percent effectiveness. The funny thing is, something like that currently exists.

The procedure called RISUG in India (reversible inhibition of sperm under guidance) takes about 15 minutes with a doctor, is effective after about three days, and lasts for 10 or more years. A doctor applies some local anesthetic, makes a small pinhole in the base of the scrotum, reaches in with a pair of very thin forceps, and pulls out the small white vas deferens tube. Then, the doctor injects the polymer gel (called Vasalgel here in the US), pushes the vas deferens back inside, repeats the process for the other vas deferens, puts a Band-Aid over the small hole, and the man is on his way.

Republicans in the House Judiciary subcommittee voted on Tuesday to expand Rep. Trent Franks’ (R-Ariz.) proposed D.C. abortion bill to apply to the whole country and advanced the bill favorably to the full committee. The bill would ban abortions after 20 weeks of pregnancy in the United States in all cases except those in which the mother’s life is in danger.

Feminist Recruitment & MRAs

Today’s feminist faces many challenges.  Among those challenges, there is one that is often overlooked: bringing new Sisters into the fold.

We need more people. We need more radicals.  We have plenty of soft feminists.  They serve a purpose. Their numbers are so high that, when we call for help and funding, small contributions from them quickly amount to large sums of money once these funds are pooled in one place.

They’re great for money, but not so great for keeping the movement alive and moving.  We need more radicals. We need more women who not only call themselves feminists, but are expertly familiar with the history of feminism, patriarchy, and theory as presented by feminism.  We must not allow the MRA’s version of feminism to taint our presentation of history and what feminism is about.  In other words, we must create new radicals before they have a chance to be ruined by this increasingly popular MRA trash that is consuming the internet.

Like it or not: MRAs are hurting us, and badly.  More and more people are beginning to question us.  More and more people are dropping “feminist” as an identifier. Never allow yourself to believe that what we have is safe; never allow yourself to think we have yet to be wounded.  Our movement is bleeding. We are hemorrhaging adherents. 

Part of the problem is MRA encounters with feminists are being recorded and replayed online, or our debates are being witnessed in social media chat features.

Modern feminism is under heavy assault by misogynists, mostly white, conservative males, masquerading as activists interested in gender equality.  With this hateful advent of Men’s Rights and the recent surge in interest in things having to do with society’s treatment of males compared to how society treats females, we are losing some needed attention that should be directed toward feminism and benefiting feminism, rather than hate campaigns against women to increase the already entitled, privileged position of males in the world. 

Let there be no doubt in your mind, Sisters. No doubt: MRAs and anything affiliated with Men’s Rights are YOUR enemy.  They are the enemy of all feminists, and all women whose position in life we have spent decades trying to benefit and bring to higher and higher standards in our societies around the globe. 

They use our words against us.  Sometimes it is necessary that we twist a few statistics, or possibly fabricate them.  This was a necessary evil.  Trust me.  Had we not had very frightening figures and numbers to present to the public and to the patriarchal government, we would not have had a leg to stand on to gain influence and power to shape the future and have an effect on how federal dollars are allocated. 

Yet, as things like this often do, it has come back around to be a small barb in our side.  Small, yes.  Just as we once did, Sisters, we must still sometimes exaggerate data, use it in a way to paint a picture that isn’t wholly accurate, and maybe even fabricate stories to use as real-life examples.  Feel no guilt, and offer no apologies, Sisters. Our movement is about politics. Never forget it.  Every politician does a little misdirecting and fabricating to increase his standing in the eye of the public.  It is a necessary evil. 

What to do when it some little inaccuracy is uncovered and used as a weapon against us by our enemies, these MRAs? The best thing to do is ignore it.  If you’re not prepared, ignore it. You’ll only end up losing a debate, and others may see it and how does that make us look?

But there are ways to evade and change the subject in such a sly fashion so smoothly that no one notices what you’ve done, and you can completely move the debate into another direction.  The goal isn’t to defeat the MRA in a debate.  The goal is the give the impression to those reading your debate that you’ve defeated him.

Until you are skilled at dealing with an MRA, do not engage.  Others are most likely observing. We cannot afford for a single person to see an MRA score points against us.

Until you become skilled at manipulating debates with MRAs, avoid debating. Stick to “feminism is about gender equality” and do not get into any heavy discourse with these men and the few female gender traitors whose only goal is to destroy what we have built.

It has taken us decades to gain the power we have over the US government and others around the world. DECADES. They seek to take that all away from us.  They even want “reproductive rights for men.”  Can you imagine?  Imagine a wife or young lady with a boyfriend wanting a child, and having to rely on some man to decide whether or not he wants a child.  They’re actually pushing for funding for male birth control!  On the surface this sounds perfectly reasonable and good. It isn’t, Sisters.  A post on that is coming in the future. For now, just rest assured: it is not good for men to have birth control OR reproductive rights.

Our bodies are what is used to develop those cellular clots into humans.  Our bodies.  Whether or not it is to be used for reproduction should be 100% our decision.  Even when we want a child and our spouse or boyfriend or casual partner may not.  Reproduction is a female right, and should remain that way.

But back to recruitment.  It isn’t easy to get new radicals.  The easiest way is to raise our daughters to be radical feminists.  Many of this do that: good on you, Sisters.  You are truly amazing and powerful women. But it isn’t enough. We need more.

Schools and higher education institutions are our best playground, along with facilities that assist women and mothers: welfare offices, Planned Parenthood facilities, women’s shelters, hospitals that treat women and children.

During the 80s and 90s there was a huge push for feminists to become teachers, leaders, and therapists.  It worked to our advantage better than we could have EVER imagined.  

We must do it again, Sisters.  If you are a young sister, a strong feminist who believes in our cause, please: consider studying to become an educator or a therapist.  Teachers have several hours at of each day, five days a week for most of a year to impress upon the young minds of our little girls almost anything they want.  

Subtle phrases and suggestions can plant a seed in a little girl’s mind that could make her ripe for sprouting into a full blown radical when she’s in her early and mid teens, where our middle school and high school teachers can carefully craft these young minds into the amazing, empowered, and courageous women who will herald in a new era of feminism in the years and decades to come.

If you are already in a field of educating or working as a therapist: begin working some of our theory into your daily routine.  Something small that the boys won’t notice, but that the girls will relate to.  It’s especially effective to foster an “us” feeling with little girls.  

Therapists have a unique and especially powerful position available to them.  A well placed feminist in a role of a therapist can turn almost anyone woman into whatever kind of radical she wants.  It is essential that when you have a female patient, that you relate to her as a woman, and not just as a therapist.  It is essential that you direct her frustration toward patriarchy.  Most of the problems in the lives of women are trickled down from patriarchy in some form or another. They key is to direct her attention to this, and to outline the path for her, so she can see how her problems are the result of patriarchy, and not because of her.  She needs something to blame, and patriarchy is the perfect target.  

This will be especially useful for patients who are divorcing, breaking up, or even seeking a male lover.  Whatever the situation, it can be directed toward patriarchal causes.  This link must *always* be made in the minds of these young women, whose hurting minds are perfect for shaping and directing toward a goal.

We aren’t going to lose this fight against this sudden emergence of MRA activity, no. But we might be set back by decades if we allow them to continue.  

We are safe from government and media for now.  No public figure would dare speak out against feminism.  Our numbers are such that we can put any public figure out of a job. Our power is at that point, and we must fight to keep it that way.