Being judgmental is a habit that I developed without thinking about it. I’ve never harbored bad intentions towards others, or desired to see them in a negative light, but over time my sensitivity to the ‘bad things’ happening around me, and my fears of being vulnerable, have developed into a state of anxiously judging everything in my world (including myself). This is something that I am guessing a great deal of empaths might struggle with (even if they’re not currently conscious of it). I am going to attempt to explain the difference between judgment and awareness.
When you’re an empath, you may be more prone to analyzing others, and yourself, than the average person. Sometimes, we become so overwhelmed by the pain we feel when others make choices that are harmful and negative, that we start to focus an incredible amount of attention on these negative behaviors. We may let these judgments keep us from loving, forgiving, and accepting others, and ourselves. We may push others away from us by calling them out on these so-called mistakes (thinking that we want to help them and that we can see the solution clearly). If your loved ones have been kind enough to point out to you that you are sometimes “too judgmental,” then it is time to stop being defensive and start paying attention to how you are directing your thoughts.
There is a difference between having spiritual awareness, and being judgmental. Being judgmental stems from our fears- our insecurities, our past experiences, and the challenges that our soul would like to overcome. ((If you would like to know how to begin recognizing your fears, I would recommend watching the AskTeal video, “What is Shadow Work? How do I do Shadow Work?”)) Fear comes from within us, from the mind, and can be erased with mindful practice. Awareness, on the other hand, comes from the spirit, from the Source. It is devoid of fear and full of peaceful, empowered knowing. We can achieve a state of loving awareness by consciously practicing our connection to Source/God/Love and releasing our fears, which impede our happiness as well as our gifts.