LGBTQ+ Awareness

So I will be speaking at a University about LGBTQ+ awareness in February, a friend of mine hit me up asking me to share my story and help spread equality within the gay, lesbian, queer, trans community. Im very excited and can’t wait, this was a goal of mine when I first started T, I wanted to help and spread as much awareness as possible so I’m stoked about this opportunity :) My girlfriend will record it so you guys can check it out! I will keep you posted! 

It is far better to grasp the universe as it really is than to persist in delusion, however satisfying and reassuring.
—  Carl Sagan
Leave a Gap

'What is the most important thing to do with each day? With each morning, each afternoon, each evening? It is to leave a gap. It doesn't matter whether you are practicing meditation or working, there is an underlying continuity. These gaps, these punctuations, are like poking holes in the clouds, poking holes in the cocoon. And these gaps can extend so that they can permeate your entire life, so that the continuity is no longer the continuity of discursive thought but rather one continual gap.

But before we get carried away by the idea of continual gap, let’s be realistic about where we actually are. We must first remind ourselves what the most important thing is. Then we have to learn how to balance that with the fact that we have jobs to do, which can cause us to become submerged in the details of our lives and caught in the cocoon of our patterns all day long. So find ways to create the gap frequently, often, continuously. In that way, you allow yourself the space to connect with the sky and the ocean, and the birds and the land and with the blessing of the sacred world. Give yourself the chance to come out of your cocoon.’

- Pema Codron, Waking Up to Your World, from the September 2008 issue of the Shambhala Sun.

So Here is What I Wanted to Tell You Today ~


Get a life. A real life, not a manic pursuit of the next promotion, the bigger paycheck, the larger house. Do you think you’d care so very much about those things if you blew an aneurysm one afternoon, or found a lump in your breast? Get a life in which you notice the smell of salt water pushing itself on a breeze over the boardwalk, a life in which you stop and watch how a red-tailed hawk circles over the water gap or the way a baby scowls with concentration when she tries to pick up a cheerio with her thumb and first finger.

Get a life. Send an email. Write a letter. Kiss your Mom. Hug your Dad. Get a life in which you are generous. Look around at the azaleas in the suburban neighborhood where you grew up; look at a full moon hanging silver in a black, black sky on a cold night. And realize that life is the best thing ever, and that you have no business taking it for granted.

I learned to live many years ago. Something really, really bad happened to me, something that changed my life in ways that, if I had my druthers, it would never have been changed at all. And what I learned from it is what, today, seems to be the hardest lesson of all. I learned to love the journey, not the destination. I learned that it is not a dress rehearsal, and that today is the only guarantee you get. I learned to look at all the good in the world and to try to give some of it back because I believed in it completely and utterly. And I tried to do that, in part, by telling others what I had learned. By telling them this:

Consider the lilies of the field. Look at the fuzz on a baby’s ear. Read in the backyard with the sun on your face. Learn to be happy. And think of life as a terminal illness because if you do you will live it with joy and passion, as it ought to be lived. Just keep your eyes and ears open, the classroom is everywhere. The exam comes at the very end. No man ever said on his deathbed, “I wish I had spent more time at the office.”

I found one of my best teachers on the boardwalk at Coney Island maybe 15 years ago. It was December, and I was doing a story about how the homeless survive in the winter months. He and I sat on the edge of the wooden supports, dangling our feet over the side, and he told me about his schedule, panhandling the boulevard when the summer crowds were gone, sleeping in a church when the temperature went below freezing, hiding from the police amidst the Tilt a Whirl and the Cyclone and some of the other seasonal rides. But he told me that most of the time he stayed on the boardwalk, facing the water, just the way we were sitting now even when it got cold and he had to wear his newspapers after he read them. And I asked him why. Why didn’t he go to one of the shelters? Why didn’t he check himself into the hospital for detox? And he just stared out at the ocean and said, “Look at the view, young lady. Look at the view.”

And every day, in some little way, I try to do what he said. I try to look at the view. And that’s the last thing I have to tell you today, words of wisdom from a man with not a dime in his pocket, no place to go, nowhere to be. Look at the view. You’ll never be disappointed!

Excerpt from: A Short Guide to a Happy Life … Written by Pulitzer Prize Winning Author and New York Times Columnist, Anna Quindlen …. I had the great honor to meet her some years ago during a “Young Women in Leadership” dinner I attended … I think she turned 60 this year … She had to be in her mid 40s when I met her - By now she has had about 8 books or so in the Best Seller category …

Two things she said in particular truly inspired me - One is: “I am not particularly qualified by profession or education to give advice or counsel. I’ve never earned a Doctorate. I am not an ethicist or philosopher, or expert in any particular field. I can’t talk about the economy, or the universe, or academe, as academicians like to call themselves when they’re feeling grand. I am a writer, a journalist. My work is human nature. Real life is really all I know ….”

She is not a “Deepak Chopra” or a “Marianne Williamson” type spiritual inspiration personality … She is a writer and journalist, real and raw … She has seen it all - the good, bad and the ugly …. BUT she chooses to focus on the positive, to inspire … as an inspiration writer, she offers real and raw common sense advice.

She was my inspiration for launching Our Journey to Balance … an advice and counsel inspiration blog that to my amazement has reached over 200,000 people just little over 2 years ….. God, that is so humbling, you know? … I have to pinch myself sometimes … I don’t even know what to say …. except thank you !!! to all the beautiful followers / friends / extended cyber family we have created here ………. You all are incredible !!!

Anyway …

Get a life. A real life. A full life. School never ends. The exam comes at the very end.

Trust the process. Enjoy the journey ….

Thank you for reading - Best to you - 

Have a blessed day … Maritza ( Our Journey to Balance )

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Teenagers shouldn’t be waiting in gynaecologists rooms, waiting to hear how many months before their next surgery. They shouldn’t have to undergo an “adult” surgery and then wake up in a paediatric ward embarrassed to say why they are there. Teenagers shouldn’t have to talk about fertility with doctors or try more “contraception” medications than most woman in their adult life. We shouldn’t have to face the stares of pregnant woman as we walk out of the pelvic ultrasound room…. Teenagers shouldn’t have conditions like endometriosis, PCOS, chronic cysts and so much more. No one should. But we do and until we can find a cure we need understanding not judgement. It’s not just a bad period, it’s the rest of our lives and that isn’t our fault.

are you fully listening to those around you? open yourself to what is being said. we often latch onto the components of a conversation that we want to (or don’t want to) hear, and by limiting our focus to those components we may be missing entirely the speaker’s intended message. explore the filters that you’ve created for yourself and break them down. open your ears, your mind, your heart.

a little sprinkling of seriousness...

it’s been three years. 

i’m not in a hole anymore. i haven’t even felt remotely close to how hopeless and alone and worthless as i felt that day. i have hope. and i have happiness. and i have the most incredible people in my life. it’s because of them. phillip and jordan and taylor and noah and jeremy and everyone who has touched my life this past year. it’s because of you. 

if i ever give something important to someone, i would want to give the comfort that knowing that good people in your life are better than any therapy or medication or simple solution that you can find. 

and dont underestimate the type of person you can be for others. being a friend to someone helps them and helps you too. 

i know how it feels to feel alone. and i just want to put it out there that im here. my ask box is always open. in my links i have ways to contact me. i will never be offended or inconvenienced by any message. i may take a minute to answer but that’s because i can be a little shit. and im sorry but im still there for you. 

anyway. that’s all. 

i really do mean it when i say i love all of you. i really do. 


You cannot teach a smile.
Whenever I am tempted to fall fully back into the destructive habit that created that brittle smile on the top left, I look at the photo on the top left.
Purging makes you a shadow. It takes and robs and warps your entire world.
Today my head told me to go back. Today I ignored my head. Today I remembered that terrible road, and turned my back on it.
Small victories. Small, yes. But victories nonetheless.

this is so important on so many levels. please realize that mental health is not a fashion trend and should not be treated as such. you can’t try on depression for the day and give yourself a spritz of bulimia. not only are you disrespecting the millions of people suffering in silence but you’re helping to perpetrate a culture in which pain is looked upon as ok and not something you can ask for help with


Most people can’t handle the truth because they #fear the unknown and the unfamiliar, therefore making them a product of the matrix. Makes most vulnerable and unaware, as well as unaccepting to mind expansion and knowledge seeking.
Go beyond. Go within. Learn. Grow. Grow in truth! 😃✌️
#positivevibrations #alyssagadson #awareness #eyeloveyouall
Thank you @4biddenknowledge 😃😘✨ #highvibrations to you!