Hey cuties! So all my new chokers are up in the store!
I am so stoked about these little beauties, but I have so many amazing ideas for pieces that I can’t wait to make for you. The only problem is that i am 100% out of supplies and money. The only way I can make better quality stuff (or more stuff at all) is if I sell what I’ve already made. Everything is at intro prices and relatively cheap for the time and energy I have put into them (everything is charged and blessed).
My only income rn is my freelance writing (which only pays 150$ a month) and this store. I am neurodivergent and trans which makes it super hard for me to have traditional employment that doesn’t make me feel like total shit mentally and physically.
While I am blessed to have an amazing partner who pays the rent, I need money for my car insurance, my meds, loans, and to have money to become a California resident so i can switch health care plans to get too surgery.
Everything up in the store rn ranges from 5-25$ so it’s not crazy expensive. If y'all could stop by and take a look and pass this along that would be so amazing.
My church let me put together a Children’s story about autism acceptance for April
Hello my name is **** and I am autistic. Do you guys know what autistic means?
Have you know when you say the exact wrong thing at the exact wrong time? Autistic people do that a lot.
Have you ever said something and everyone looks at you like you’re from a foreign planet? Autistic people get that a lot.
Have you ever felt like you are not very good at talking to people and you get nervous when you are around a lot of people? Autistic people feel like that all the time.
Autistic people have more in common with everybody else than they have differences.
I am autistic and I like to have friends, hang out, have fun. I have hopes and dreams and fears and most of what I do is what everyone else does.
When people find out I am autistic they sometimes ask me if I ever had to take “special classes”. And I tell them yes, I was mostly in honors and advanced placement classes in school.
When people find out I am autistic sometimes they ask if I’ve ever hurt anyone. And I tell them I punched a girl once in 6th grade and although she was being really mean, violence is never the right answer and I still feel really bad about that.
When people find out I’m autistic from my mom they sometimes totally ignore me and think I can’t speak for myself. And I speak up when people treat me like this.
If someone is different that doesn’t mean they are less.
April, this month is autism acceptance month.
Autism speaks is an organization that sees different as less and promotes “autism awareness” and a Cure for autism.
Mozart, Bill Gates, Beethoven, Sir Isaac Newton, Emily Dickinson, Henry Ford and Thomas Jefferson were all 100% autistic and because they could see the world in a way others could not the world is a better place. These people did not need a cure.
Microsoft is a company that specifically tries to hire people with autism. This is because most autistic people seem to have a natural talent for working with computers. This is probably because this is a job that needs little to no social skills and you have to be able to picture things and remember hundreds of computer commands, which autistic people are really good at. I have been a blogger for less than a year and have almost 3,000 followers. Silicon Valley, where most of our computer chips are made, 90% of all these people are autistic, why? Because they are super smart!
Autism does not need a cure, we need to cure people of ignorance. It’s true that autism makes life hard. I think in pictures and most people think in words, so I have trouble communicating sometimes.
My senses are 10 times more sensitive than the average person because of my autism. All the lights are too bright, the food is too sweet and I don’t want you to shake my hand or hug me because then I will smell your laundry detergent, soap, perfume or cologne on me for the rest of the day, which is overwhelming for me.
I don’t understand how to lie. I am completely gender and color blind, I value education, intelligence and I am a unique, quirky, and super intelligent. I am this way because of my autism.
My brain is wired a bit differently, and that is o.k. I don’t need or want a cure, I want I little patience, understanding and I want to be treated like a human being with kindness and respect.
Here at our church we accept all people of all gender, orientation and autism spectrums.
Not-autistic people use this line a lot when trying to devalue the statements of autistic people that they deem as “high functioning”.
So, as one of those “low functioning” people they point at as counter-examples, I am standing up and saying “yes they do.”
I do not speak, I do not understand when you speak. Remember you said “those people who cannot speak” as evidence of the label.
I need help going potty. I am not proud of it, but it’s a fact of life. I need to pee just as often as you do, but my body doesn’t tell my brain that, so sometimes my pants get wet when I remember to put them on. That makes me low functioning by your standards. Remember - you said “those people that need help going to the bathroom” as evidence of the label.
I cannot make reasonable decisions about finances. I spend hundreds of dollars a month on an Internet site that gives me a virtual world in which to have friends because in the physical world people scare the poop out of me (see previous point about why that is a bad thing). Remember - you said “those people who can’t handle finances for themselves” as evidence of the label.
I need 24/7 care so I don’t hurt myself by accident because I forget what I am doing while I am doing it, such as cutting an onion with a sharp knife and wave my hand with the knife still in it. Remember you said “those people who need round the clock care” as evidence of the label.
Yup - I fit your bullet list of low functioning.
I don’t post arguments against your ableism and attacks on autistic people. Not because I agree with you but because fighting hurts me. When you claim I need to be “cured”, I do not call you out and say mean things about you because being confrontational hurts me, not because you are right.
You are not speaking for me in my silence, you are speaking over me. I want to tell you what an ass you are but my head won’t let me fight because it HURTS for me to argue.
While your head lets you be an ass and say untrue things, my head won’t let me. I must always be honest AND I must also maintain calm or I might get violent. This does not prove your point, it only silences me. Silencing me does not mean you are right, it only means you are more willing to be an ass than I am.
The “high functioning” autistics that argue for rights for me DO speak for me. In ways I cannot fight they defend me. In places I cannot go because of my fears, they stand for me. In groups that scare the poop out of me, they clean up the mess for me and stand for me.
You, who are not autistic, do not stand for me. Do not tell those that are capable of fighting your hate that they do not speak for me. They do.
I was aware of autism five years before I even started to consider that I could be autistic. It was six years of that awareness before I was diagnosed by a doctor who knew autism is a lot more complicated and varied than what fits neatly into “autism awareness” campaigns. I was never like the poster children for autism, who are white, cisgender boys (never adults) from (upper)middle-class families. I didn’t think I could be autistic until I found what actual autistic people had to say about autism.
Autism awareness, at least as it currently exists, fails a large segment of the autistic population. Most people aren’t white, cisgender boys. We need awareness that includes atypical autism traits. If I or my family had read that list of traits when I was fifteen, I might have realised I’m autistic a lot sooner and found the resources and support I need much sooner, too.
My autistic traits are atypical, and they’re full of contradiction. I’m intelligent and even good at language, even metaphorical and idiomatic language, but sometimes I can’t remember how to form sentences or forget words for everyday things like chairs or my own native language just starts to sound like complete gibberish. I struggle to answer “how are you?” but I’m often complimented on my self-awareness and understanding of both my own and other’s emotions. The tiniest sounds can distract me or give me a headache, but sometimes I can’t even hear someone shouting my name. Autism is inconsistent. It’s complicated.
If you want to know what autism looks like, if you want to spread real awareness, then you need to listen to the people who know autism best: autistic people. Maybe this “Autism Awareness Month,” instead of wearing blue, walking to raise money for a dangerous organisation, sharing stories meant to incite fear or pity, or putting blue ribbons on everything out of the irrational belief that ribbons solve everything (seriously, stop it; ribbons don’t cure cancer either)–instead of spreading unhelpful awareness created by non-autistic people, you can help spread and deepen awareness of what autism actually is by reading and sharing the accounts of actual autistic people.
[Image is of the rainbow infinity neurodiversity symbol located between two lines of text. The line above it reads “Coolautism’s Autistic self care kit giveaway” and the one below it reads “sadly we cannot giveaway spoons so a self care kit it is”]
Yes it is time, I promised you all a giveaway and it will happen!
You must be in the US (I can’t afford to ship internationally)
Reblogs and likes both count as entries
Reblog as much as you want
Giveaway blogs are not allowed
You must have your ask box open when the giveaway ends
If you win you must respond within 7 days of me messaging you
You need to be ok with giving me your shipping address
Giveaway ends on April 1st (No it’s not an April fools joke)
Winner will be selected via random number generator
All items will be shipped directly to you from the companies that make them so they will not all arrive at once. I just can’t handle the post office or else I would package them up nicely and send them out myself.
The difference between Lush and Moon’s Harvest bath bombs is that Moon’s Harvest bombs smell a lot stronger and have a slightly oily feel. Lush is more subtle. I personally prefer Lush but I offer Moon’s Harvest for those who like to stim by smelling things.
If for any reason, sensory or otherwise, something on the prize list won’t work for you I’m ok replacing it with another item of a similar price. Just let me know if that’s needed when I message you.
If you are not autistic but would like to signal boost this for your autistic followers just put “signal boost” in the tags so I know it’s not an entry.
I think that’s all the information necessary. Direct all questions to the ask box and they will be answered asap. Much love and many happy stims!
Edit: Added some info people had asked about and another prize item.
-You try to book a flight, but the website redirects you to one for a train station. You hail a taxi, but the driver only points you toward the train station. You try to board a boat, but there is only a train station. The world is a train station.
-There’s a lowing of cattle in the distance as they speak her name. Temple Grandin. You look in the mirror and a cow’s face stares back at you. Your skin still feels like your own, but the cow is all that anyone will ever seen.
-They stare at you with eyes that never look away, even when turning corners or facing a different direction. Their smiles grow tight as you discuss your interests, translucent as onion paper, and you can see the annoyance simmering beneath. Their ears are jammed with puzzle pieces. The puzzle pieces are blue.
-Each of you wears a brand. The brands read either High or Low. When the time comes to discuss your people, the Highs are cast out the nearest window. The Lows sit under the table as They talk about them.
-A sea of faceless children of indeterminate age follows you wherever you go. They are between the ages of three to seven, mostly boys. They act nothing like you, so how can you be autistic? What are you really, hiding beneath a human skin?
-”My child is missing!” a mother screams, though the child stands right there. Other voices join the chorus, a deafening wail that you cannot comprehend.
-The walls mutter when you move, drown you out when you speak. “Quiet hands,” they whisper. “Person-first language!” they shout.
that autistic feel when ur tryin to cross the street alone and you cant tell if the cars are going to hit you or not and theres no crosswalk nearby, so you wait for every single car to cross and it feels like every allistic in the town is staring at you for taking so long to cross the street but you just cant. tell. if. ur. gonna. get. hit.
“The word autism is considered something wrong. But people sometimes have different conditions. I am autistic and I communicate very differently. I belong to this same world as everyone else does. I belong to so called society as the other beings do. I am an individual who is not less determined than other people to have some day an opportunity for being competent.”
…Okay, so, the Autism Spectrum is legitimately a thing and there are a lot of people out there who just don’t seem to get it.
Some equate the word “spectrum” with the concept of a scale, which is not what that word means. I guess they’re thinking of a line that runs the gamut of shades from red through to violet. Thing is, hearing the word spectrum should instead be conjuring an image of a colour wheel…
ID: Image shows six icons; the apple pinwheel, the adobe colour wheel, red-green-blue and magenta-yellow-cyan Venn diagrams, the ASAN logo and a colour spectrum.
The whole point of using “spectrum” is that it’s an alternative to the out-dated practice of ranking autistics on a line from high to low functioning, verbal to non-verbal, or any other irrelevant criteria.
The very idea of the “Autistic Spectrum” is that our neurotype can’t be defined by a one-dimensional range from black to white with grey in the middle - there are a vast multitude of hues where any given autistic person can be situated on any given day. Much like the wavelengths of light and colour which we all see differently, each autistic person is a variation of the same theme, always in flux, constantly changing and evolving, every individual experience bringing new depth to the chromatic masterpiece that is Autism.
ID: Image shows a rainbow cloud composed of handfuls gulal, or multi-coloured powder dyes that have been thrown into the air by a large group of people who are celebrating Holi (glimpses of these people are visible within the flying colours). Photo credit to ‘White Massif,’ an event management company in Bangalore. http://whitemassif.com/7-awesome-holi-party-ideas/
Some fail to grasp the importance of a spectrum that unites us all because they are blinded by a sense of belonging (and simple stubbornness); there are many who don’t want to let go of an identity they finally fit into perfectly. I get that, and anyone is totally free to identify however they want – on their own time…It’s really not cool to dismiss those of us who find functioning labels hurtful.
Anyone who is aware of the harm caused by the negative connotations associated with such language shouldn’t propagate the use of terminology that segregates their own people and promotes ableist ideals.
The following links are good perspectives on why functioning labels are bad:
So, basically, it would be really helpful towards achieving equality, acceptance and equal rights if the entire Autistic Community could agree to ditch the old labels and settle on a new term that’s prismatically, kaleidoscopically inclusive.
That’s the spectrum.
ID: Image shows two circular spectrums. The first is split into eight sections of different colours with the saturation on a gradient towards white in the centre. The second shows the word 'spectrum’ fit into the aforementioned sections of the same circle. Instead of a gradient, the second image has the letters each in one of eight colours and the space behind them in the opposite colour.
If we separate ourselves into different classifications of autistic, whether that’s using functioning labels or adamantly sticking with “Asperger’s,” it is guaranteed to encourage the kind of ableist behaviour that will allow others to use our differences to maintain a caste system based on their own arbitrary values.
Like I said, people should call themselves whatever they want on their own time, be whoever they want to be… but please, everyone – stop condoning practices which help to put the rest of us into boxes we’ve had no hand in creating and have no desire to be trapped by.
Yes, everyone is entitled to their own identity, but no; being autistic does not give any one person a free pass to trivialize the discrimination that others have experienced. And, F.Y.I., that’s exactly what many are doing when they insist on using functioning labels or person-first language.
ID: This diagram shows the same circular spectrum as in the first of the pair of colour wheels in the previous image. Added to it around the outside of the spectrum in blocky lettering are eight section titles and within each slice of the circle is text that indicates a sliding scale from one state to another (two words or terms with an arrow between them).
The eight sections are as follows:
Emotional Sensitivities = empathetic > stoic
Physical Sensitivities = sensitive > stalwart
Physical Conditions = tough > tender
Motor Skills = dynamic > static
Disability = prolific > expendable
Neurological Conditions = impulsive > compulsive
Communication = articulate > expressive
Filtering & Processing = perceptive > perplexed
Note: The above image is a visual representation of how different hues can be related to different types of autistic qualities. It displays only eight categories with a straightforward scale attached to each which by no means covers every autistic experience. The idea is that any person can simultaneously be in many places within the spectrum and that each point of reference is constantly fluctuating. This is just an example of how the spectrum can be seen.
Autism is neurological. It’s irreversible and immutable.
We are autistic; we are autism.
It’s not possible to separate a person from the essential aspects of their being and personality. Yes, autism can be hard and disabling, but it also has a myriad of multi-faceted benefits. Those two sides of it cannot be separated either.
No one is with their autism anymore than they are with homosexuality or heterosexuality. No one is with their autism anymore than they are with their gender or nationality or religion or political beliefs.
I am an agnostic living with astigmatism. Note the difference.
ID: The last image shows a line of circles that each contain a small section of one of six abstract paintings. Each one is different but all of them show a spectrum of colour.
Everyone is entitled to their own opinion. I can’t disagree with that, but this is about more than how we all take our eggs in the morning; it’s not a debate between scrambled and sunny-side-up (or nothing at all because eggs are sensory minefields) – it’s about a whole diverse group of people who have been oppressed and pigeonholed for centuries.
This is about human rights. This is about respect.
Don’t let prejudice lead to violence. Read and share the #DDoM2015list of names. Understand why we, as a community, must concur on a palette which encompasses all of our needs.
Together we can shift the winds of change towards acceptance and understanding, and away from analyzing and evaluating the functionality and worth of other human beings like we’re specimens in a lab.
Instead of examining and ranking each person by the potential for remuneration, let’s opt to value each other for the uniquely colourful creatures we are. Humanity is a spectrum, our planet is a spectrum, the whole universe is a spectrum; autism is a spectrum.
“I have a cousin who might be autistic. He does not like physical touch like hugs and kisses, so I’ve always had a hard time being close to him. After we watched BH6 together, we always fist bump and say "balalalala”. I’m so thankful for bh6. I feel like we can bond now"
so I thought I would post something about no shame day since its something my followers dont know about me. I suspect that I have aspergers. Im afraid to get a diagnosis, because I am transgender and it could prevent me from receiving hormone therapy. But it does affect me. It makes social situations extremely hard for me. I can’t eat a lot of foods or go to certain places because of sensory issues, I get overwhelmed easily, and sometimes I go nonverbal. It doesnt take a lot for me to shut down. Im extremely dependant on the people I do manage to become close with, and its very hard for me to cope with anyone leaving. People get frustrated with me often. Its the reason I take so long to answer messages, because I get extremely nervous and overwhelmed at the thought of tackling them all, so im sorry for that. I hide it pretty well, so a lot of the people ive confided in have a hard time believing me, which has been pretty hard. But today is no shame day, and so I wanted to tell all of you. I want to stop feeling like I have to hide this part of me.
Its time to stop being ashamed of our disabilities.