so many parents of Autistic kids talk about how tragic it is that their kids won’t hug them or be affectionate but like

kids are not machines made to give you love and niceness

your kids are not responsible for making you feel loved and good about yourself. they are not supposed to be your parents they’re your kids 

preventing an autistic person from stimming is abuse

preventing an autistic person from stimming is abuse

  • preventing an autistic person from stimming is abuse

i dont care if it “looks weird”

i dont care if you’re embarrassed.

it doesnt fucking matter

the only reason that a stim should be discouraged is if it is causing immediate harm to the autistic person or others. 

if you try to shut down stimming in an autistic person, you are an abusive fuck and i hate you.

We are used to ignoring our own bodies. “These carrots are too spicy” we complained as a child, only to be told no, they were sweet, that the music wasn’t too loud, nobody can hear lights, what you are experiencing is invalid. We heard: you are invalid. You do not experience the world the same way as everyone else, and therefore, your experience is wrong. You learn to ignore the ever-present pain because nothing can be done about it, but then you have a kidney infection and others get mad at you for not noticing sooner. But why should you trust your body when it is always wrong?
Hi everyone!

I just thought I’d throw my blog out there, introduce myself and all that since I realized that after 3 years of running this blog, I’ve never actually done this properly. 

I’m Carol Alice, I’m autistic (obviously) and my blog is all about bringing a lighter side and a bit of humor to a neurological type that is too often solely depicted as being all doom and gloom. I love to answer questions and help people as much as I can, so feel free to stop by and ask anything! I like to keep my blog as casual and personal as I can because I want people to see an autistic person that’s not only living happily with it but is also very proud of it. I also post about anxiety issues and things that happen in my life to do with autism, so all people are welcome, you know, self diagnosed, professionally diagnosed, moose diagnosed, I don’t mind. That, that was a joke, moose can’t diagnose people, they aren’t certified…..anyway, yeah, stop by and say hi! :)

-I Am Autistic/Carol Alice <3

Non autistic person: “Are you sure you’re autistic? My 5 year old cousin is autistic, and he’s nothing like you?”

Autistic person: “Are you sure you’re not autistic? My 3 year old niece isn’t autistic, and she’s nothing like you? Like, she can barely read, and she likes different things to you? Isn’t it really odd that people twenty years apart in age are different? And that one of them has more skills than the other? In fact, it’s actually really surprising that all people with the same neurotype aren’t totally identical? Isn’t that odd? People are different to each other?”

Well, it's 4am and I haven't slept...

I’m feeling a little manic and I’m listening to Panic! At The Disco, so of course that put me into a terrific mood, Brendon Urie always does. I just wanted you all to know that I think you’re all incredible, if any of you are having a hard day, I know you can make it through whatever’s going on. If you think you can’t I want you to take a deep breath, consciously relax yourself and think, not about what’s going on, not about yourself or your ‘flaws’ or whatever’s troubling you. I want you to think about space, think about the Earth, think about how amazing life can be. Now, take another deep breath and stand up, stretch all your muscles out, even wash your face off with cold water. Then come back to your computer or phone or whatever you’re using and I want you to listen to me, are you listening? good. You are incredible, you are so amazing I don’t even know how to put your uniqueness into words, you are beyond description and how sad would it be not for the world to lose that but for you to not get the chance to experience your own soul that is so amazing. You deserve to know yourself, whether you believe it now or not, you are brilliantly incredible! You have such a beautiful heart, don’t let the cruelness that exists tear that apart, even if it’s yourself and your self esteem, don’t believe yourself when you say all those horrible things about yourself, because they aren’t true. They are so not true I don’t know where to begin! You are a beautiful human being! Now, if you think you can, I want you to pick yourself up and go on because you’re so strong I know you’ll make it through this, darling. Please, just keep fighting! It’s not easy but it’s so worth it!

-Carol Alice <3

Autistic people are no more likely than any other group to commit acts of violence. People with disabilities of all kinds, including autism, are vastly more likely to be the victims of violent crime than the perpetrators. There is no link between autism and violent crime. Similarly, there is no link between psychiatric disability and violent crime.

Reminder to not support autism speaks this month! They’re a horrible organisation for multiple reasons:

1. Despite being called “autism speaks”, not a single member of their board is autistic. Not even one.

2. Only 3% of their budget is spent on family services, while a whopping 44% of their budget goes to research, and only a small amount of that is actually used to help autistic people. The majority is spent on finding a cause and a “cure”, as they see autism as an illness to be treated.

3. They have made several incredibly problematic videos, one of which even features a board member talking about how she considered driving her and her daughter off a cliff due to her daughter’s autism. The worst part? Her daughter was right there with them.

4. Their campaigns are designed to create fear, stigma and prejudice. Instead of educating people, they spread the misconception that autistic people are a burden on society. They use awful stereotypes and frequently devalue our lives.

5. They have six figure salaries. A charity organisation aimed at helping autistic people has no autistic board members and pays the board members they do have six figure salaries. If that doesn’t reek of taking advantage of us for profit, then I don’t know what does.

6. They have worked with the Judge Rotenberg Center.For people who’ve heard of that, that’s probably enough to make you realise just how horrible they are. For those who haven’t, a quick google search is in order, however keep in mind that what you’ll find is really quite horrific.

Before someone complains about sources, a quick google search can direct you to solid sources for every single one of these facts.

So now that you’re a little more educated, who should you be supporting this month? 

Autistic Self-Advocacy Network (ASAN)

A group by autistic people, for autistic people. Provides support, community, and public policy advocacy.

Autism Network International (ANI)

Another autistic-run self-help and advocacy organisation. Every year they host an autism conference called Autreat, designed to be accessible and welcoming to autistic people.

Autism Society of America

This group works to increase public awareness of day-to-day issues faced by people on the autistic spectrum. They also advocate for appropriate services for autistic individuals at all stages of their life, and provide the lastest information on research, education, advocacy and more.

Remember, there’s nothing wrong with donating to a charity, but make sure it’s the right one. Especially this month. Every single year, autistic people are spoken over constantly during a month that’s supposed to be dedicated to raising awareness for them. Please, don’t let that continue.

And again, a quick google search should turn up sources to back up every single one of these facts and more.

Autistic People: *talking about autism*

Other Autistic People: Yeah! That’s what it’s like to have autism!

More Autistic People: *continuing the conversation about autism*

An Allistic Person: *breaks down the door* Actually, you’ve got it all wrong! My aunt’s cousins’ dogsitter’s son has autism, I AM THE EXPERT ON AUTISM!