I went out to dinner tonight with the girls from work for my birthday. It’s the first time I’ve ever invited a group out. I was going to say the first time I ever invited the people at work out but then I realised I’ve never invited anyone. There were 6 of us girls and I feel like they are all good friends of mine and it was comfortable and a really nice atmosphere. I really enjoyed it (:

To some people that might not seem like the kind of achievement it is for me. As someone with aspergers I think my family and society expect me to not have friends. I don’t know if I’m abnormal for an autistic person but it’s not true for me that I don’t want social interaction. I find it very difficult to form friendships and relationship and I’ve spent a lot of my life very lonely and isolated.

I was bullied to the extreme all through school and now as an adult I’m still struggling to unlearn the expectation that everyone I meet would automatically hate me. I find conversations with new people absolutely terrifying. Groups of girls in particular have been a source of humiliation and exclusion and so to now work in a predominantly female workplace and feel like I’m part of the circle is just so wonderful.

I really feel like in the last couple of years I’ve learnt a lot about friendships and am in a better place to be able to form and maintain healthy relationships with people. And I’m really proud of that.

anonymous asked:

So I finally built up the courage to come out as trans to my open-minded (though somewhat radfem/sjw as of late) sister. She was understanding to a point, but countered all of my explanations with "Gender is a social construct so you must be genderfluid." Do you guys have any advice of how to explain that I understand that it's a social construct, but I'm okay with that? (If that makes sense.)

um i’m not sure how to explain that, but i find it odd that at one moment she says ‘gender is a social construct’ and then says you must be nonbinary the next.

~the aspie one

A wall of sound.

I tried explaining to my husband the difference between how he is hit by sounds in a chaotic environment and how I am.

It’s basically like, most people can tune out certain sounds, and allow themselves to focus on just one or two sounds.

But for me, even in a supposedly QUIET place, I’m bombarded constantly by multiple sounds all at one time, and I can’t tune some of them out, I can’t separate them, they all hit me at the same time at the same level.

And that isn’t even taking into account all the other things I’m hit with along with the sounds—like smells, proximity to people, sensations…all sorts of things.

supercandyflosss asked:

Like you know anything about orientalism, you stupid piece of trash. Get off the computer and go play with your aspie friends, oh wait, you don't have any....

who makes a blog just to send mean messages to someone?

and i say mean but like this is such a bad attempt to hurt my feelings it’s just pathetic

You know what happened to me today that made me want to make a difference even more?
A couple of weeks ago when I spoke in front of my entire school about my experiences as an aspie, with depression, and what kind of things society tells you because of this, I got a lot of good feedback. I had a lot of people come up to be and tell me how much they likes my words and how I spoke them. Some people came up to me specifically opening up to me, and that felt really good to know that I have the power to connect with others like that.
But today I was told by a guidance councillor was at a student’s meeting the other day (this student also has Aspergers), and apparently that person really felt what I was saying, at least enough to tell their parents and the meeting that it had a positive effect on them.
I dunno, it just felt really good to know that I actually made a tangible effect. I like knowing that I have that kid his own source of empowerment. When teacher’s talk about his school progress, I’m glad I could be brought up as a positive influence. Maybe I’ve made their school life just a bit better, or maybe I’ve changed a huge part of them that will lead them to even better things.
This has really been making me think a lot today, but one thought that’s consistent is that I did something good, and I definitely want to do more.

I recently came across this book. 
It is a book about the struggles of a family, a dad, with two children who have autism.

I am absolutely disgusted by it. By the title, the content and by the summary given. 

I’m autistic myself, aspergers, and yes, there are struggles and yes, it’s really hard sometimes. But for a person, a dad, to make this book with a title like that? It’s just disgusting. 
And I think (hope) that everyone, not even just the autism community, would gladly see this book off the racks.

It now has a 2.5 star rating. Which means, that if you search on average costumer review, in the catogory autism & aspergers, this book will pop up pretty fast.
I myself (and hopefully lots of other people who come across this book) am fortunately good in handling bad talking about autism, but I’d hate for an insecure 11 year old who happens to have asperger or some form of autism, try and find a book on amazon about it and stumble across this. It is pretty triggering. Not only for people with autism or people who know and love people who have autism, but I think also for people who have lost loved ones from a form of cancer, or currently are struggling with cancer in their family and/or friend group.

So please, everyone with a amazon account, try and rate this down. 
I’d love for this book to just disappear, but since that’s not really an option, try and help do the second best thing, which is trying to make it disappear from the shelves.

10 Myths About Introverts

Myth #1 – Introverts don’t like to talk.
This is not true. Introverts just don’t talk unless they have something to say. They hate small talk. Get an introvert talking about something they are interested in, and they won’t shut up for days.

Myth #2 – Introverts are shy.
Shyness has nothing to do with being an Introvert. Introverts are not necessarily afraid of people. What they need is a reason to interact. They don’t interact for the sake of interacting. If you want to talk to an Introvert, just start talking. Don’t worry about being polite.

Myth #3 – Introverts are rude.
Introverts often don’t see a reason for beating around the bush with social pleasantries. They want everyone to just be real and honest. Unfortunately, this is not acceptable in most settings, so Introverts can feel a lot of pressure to fit in, which they find exhausting.

Myth #4 – Introverts don’t like people.
On the contrary, Introverts intensely value the few friends they have. They can count their close friends on one hand. If you are lucky enough for an introvert to consider you a friend, you probably have a loyal ally for life. Once you have earned their respect as being a person of substance, you’re in.

Myth #5 – Introverts don’t like to go out in public.
Nonsense. Introverts just don’t like to go out in public FOR AS LONG. They also like to avoid the complications that are involved in public activities. They take in data and experiences very quickly, and as a result, don’t need to be there for long to “get it.” They’re ready to go home, recharge, and process it all. In fact, recharging is absolutely crucial for Introverts.

Myth #6 – Introverts always want to be alone.
Introverts are perfectly comfortable with their own thoughts. They think a lot. They daydream. They like to have problems to work on, puzzles to solve. But they can also get incredibly lonely if they don’t have anyone to share their discoveries with. They crave an authentic and sincere connection with ONE PERSON at a time.

Myth #7 – Introverts are weird.
Introverts are often individualists. They don’t follow the crowd. They’d prefer to be valued for their novel ways of living. They think for themselves and because of that, they often challenge the norm. They don’t make most decisions based on what is popular or trendy.

Myth #8 – Introverts are aloof nerds.
Introverts are people who primarily look inward, paying close attention to their thoughts and emotions. It’s not that they are incapable of paying attention to what is going on around them, it’s just that their inner world is much more stimulating and rewarding to them.

Myth #9 – Introverts don’t know how to relax and have fun.
Introverts typically relax at home or in nature, not in busy public places. Introverts are not thrill seekers and adrenaline junkies. If there is too much talking and noise going on, they shut down. Their brains are too sensitive to the neurotransmitter called Dopamine. Introverts and Extroverts have different dominant neuro-pathways. Just look it up.

Myth #10 – Introverts can fix themselves and become Extroverts.
A world without Introverts would be a world with few scientists, musicians, artists, poets, filmmakers, doctors, mathematicians, writers, and philosophers. That being said, there are still plenty of techniques an Extrovert can learn in order to interact with Introverts. (Yes, I reversed these two terms on purpose to show you how biased our society is.) Introverts cannot “fix themselves” and deserve respect for their natural temperament and contributions to the human race. In fact, one study (Silverman, 1986) showed that the percentage of Introverts increases with IQ.