aspies

Autistic New Year Asks

1. What food did you eat most often this year?

2. What grossed you out this year?

3. What was your go to stim?

4. Did you change any habits/or switch routines this year or stay the same?

5. Did you do anything that surprised your family or friends?

6. Did you do anything that surprised yourself?

7. What was your favorite thing you learned?

8. Did you talk to anyone interesting?

9. What was your favorite article of clothing?

10. What was one thing that made you mad?

11. What was one thing that made you really happy?

12. What was/were your special interest/interests this year?

13. What stim toys did you use?

14. Where was your favorite place to visit this year?

15. Where did you spend the most time?

16. What tv character did you identify with most this year?

17. What show did you binge watch?

18. Did you do anything new this year that you hope to do more of?

19. what did you do to help with meltdowns?

20. What song did you listen to the most?

fire-red-vixen asked:

For all mods you care to answer this question! What are your biggest problems with Sexuality and Gender head canons?

my main problems is when someone headcannons a character as being ___ sexual/gender etc. and when they come accross someone who thinks differently even if the said person didn’t diss their headcanon in any way, and call the the _____phobic solely for a different headcanon even if the person has never said anything negative about _____sexuality/gender.

~the aspie one

Thoughts on "The Imitation Game" (bit of a sad rant, really)

Thought no. 1: ALL the Oscars to Benedict Cumberbatch.

Thought no. 2: Fuck you, past humans who forced chemical castration on gay people. Eternal shame on all of you sick, twisted douchebags.

Thought no. 3: The Alan Turing portrayed in this movie has a very typical form of Asperger’s Syndrome. (socially underdeveloped, literal understanding of language, separates his food according to colours, etc.)

Which brings me to this gnawing thought I have. Being an aspie myself, I have mixed feelings about aspies being portrayed as geniuses. Obviously, I see how having Asperger’s sets you up to become a genius in a field, because of intens interest, high intelligence and hyper-focus, and I’ll believe many geniuses (Alan Turing included, if this portrayal is correct - although it is never explicitly said in the movie) would have been diagnosed with ASD today. On one hand, I feel kinda proud to see such depictions. It’s great seeing aspies (real or fictional) who because of their condition have difficulties with certain things, still have their own value in that they are excellent in other areas, even excelling where neurotypicals cannot, thus proving their worth in society.

However, it has become somewhat of a trend to show aspie characters (or characters who share some of the traits) as geniuses, in a sort of “this person might be socially inept, but we forgive them because they are brilliant”-type of thinking. (Examples of characters like this are Sherlock Holmes, Dr. Gregory House, Abed Nadir, Sheldon Cooper and Dr. “Bones” Brennan). I understand why some aspie behaviour may seem funny, and it’s good to laugh at painful things, (and I absolutely love these characters) but I have problems with this way of thinking for 2 reasons:

1: Neither Asperger’s nor a brilliant mind is an excuse to be rude or mean to people. Some characters are confronted, but many are excused, or their mean-ness is glossed over because people find their quirkiness charming. 1B) Most often, aspies don’t mean to be rude, and I don’t like how some shows portray this trait as coming from arrogance rather than ignorance (or rather, forgetting that other people’s point of view may differ from your own)

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(“Sherlock” does this well.)

2. I (sometimes) don’t like the aspie=genius clichè. Obviously, we’re not all geniuses. Most of us just have the problems without any upsides. I object to the notion that brilliance somehow “makes up for” aspie-type inadequaties in the minds of neurotypicals, because it implies that we have stuff to make up for, and if we’re not geniuses in some field or other, we are somehow less important, because we are not impressive. Sometimes, there is no upside. Personally, I have an interest (writing) which is something I do well and constantly, but I am definitely no genius. When I “came out” as an aspie, a friend of mine immediately went; “Yeah, I can see that; you’re brilliant at writing!” But I am not. I am maybe a bit over the average in writing skills. That is all. Some aspies do not have a special interest at all, or if they are they’re not brilliant at it, or it is not something that is useful to society. Expecting an aspie to be brilliant (because they have to compensate in some way for their issues) can come across as both ignorant and cruel. Sometimes there is no upside. And we should not have to be “forgiven” for our issues. People don’t go around thinking: “She may have asthma, but we forgive her because she’s a brilliant mathematician.”

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I don’t want to be expected to be extraordinary. I have enough trouble being adequate. I don’t have the comfort of knowing I am brilliant. I will never be praised; I barely manage to function like an average human being. Don’t get me wrong, I love watching one of us succeed, and aspies are fun to watch as they have a special way of going through life (and most shows/movies choose to leave out the heart-criushing despair and pain of our struggles, on order to focus on our more entertaining quirks) I wish there were more representations of aspies who are just normal people. They are out there, of course, but the aspie genius seems to have become a bit of a trope lately. I suppose what I’m missing in the genius-aspies is the bad stuff. And subtlety.

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Yes, we may separate our food/stuff into categories and jokes may escape us and we may take things literally to comedic effect, and although these things are fun to recognize in characters (and for neurotypicals, they’re funny), and I know we’re supposed to be proud to be different, but I think it has become far too easy to forget that Asperger’s Syndrome has a dark side which is not fair to leave out when portraying these fun, autistic characters.

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anonymous asked:

I recently got romantically involved with an aspie and it's been very eye opening and sometimes sad. Sad as in seeing the effects of how people have treated him because of it. The other day he said to me "I wonder what it says about you that you're interested in someone with autism." That hurt. Not because I felt insulted. But because he thinks something must be wrong with someone for wanting him. I wanted to share this because it's been stuck in my mind. Fuck people who are cruel to aspies.

You…..you are a good person! 

I have to agree with your partner, it does say a lot about you, that you’re with him and treat him as an equal. Sadly, that’s rather rare. I can totally understand how he feels, everyone that I’ve ever been romantically attracted to and told said that they felt the same way but once they found out I was on the spectrum they ignored me. It’s stupid and you are very special for being so damn accepting. It’s really nice to hear! There needs to be more people like you out there. 

-Adm :)

anonymous asked:

I'm a 23 year old aspie. I don't know what to do with my boyfriend. He constantly wants to make out with me in his car (and other places), but it freaks me out but I don't know what to tell him. He's also really touchy with me, but I don't think I'm ready for that. I truly don't know (how) I feel for him or what my feelings are for him. I kinda don't know how to voice my concerns bcuz I do care for him. Help?

do not let him pressure you into anything. this would be true whether or not you were autistic, but autistic (and disabled people in general) people get taken advantage of so often.

caring for him does not mean he can do whatever he likes. i have a vaguely similar thing in that whenever i care about someone i struggle to call them out on things and let them walk all over me because i don’t want to upset them, but - if you feel like things are going too fast, do not let him take them any further.

i know it’s hard because you care about him, but if he cares about you too, he will listen to you if you say ‘i don’t want this.’ just tell him if he’s going too far, and say no if you need to. saying no to things can be hard, but if anyone does ANYTHING you’re not comfortable with, tell them to stop, and this goes for him too.

good luck <3

- mod A

anonymous asked:

Good day Humans. Fellow humans, I saw this blog post by SJWs that women get objectified by race/ethnicity. But that got me thinking. Don't men get this too? Sure we might not complain/enjoy it(least I would). But come on, there has to be prominent cases on non-white men being objectified/super idealized. Or personal stories? Opinions? Thoughts? Idk?

yes they do get objectified too and some blogs like fucknofetishization complain about that too.

~the aspie one

anonymous asked:

I see all kinds of people talking about how "the story of Moses is historically false" and I'm like, when you use our idea of what slavery is, yes. However, back in biblical times, it was more "marginalized groups", but poor translations and changing languages has applied the term slavery where it probably shouldn't be used. There were Jews in Egypt, and they weren't in high favor, and they left. Did all the pomp and circumstance happen? Hard to say. It was over 2000 years ago.

actually they did enslave a lot of jews back then.

~the aspie one

I recently came across this book. 
It is a book about the struggles of a family, a dad, with two children who have autism.

I am absolutely disgusted by it. By the title, the content and by the summary given. 

I’m autistic myself, aspergers, and yes, there are struggles and yes, it’s really hard sometimes. But for a person, a dad, to make this book with a title like that? It’s just disgusting. 
And I think (hope) that everyone, not even just the autism community, would gladly see this book off the racks.

It now has a 2.5 star rating. Which means, that if you search on average costumer review, in the catogory autism & aspergers, this book will pop up pretty fast.
I myself (and hopefully lots of other people who come across this book) am fortunately good in handling bad talking about autism, but I’d hate for an insecure 11 year old who happens to have asperger or some form of autism, try and find a book on amazon about it and stumble across this. It is pretty triggering. Not only for people with autism or people who know and love people who have autism, but I think also for people who have lost loved ones from a form of cancer, or currently are struggling with cancer in their family and/or friend group.

So please, everyone with a amazon account, try and rate this down. 
I’d love for this book to just disappear, but since that’s not really an option, try and help do the second best thing, which is trying to make it disappear from the shelves.

anonymous asked:

I find it interesting that, in discussions on trans and gender issues, white people (usually men) are often singled out as the most uninformed. While it's true that some cultures have a different or 'better' understanding of gender than the traditional Western concepts many of us are familiar with, that doesn't mean that all non-white people are experts on gender. Many non-Europeans were and are raised on Western concepts of gender, though often due to Western imperialism.

plus some non-european cultures have a gender ‘binary’ too.

~the aspie one