I thought I’d do the other side of this, since I did The Friendship Guide.
This one is for us Aspies. A list of helpful hints for myself to remember:
1. Remember that my neurotypical friends’ brains work differently from mine, so be patient when they don’t immediately understand my thought processes.
2. Set clear boundaries for physical contact.
3. Don’t commit myself to things just because I’ve been asked. Only say yes if I really want to go.
4. Stim if I need to, true friends won’t shame me for it. (Though explaining what stimming is to them might be helpful for everyone involved.)
5. If I want others to extend the effort to be my friend, I have to do the same.
6. Faking an interest in their hobbies doesn’t do either of us any favours.
7. Remember to ask questions about how they are doing, how they’re day went, etc.
8. Talking about my interests is fine, but remember a conversation needs to go both ways.
9. Don’t laugh if you aren’t sure it’s a joke, don’t be afraid to ask if it’s a joke.
10. Set realistic expectations for myself and friends, life doesn’t always happen like it does in books, movies and tv shows. It’s not fair to have wild expectations. Friends can’t meet expectations that they aren’t even aware of.