OKAY LISTEN UP

Light it up blue is april 2nd.

Light it up blue is sponsored/made by autism $peaks.

A$ is a horrible organization and does much more harm than good for autistic people.

Instead of light it up blue, please do walk in red.  It’s the exact same thing, just wear red instead of blue.  It’s an awareness thing that is 100000x better than light it up blue because it isn’t tied to one single organization, especially a$.

Please, do not support light it up blue.

Whatever you do, do not, please.

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I’ve been asked for sources for me saying A$ is a horrible organization quite a few times.  It’s been asked both nicely and rudely, but since it’s being asked, here’s the sources I’ve been giving them.  You can look on Google and find plenty more.  The #actuallyautistic tag is super helpful when it comes to answering your questions as well, but please don’t tag something with it unless you actually are!  Just message someone from the tag if you have questions, I’m sure they’d be more than happy to assist if you ask kindly.

https://thecaffeinatedautistic.wordpress.com/2013/03/05/why-i-am-against-autism-speaks-and-you-should-be-too-2/

http://emmashopebook.com/2013/11/13/whats-wrong-with-autism-speaks/

http://thautcast.com/drupal5/content/whats-still-wrong-autism-speaks

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April 2nd has passed but Autism Acceptance Month is still the ENTIRE MONTH OF APRIL.  Keep spreading the love, keep accepting us for who we are, keep it up!

I just want to remind all the Autistic people out there that you matter so fucking much, you are not a burden, you are not a waste of space, you are not a fault in the human race

You deserve to be here, you deserve to be respected and loved and listened to, you deserve more

Never let anyone tell you the world would be better off without you, never let anyone tell you that your mind is at fault for what they do to you, never let anyone tell you that the future of the human race doesn;t include you

all my love

‘We need to draw up a female version of Asperger’s that identifies girls on the basis of the way they present, and we need to do this as a matter of urgency: undiagnosed Asperger’s can create devastatingly low self-esteem in girls. In my experience, up to 20% of female anorexics have undiagnosed Asperger’s.’

Girls slip through the diagnostic net, said Attwood, because they are so good at camouflaging or masking their symptoms. 'Boys tend to externalise their problems, while girls learn that, if they’re good, their differences will not be noticed,’ he said. 'Boys go into attack mode when frustrated, while girls suffer in silence and become passive-aggressive. Girls learn to appease and apologise. They learn to observe people from a distance and imitate them. It is only if you look closely and ask the right questions, you see the terror in their eyes and see that their reactions are a learnt script.’

Hello Tumblr people. This is me. I have Autism Spectrum Disorder.

I am absolutely terrified to make this post, which is why it needs to be done. #NoShameDay is a very cool thing and I want to help end the stigma. 

While my disability isn’t physically visible and I am now able to pass as neurotypical, it still affects my life. I am aware of the ways I think and process things differently and I face unique challenges pretty much every day. Yet, only my absolute closest friends know.

I was diagnosed at 3 years old and have undergone tons of therapies to help me function. I am now 22 years old and about to graduate from one of the top 20 universities in the US and will continue on to get my master’s degree. I have an amazing group of friends and an active social life. Funny how when I was first diagnosed, the doctor told my mom to put me in an institution and I would “never be normal.”

I get so ticked off when neurotypicals say that people with autism can’t function in society or don’t have empathy or can’t be smart and if they are smart they are just savants in one thing. I function fine (some social anxiety, but loads of other people have that too), I am filled to the brim with empathy (all I want to do is help people), and screw you I’m brilliant. I just think differently than you do. Different isn’t bad, it’s just different.

ASD is a very misunderstood disorder. It is also very “trendy” to talk about, which really doesn’t help resolve the misunderstandings tbh. 

Like it’s recently been trendy to use autism as the big bad monster in the closet that can be caused by vaccines or eating wrong or whatever unscientific ableist nonsense they want to preach. As though autism is worse than death. It’s offensive. I have been living with ASD for 22 years and I am doing great. 

I welcome anyone who has any questions. Sometimes people with ASD have difficulty speaking for themselves; I am fortunate to have a voice, so I intend to use it.

Happy No Shame Day! I love all of you brave people out there who shared your stories. I also love y’all who are still working up to sharing what makes you unique. You are all beautiful souls. <3 

6

Months later, I’m finally ready to talk about the realizations that were, at first, pretty unwelcome. I mean, no one really wants the stigma that comes along with any sort of disorder or condition, but it also really, really helps to have a name for the overflowing bag of quirks that you didn’t realize were actually all interconnected. It’s relieving in that way!

Researching for days and days, reading tons of blog posts about the different ways symptoms manifested, it all made me realize the autism spectrum is a lot broader than the public’s stereotyped view allows for. I mean, I “knew” this, but I didn’t really understand it until I read about it in depth for hours and hours. When I finally talked to my husband about it, I was crying even though I wasn’t sad, and he told me that he kind of knew for a long time, but didn’t think it was worth mentioning. “How did you know?!” was all I could think, but of course… he lives with me, his two siblings are on the far end of the spectrum, and he’s pretty perceptive. I don’t really think I would have believed him if he’d told me before I was ready to hear, anyway. Which is probably why he didn’t say something.

I was really annoyed to learn about the under-diagnoses in cis women, mostly because I ended up realizing that the standards are usually set for cis men, specifically. There are a lot more things to be said about that, but I suppose it’s neither here nor there.

One of my big fears in talking about this to anyone was anyone at all thinking it an “excuse” for anything I say or do. To me, it’s kind of like… something that helps me categorize my thoughts and understand which ones aren’t what most people are thinking, and it helps me understand a lot of big communication problems I’ve faced. It offered me a lot of relief in that way! It was like… “finally, this makes sense, the way these people explain it, this is exactly how I think!” - and it made me so happy to be able to relate to someone else’s thought process!

I don’t want to sit here and list off the dozens upon dozens of tiny realizations I had, or things that I thought were “normal” actually being quirks, but I do want to say that I’m really glad I figured this out sooner rather than later.

And man, people ask me all the time how I’m able to work so much and focus on things… but you know, that’s kind of… all my brain lets me do… work and focus on the 2 things I’m interested in… and it’s what I’m happy doing!

I’m really glad I was able to shatter the limited view I had in my head of things related to ASD stuff; I just don’t really know what else to say other than I really didn’t realize the specifics, so I hope this comic might encourage people to do some research for themselves about it. (Sorry, this isn’t like an educational post or anything as much as it’s me trying to express how I felt about figuring it out!)

Please forgive me if I’ve worded anything badly, as well. I don’t really know how to talk about this very well yet, but I’m trying.

Some little things you can do today to actually help Autistic people rather than throwing on a blue t-shirt and supporting an awful organisation

  1. Reformat your blog to make it clear and accessible, large writing, no flashing background, no sharp colours and a clearly distinguishable font colour
  2. Also, take a look at the posts you make, try and simplify the language, add TLDRs, make it so mentally disabled people can read your work
  3. Don’t make loud noises in public, similarly do not smoke or wear strong perfumes around people you don’t know, they can really trigger our sensory issues
  4. Look at your school/work/community/etc policies or guidelines regarding disability and/or Autism, are they compatible with what Autistic people need and want? Are we covered by your disability services? If it is safe for you, bring attention to any issues that you find.
  5. Spread posts written by Autistic people, amplify our voices and use them to educate others
  6. Take the time to talk to Autistic people in your life, ask them if there’s anything they need from you, extend a hand but do not force them to take it
  7. If you have money to spare support organisations like ASAN or look for individual Autistic people who are in need of financial help
  8. Read writings by Autistic people, if you have the money I encourage you to buy Loud Hands: Autistic People Speaking but I know that is absolutely not an option for everyone
  9. And feel free to ask me any questions you may have! I obviously can not speak for every Autistic person but I will speak from my experience as an Autistic person and point you towards others if need be

do not consider this a complete list, and certainly don’t assume this is all thats need to end ableism against Autistic people, that is a far more lengthy, longreaching and hard process that involves working against all forms of oppression, but these little things might at least make things a bit easier for us xx

Autism isn’t something a person has, or a “shell” that a person is trapped inside. There’s no normal child hidden behind the autism. Autism is a way of being. It is pervasive; it colors every experience, every sensation, perception, thought, emotion, and encounter, every aspect of existence. It is not possible to separate the autism from the person–and if it were possible, the person you’d have left would not be the same person you started with.
—  Jim Sinclair, Don’t Mourn For Us
Shades of Slander

…Okay, so, the Autism Spectrum is legitimately a thing and there are a lot of people out there who just don’t seem to get it.

Some equate the word “spectrum” with the concept of a scale, which is not what that word means. I guess they’re thinking of a line that runs the gamut of shades from red through to violet. Thing is, hearing the word spectrum should instead be conjuring an image of a colour wheel…

ID: Image shows six icons; the apple pinwheel, the adobe colour wheel, red-green-blue and magenta-yellow-cyan Venn diagrams, the ASAN logo and a colour spectrum.

The whole point of using “spectrum” is that it’s an alternative to the out-dated practice of ranking autistics on a line from high to low functioning, verbal to non-verbal, or any other irrelevant criteria.

The very idea of the “Autistic Spectrum” is that our neurotype can’t be defined by a one-dimensional range from black to white with grey in the middle - there are a vast multitude of hues where any given autistic person can be situated on any given day. Much like the wavelengths of light and colour which we all see differently, each autistic person is a variation of the same theme, always in flux, constantly changing and evolving, every individual experience bringing new depth to the chromatic masterpiece that is Autism.

ID: Image shows a rainbow cloud composed of handfuls gulal, or multi-coloured powder dyes that have been thrown into the air by a large group of people who are celebrating Holi (glimpses of these people are visible within the flying colours). Photo credit to ‘White Massif,’ an event management company in Bangalore. http://whitemassif.com/7-awesome-holi-party-ideas/

Some fail to grasp the importance of a spectrum that unites us all because they are blinded by a sense of belonging (and simple stubbornness); there are many who don’t want to let go of an identity they finally fit into perfectly. I get that, and anyone is totally free to identify however they want – on their own time…It’s really not cool to dismiss those of us who find functioning labels hurtful.

Anyone who is aware of the harm caused by the negative connotations associated with such language shouldn’t propagate the use of terminology that segregates their own people and promotes ableist ideals.

The following links are good perspectives on why functioning labels are bad:

http://bit.ly/AWNLAS

http://bit.ly/EHBEDFL

http://bit.ly/AHSHFS

http://bit.ly/NWOFLAS

So, basically, it would be really helpful towards achieving equality, acceptance and equal rights if the entire Autistic Community could agree to ditch the old labels and settle on a new term that’s prismatically, kaleidoscopically inclusive.

That’s the spectrum.

ID: Image shows two circular spectrums. The first is split into eight sections of different colours with the saturation on a gradient towards white in the centre. The second shows the word 'spectrum’ fit into the aforementioned sections of the same circle. Instead of a gradient, the second image has the letters each in one of eight colours and the space behind them in the opposite colour.

If we separate ourselves into different classifications of autistic, whether that’s using functioning labels or adamantly sticking with “Asperger’s,” it is guaranteed to encourage the kind of ableist behaviour that will allow others to use our differences to maintain a caste system based on their own arbitrary values.

Like I said, people should call themselves whatever they want on their own time, be whoever they want to be… but please, everyone – stop condoning practices which help to put the rest of us into boxes we’ve had no hand in creating and have no desire to be trapped by.

Yes, everyone is entitled to their own identity, but no; being autistic does not give any one person a free pass to trivialize the discrimination that others have experienced. And, F.Y.I., that’s exactly what many are doing when they insist on using functioning labels or person-first language.

ID: This diagram shows the same circular spectrum as in the first of the pair of colour wheels in the previous image. Added to it around the outside of the spectrum in blocky lettering are eight section titles and within each slice of the circle is text that indicates a sliding scale from one state to another (two words or terms with an arrow between them).

The eight sections are as follows:

Emotional Sensitivities = empathetic > stoic

Physical Sensitivities = sensitive > stalwart

Physical Conditions = tough > tender

Motor Skills = dynamic > static

Disability = prolific > expendable

Neurological Conditions = impulsive > compulsive

Communication = articulate > expressive

Filtering & Processing = perceptive > perplexed

Note: The above image is a visual representation of how different hues can be related to different types of autistic qualities. It displays only eight categories with a straightforward scale attached to each which by no means covers every autistic experience. The idea is that any person can simultaneously be in many places within the spectrum and that each point of reference is constantly fluctuating. This is just an example of how the spectrum can be seen.

Autism is neurological. It’s irreversible and immutable.

We are autistic; we are autism.

It’s not possible to separate a person from the essential aspects of their being and personality. Yes, autism can be hard and disabling, but it also has a myriad of multi-faceted benefits. Those two sides of it cannot be separated either.

No one is with their autism anymore than they are with homosexuality or heterosexuality. No one is with their autism anymore than they are with their gender or nationality or religion or political beliefs.

I am an agnostic living with astigmatism. Note the difference.

ID: The last image shows a line of circles that each contain a small section of one of six abstract paintings. Each one is different but all of them show a spectrum of colour.

Everyone is entitled to their own opinion. I can’t disagree with that, but this is about more than how we all take our eggs in the morning; it’s not a debate between scrambled and sunny-side-up (or nothing at all because eggs are sensory minefields) – it’s about a whole diverse group of people who have been oppressed and pigeonholed for centuries.

This is about human rights. This is about respect.

Don’t let prejudice lead to violence. Read and share the #DDoM2015 list of names. Understand why we, as a community, must concur on a palette which encompasses all of our needs.

Together we can shift the winds of change towards acceptance and understanding, and away from analyzing and evaluating the functionality and worth of other human beings like we’re specimens in a lab.

Instead of examining and ranking each person by the potential for remuneration, let’s opt to value each other for the uniquely colourful creatures we are. Humanity is a spectrum, our planet is a spectrum, the whole universe is a spectrum; autism is a spectrum.

Let’s embrace the rainbow.

Across a mere ten-year period — 1993-2003 — statistics from the U.S. Department of Education revealed a 657% increase in the nationwide rate of autism. Autism rates have not increased. That is a myth. Rather, broadening the definition of autism allowed more people to be diagnosed. And at the same time, families became more educated about what “autism” is, and became more open to having their children diagnosed. About 1 in 68 children will be born with autism spectrum disorder.

Helping Children with Autism Spectrum Disorder

According to the National Center for Children in Povery (NCCP) “One in 10 youth has serious mental health problems that are severe enough to impair how they function at home, school, or in the community.” There are no two children with Autism Spectrum Disorders (ASD) or any disorder that aff…

http://www.socialworkhelper.com/2015/03/30/helping-children-autism-spectrum-disorder/?Social+Work+Helper

shared via Social Work Helper

Autism Speaks isn’t really a charity for autistic people. It’s a charity for neurotypical people who have been afflicted with the horror of having autistic people in their lives. Since its inception in 2005, Autism Speaks has perpetuated the idea that people with autism are a burden and somehow “lost,” and they’ve refused to listen to any actual autistic people who disagree with their party line. It’s supported a number of dangerous and dubious treatments, like electroshock therapy and chelation, a lead poisoning treatment that has many risks and no proven benefit as an ASD cure, all in the name of making autistic people appear more neurotypical. Its official statements consistently refuse to acknowledge any humanity in autistic people, or recognize that their families experience anything other than abject misery.

The idea that only mentally ill or Autistic people could commit acts of mass violence leads to the idea that the root of evil in society is mental illness or Autism which inevitably makes people think that the solution to ending violence is to eradicate or lock up mentally ill and Autistic people

by saying neurotypical people can;t be serial killers you are perpetuating violence against neurodivergent people

Whining About Life

Sometimes I look at my life and wonder if I’ll ever “grow up.”

I have to write myself notes and/or set alarms to remember to do things, and they still don’t get done a lot of the time.

I can’t keep my living space clean for more than a day, as hard as I may try.

I can’t bring myself to answer the phone if it’s an unknown number. I have a very hard time calling people other than my mom, husband, and things I know are automated.

I get lost even when I’ve been somewhere a thousand times. I get lost even when I have the GPS on. I get lost inside of unfamiliar buildings.

I can’t go out for a “fancy dinner” for special occasions because I can’t eat anything they serve. For our anniversary dinner, my husband has some kind of fancy salmon or fish; I had “margherita” (aka cheese) pizza.

I can’t carry on a normal conversation unless I’ve known the person for more than five years. I can’t even bring myself to be the one to greet someone most of the time.

I can’t manage to wake up and start my day before 11AM. The days when I have to work at 6, I’m basically asleep on my feet until 8.

I can’t handle life in an NT world, and sometimes it really gets to me.

it does really scare me how psychotic and developmentally disabled people are so at risk for violence and abuse and yet people are so much less likely to believe us and people know that and they use it against us

like psychotic people are told they can;t separate fiction from fact and that their minds are playing tricks on them and dd people are told they don;t understand human interactions and are ‘misinterpreting’ what’s happening

like if you do or think either of those things when talking to disabled people about abuse? you need to fucking stop