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Skateboarding Makes Afghan Girls Feel Free

When 19-year-old Nelofar steps on a skateboard and flies down the big ramp she tells me she feels “very brave and very strong.” She feels free.

"I like the 360 flip, that’s very amazing," she laughs. Looking at Nelofar, wide-eyed with enthusiasm as she Skypes me from Mazar-e-Sharif’s Skateistan school, I tell her I think she’s pretty brave, too.

UNICEF identifies Afghanistan as one of the worst places to be born a woman in the world. Of the 4 million children not enrolled in school, 60 percent are girls. And, as international forces continue to withdraw from Afghanistan, violence against women is still prevalent. When Nelofar steps on a skateboard, she’s breaking gender boundaries.

being a parent will be so fucking hard like the relatives will buy your girl kid  Disney princess shit and what are you meant to say? 'the heteronormative nature of the films, and the misogyny evident in the gender stereotypical character depictions is NOT something i want to thrust on my child, thank you'

anonymous asked:

can u pls list all of the gender neutral partner terms u know?

Ren says:

  • date
  • datefriend
  • datemate
  • lover
  • partner
  • paramour
  • bothfriend
  • genderfriend
  • sweetie / sweetheart
  • [name]friend
  • cuddle buddy / cuddlefriend
  • personfriend
  • nbfriend / enbyfriend
  • significant other / S.O.
  • other half / better half
  • steady (from ‘going steady’)
  • perma (short for ‘permanent’)
  • soulmate
  • loveperson
  • consort
  • epox (from the French epoux)
  • companion
  • inamorate (gender neutral version of inamorata / inamorato)
  • infatuate (pronounced in-fat-choo-at)
  • imzadi (from Star Trek)
  • spouse (might be strange if you are not actually married, but *shrugs*)
  • alter ego (this is what I call my partner, although we aren’t in a romantic relationship)
  • smooch / smoochfriend
  • person of interest
  • beloved
  • partner in crime
  • snuggle colleague
  • carebear
  • the one I love
  • one and only
  • rave
  • lovebird
  • my love / my darling / my honey / my sugar / my treasure (all those schmoopy terms)
  • schmoop
  • dearest
  • flame
  • ball and chain (heh)
  • life partner
  • truelove / true love
  • valentine
  • helpmate / helpmeet
  • rib (comes from Adam and Eve)
  • main squeeze
  • my intended
  • special someone
  • plus-one
  • my euphemism (heh heh)
  • boo
  • bb
  • bun
  • beau
  • swain (technically this was historically used to be a “male lover of a woman” but who knows about that anyway, except for Merriam Webster?)
  • POSSLQ (in the 1970s, the US Census Bureau made this to stand for “Persons of Opposite Sex Sharing Living Quarters” but we can make it stand for “Persons of Other Substance Sharing Life Quality” or something equally as excellent! Pronounced poss-ell-cue.)

If I’m forgetting any or you’ve made some up, reblog this and add ‘em! (Note: I’ve tried to stick to terms that asexual and/or aromantic folks might feel comfy using for their partners, too, hence why there are not many terms like “bum chum”, which makes me chuckle, but ultimately fails to describe many of our relationships!)

In a recent report, 100% of women of color reported experiencing gender bias.

"Black and Latina women said they were regularly mistaken for janitors."

I mean seriously, wtf?

Awesome lady scientists of color, I would be happy to reblog pictures or stories of you being the badass scientists you are.

byronbaybitchez asked:

:) hey, If Men work more and longer than Women in General and they get payed more How Is there a pay gap? Google how women have different reasons not to work full time compared to how men in general don't, therefore working more/earning more.

Putting aside all of the atrocious sexism in this question, the pay gap addresses full-time workers. When men and women work an equal amount of time (full-time), women still get paid less (page 13).

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Celebrating ‘Saved by the Bell”s Jessie Spano, the Patron Saint of ’90s Baby Feminists

When I was 8 or 9 years old, I hadn’t yet read the words of Betty Friedan. I didn’t know about Gloria Steinem, and it would be years before I understood Roe vs. Wade or the pay gap.

I had only one concept of feminism, and it came in the form of one Jessica Spano.

Jessie Spano, Bayside High School’s greatest activist, was the first and only feminist icon I’d appreciate until high school. She could be problematic and man she had wretched taste in men, but she spoke to the baby feminist inside of me, and today I’d like to celebrate her. VIVA LA JESSIE!”

Read the full piece here

anonymous asked:

I need advice. My father is a trans woman. She left my mom and me before she came out and when I was really young and I didn't have any contact with her until recently. I'm going to be meeting up with her for the first time next week and I really don't want to start off on the wrong foot. I know this has more to do with personal preference but I was hoping to get some input. Is it offensive to call her my father? Should I call her my mother? I don't really know how to approach the situation.

father is a gendered term so she might be uncomfortable with it. just generally, ask her what she prefers to be called,  and be respectful.

i’m sure you’ll be fine, best of luck

Feminist Documentary “She’s Beautiful When She’s Angry” Will Very Possibly Make You Cry

Top photo: A feminist protest march in August 1970, as seen in She’s Beautiful When She’s Angry. Photo: Diana Davies

Lower photo: The author’s 11-year-old friend Clara at a screening of She’s Beautiful When She’s Angry in Seattle.

"Present day. Women and men wear red and boost signs bearing the message: DON’T MESS WITH TEXAS WOMEN. From the rally stage, a woman speaks into a microphone. “We should have the right to choose,” she says.

I’ve been watching this spectacle play out in the Texas legislature for the past couple years, holding my breath during streaming filibusters, shaking my head at news clips. Now, from my cushioned theater seat, sitting with a group of girlfriends and an 11-year-old girl, I feel like I’m there, at that rally. “We should have the right to choose. We should be mad,” the speaker says. “Are you mad?” Tears brimmed in my eyes as text fleshed across the screen: “More than 40 years ago, women demand equal rights in every sphere.” Great, I thought, I am going to cry through this whole thing

She’s Beautiful When She’s Angry is director Mary Dore’s new documentary covering the start of the second wave of feminism in the United States, from 1966–1971, stopping two years shy of Roe vs. Wade. Placed within the context of current protests in Texas, where the clock seem to be turning backward for women’s rights, the film’s beginning creates an immediate connection. Within the first minutes, I felt my own history with feminism—which began over twenty years ago with volunteer work at a Philadelphia abortion clinic and rallies in DC—link arms with the present. To see myself as part of the continuum was heartbreaking and electrifying.”

Read the full piece and watch the trailer here

#ShesBeautifulWhenShesAngry 

what’s frightening is that the image of feminists being ‘not fun’ comes from men seeing misogyny and fun as synonymous. that, as well as the good/bad woman dichotomy urging women to remain uncritical and silent; thus women who are anything but submissive are demonized. 

A tip for combatting socialized niceness

I’ve made it a habit to say I apologize instead of I’m sorry when I’ve done something wrong, inappropriate, rude, etc. 

The reason? Socialized niceness conditioned me to say I’m sorry for soooo many things - most of which were things that either weren’t my fault, or didn’t warrant an apology of any sort in the first place. It’s just something that would slip out of my mouth before I even realized I’d said it.

I apologize is not a phrase that instinctively comes to mind for me. SO I know that when I use it, it mean it. It never slips out the way I’m sorry does would.

Dear Cis People:

I don’t have to look like what you want me to look like. I don’t have to wear dresses constantly to be seen as female so why do I have to bind and wear guy clothes constantly to be seen as a male. Your gender rules are sickening to me. I just want to be neutral cause I don’t like either side.

I love your tumblr and wanted to submit this! It’s a video about positive body image and how words like “fat” and “chubby” are used as insults and “skinny” as a compliment, when they’re really just words! There should not be stigma surrounding these words because they’re just physical traits, like having brown hair or something.

This is something that a surprising number of women are affected by (and perhaps accidentally perpetuate without recognizing) so I hoped you might like to share it and spread the news and the love. :)

BE BRAVE! JOIN THE BODY PEACE REVOLUTION!