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Side-By-Side Comparison of Smiling Tom and Serious Tom (all for purposes of scientific research, of course) at the Los Angeles premiere “Thor: The Dark World”  - 4 November 2013

PLUS A COMPLETELY GRATUITOUS FULL-LENGTH SHOT OF HIM STANDING NEXT TO A HARLEY AND DID I MENTION THAT TEXTURED SHIRT AND THOSE SHINY SHOES AND THE SMOLDER AND THE EVERYTHING

nudes pls

So last night on twitter, as you may have noticed if you follow me there, I got a little fired up. I tweeted a reminder for my patrons (on Patreon) to check their inboxes and give me their mailing addresses because I’m sending them all something, and some really hilarious fellow responded with “nudes pls”

which of course, is just like, terrible and annoying and drives me mad so I retweeted him with “get out”, and blocked him. And he apologized and said he was making a joke, and then I kinda felt bad about it so I deleted my retweet because, I mean, yes, I want to call people out for being dickheads like that, but I also don’t mean to like, sic other people on them and, I don’t know, I just feel bad about like everything I do so I did. I tossed and turned about it and I thought maybe this morning I would respond to his (seemingly sincere) apology and unblock him.

But then, this morning, I saw that he complained about his joke being taken too seriously because the handsome and wonderful seanpersaud called him out about THAT. And like, no. I don’t feel bad about it. You don’t get to make jokes like that, you just don’t. Not when that is the daily reality for women in media who are trying to do good work and be taken seriously and are greeted by thousands of choruses of “nudes pls” by idiots on the internet. Probably many of those women are so busy/famous they don’t have time to see or respond to any of that, but that’s not the position I’m in. And I even got scared last night (as I do anytime I speak up about this stuff) that I’d be greeted in the morning by threats of hacking or people out to get me because I’m simply standing up for my sex, refusing to stand by silently while people objectify us. And I hate that that’s an actual fear that I have. But it probably will continue to be. 

I don’t know. It’s very, very important to me to draw the line and stand up for myself on this sort of thing. No, you don’t get to make jokes like that. No, that isn’t funny, or flattering. This shouldn’t be hard. 

Anyway, thanks to those of you who stood and continue to stand by me. I hope someday there is a girl in my position who has never received one single “nudes pls”, joking or otherwise.

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I DON’T KNOW HOW I FOUND THIS, BUT I’M GLAD I DID.

There are really talented young artists and writers out there and some of them choose to spend their time and talent on drawing me wearing women’s lingerie and write 100k words stories on how I fall in love with my bandmates and to be honest it’s kind of beautiful. Although I do hope they some day get to use their talent for other things. Also in other news, I have just found out I’ve been eating sushi wrong my whole life. How are you guys? 

Things I have yelled while playing Pirate101:
  • NO FUCK YOUR IMMUNITY BITCH
  • DANCE FOR ME SODBUSTER
  • THAT WAS MY FIRSTMATE
  • I’LL POISON THE LOT OF YOU
  • AND OF COURSE THE FUCKING CHICKEN IS GUARDED
  • GET OFF MY SHIP
  • FUCK WHERE’S MY ROUSE
  • IF YOU KILL HIM I’LL KILL YOU
  • FUUUUUUUUUUUUUCK
  • MY SUPER MEGA-AWESOME SLIGHTLY UNSTABLE BADASS OF A HORSE WARRIOR
  • SURPRISE MOTHERFUCKER
  • CAN’T TOUCH THIS
  • PISS OFF I’M IN A WINDLANE
  • FUCK YOUR BARRICADE I CAN JUMP
  • THAT’S RIGHT, COWER BEFORE ME
  • *HIDEOUS SCREECHING NOISE*
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  • tumblr:OH MYF G OD!?!??!?? ?? ?? HTIS CHRA CTEW R DI D SOEMHTIGN PR O BELM ATIC !!!! ! !!! 1 BO YCOT T TIHS SHO W SEND HA TE TO HTE CREW I F YUO LIKED THIS U R LITE R A LL Y AN O P P R E S S O R!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

anonymous asked:

I actually think Emma in the dress is like what she thinks she needs to be. Like the perfect daughter of Snow White and Prince Charming, The Savior, the girlfriend of Captain Hook. Like she's trying to be what everyone needs her to be, not what she actually is. If they will touch in her issues about how when you're a kid in the system you try to act perfectly so you're not send back that's would be a clue. I don't know if i'm making sense but that what came in my mind after her outburst with 1/2

Regina. They telling that she doesn’t feel jealousy of Neal don’t make her issues go away, for me the way she reacted when Regina told her that she need someone saving her, was like someone saying “if everyone needs to save you that means that you cant be the savior, you dont need to be” and her suddenly power was her way in proving that she can do it. Actually I think that only one who make she feel secure to be who she actually is, was Regina but I dont know. thats why huts them to be apart.

Well, we can only hope that there IS some point to this, and that it’ll go along the lines of your thoughts, Anon. But judging by the bubbly TV Line interview, it seems like they’re simply trying to show Emma’s walls ‘crumbling’ down this way. Opening up to him, being “excited about getting to know this person” sans chasing monster-of-the-week? And that seems to be perfectly on par with the entire construction around his character. Meaning, he is a ‘romantic hero’ who used to be this handsome piratey scoundrel (with of course quite a banal ‘downfall’, seeing that before pirate-dom, he was nothing but a privileged arsewipe, uh sorry—a ‘noble gentleman’ *snort*) who is now changed only because he wants to get in her pants loves her. And that is why we had ridiculous, banal scenes such as one with Charming when he tells him “You’re never gonna get Emma, I’ll see to that” and Hook replied with “It’s a good thing you’re gonna die then”, only to be toasted by this same Charming only five minutes later for ‘being a hero’. All these things that are forcefully perpetuating this ‘romantic hero’ notion of him (because hey, it’s not like he has any other purpose anyway, thanks to their ‘inventive’ writing) seem to be whiplash inducing, no? So this ‘Saviour Dee’ kinda seems to be perfectly on par with it, if you ask me.

(A sidenote: as I already said numerous times, I loved Hook as unapologetic bastard as he was, because he was what he was—but trying to make him what he is NOT is now affecting the main character his entire ‘storyline’ evolves around, Emma—and it’s affecting her in the most hideous of ways. So that is our main issue here.)

Therefore, while there IS a possibility that they’re trying to do something like you suggested there, it most definitely didn’t need to be so drastic, no? Especially because that part of journey where she was ‘Emma Charming’ (trying to be what everyone needs her to be, not what she actually is, as you nicely summed it up) that started after her return from EF in S2… kinda ended at the beginning of S3, when she rounded them all up on that beach and gave them the “I’m now your leader, so either help me get my son back or get out of the way” speech. So while a LOT of her issues remained and they most probably always will (the Lost Girl) she should’ve made at least five whole paces after that ‘family, destiny, burden’ thing?

So howevermuch she’s ‘tired of living in the past’ (as she said in Jolly Roger, where it was probably a hint of what was to come, here?) as I already suggested, unless this is some weird dream where she literally sees herself being pushed into being what she’s just not… what we personally see on these promo pics is, well, more what we don’t see—is anything that even remotely resembles (personality, style, temperament, anything) Emma Swan. And especially if she was ‘taking the power back’ by proving that she can do it. Because while we do understand what JMo said (the guard being up so much that she hadn’t felt like she could express the “soft feminine and romantic” side of herself, which IMHO sounds like a whole lot of projecting on her behalf, but hey) don’t you think that this is a little drastic?

Like a little a lot?

So much that even this…

…seems like a way more appealing option now, as at least it had SOME Emma Swan in it, what with being awkwardly shoehorned into a princess role that she’ll always have a problem to fully accept?

Or that is, if we’re talking about Emma Swan that we used to know anyway.