among the things that irritate me is the pro-ana community here on tumblr and elsewhere, and other people’s reaction to them. there are people in the community who do aim to convert people to anorexia, as if it is a diet or something. plenty of them aim to perpetuate and expand the symptoms in people who are prone to having such thoughts about their weight. but i don’t think that people’s reactions to the community have been very good, and are, by definition, impertinent and insensitive.
when i began to have anorexic-tendencies in sophomore year, i went onto the pro-ana tag here on tumblr. this was 2 years ago. there was no controversy over the tag and the visibility of it was relatively low. the tag provided ‘thinspo’. it was very bad. it was harmful. but it also had some value. having people, like-minded people i suppose, to talk to while i was going through the worst part of my life was anything but detrimental.
i think that people who self-identify as pro-ana are very troubled individuals. and i also think they will not change if you yell at them or make pro-ana hate blogs. i think that they need to understand that how they are acting towards people with anorexia and how they are trying to help people go along with eating disorders and even ‘convert’ people to eating disorders. but the people who react to them are slightly worse. they are the ones with more sense, obviously. but they are the ones who do not have eating disorders so do not have much empathy for the ones who do. they tell people with anorexia that they don’t have it. they don’t really ‘lend an ear’ and more just tell people with eating disorders that they need to get over it.
i think that people with eating disorders, like myself, NEED a community. what the anti-pro-ana people are doing is disbanding a community that does need a lot fixing, but not even trying to help create a space safe for people who have eating disorders.
i feel like there is no safe place for me to talk about my weight or how i feel about my eating disorder because of the anti-pro-ana people. this is worse, for me.