The truth is that not all survivors are women, not all abusers are men, and not all abuse is physical. And it does harm to assume otherwise. Emotional abuse, financial abuse, sexual abuse, physical abuse — they all hurt. It also hurts to perpetuate the idea that domestic violence only involves fists. Part of why I stayed with my abusive girlfriend was because I thought domestic violence was a man hitting a woman. I didn’t recognize the signs because it didn’t even occur to me as a lesbian to watch for them.
—  #WhyIStayed Is Our Hashtag, Too | Sarah Prager for the Huffington Post Gay Voices 
I was in college before I stopped trembling every time my father raised his voice. He could be shouting at a business associate over the phone and I’d be quaking in a corner somewhere. I didn’t need a psychiatrist to tell me that witnessing my father beating on my mother like she was a Mexican piñata would have a profound effect on me.

i was having a conversation with two of my friends yesterday. one  asked me about the men i’ve dated in the past

i told her about one of my exes that i dumped because he scared me. there was something about him that was off to me. eventually i found out that he had punched the girlfriend before me in the face in the middle of the train. for some reason she found that funny… i told her i dumped him when he called me a “bitch” because i felt like he hadn’t changed and once you go down that road, especially with a man with a history, things can go only one of two ways, and i didn’t want to hang out to find out which way we’d go.

the story seemed to thrill her. she asked me questions about dating “bad boys” and talked about how she had an attraction to them, but felt maybe now it was time to do the grown up thing and settle down with a good guy. she gave a heavy sigh after she said that.

i told her that in my experience, when i was  young, i thought dating men who were “rough around the edges” and who were hard to love were exciting. but as i grew up, i realized that wasn’t excitement. the uncertainty of their love, the unpredictability of their anger, their inability to express their emotions, that their only emotions were angry or horny….that’s not excitement, that’s danger. and that’s anxiety. and that’s putting a man’s inability to love over your deserved right to be loved. 

and so i just shared with her that in my relationship, i guess you could see my boyfriend as a “good guy” (you know, with the teaching Sunday school and getting his masters in education, and waiting until marriage thing). but i told her that stability in a relationship doesn’t mean boring. i expressed my belief that relationships shouldn’t be complicated and tumultuous as a source of excitement. that i believe that life is already exciting, and a healthy relationship with a person that you want to experience the thrills of life is what i have always wanted. someone that wants to travel and try new things, or do old things with a new perspective. to me that’s exciting. what’s exciting is learning the new ways that i love him and experiencing the new ways that he shows and tells me he loves me. that an exciting relationship is one that grows and builds and embraces life.

i said all that and the other friend was just smiling and nodding.  but the friend who asked me the question said that it was so sweet that i have that, but you could tell she was saying “that works for you, but i still like bad boys.” and with that i just took that it’s important to share who you are with other people because it may have an impact on them. but then you have to realize it may not. my relationship is not the ideal relationship for everyone and some people have to find their own way.. the friend that was smiling and nodding told me afterwords that i said things that she had always felt but couldn’t express. and i realized in that moment, me sharing about my relationship wasn’t for the friend who asked the question, it was for the one who sat and listened and heard a word in season.

anyway, the lesson is share your testimony. not because  you’re trying to convert the masses or change other people, but because you never know who may be changed, just by being around or near you.

and also that we need to have a conversation about women’s attraction to “bad boys” who are actually really bad for them. because it should not have excited my friend to hear that my ex punched a woman in the face. 

but that’s a different story

Reminder that you do not ever have to feel ashamed or embarrassed for dating someone abusive. 

We are programmed from birth to not trust our own instincts. When we show any influx in emotion people deem us “crazy” or “too sensitive”. We are taught that we are over-reactors. We were taught to not trust ourselves. 

It is not your fault. 

http://youtu.be/CB54fHsw6WE

I dare ANYONE to stick up for this piece of human filth and tell me that she, as a woman, is being oppressed by the justice system or the “patriarchy.” TELL ME that this creature - who couldn’t say anything on seeing her son bloodied and battered, other than “get out of my crib” - is a sane and emotionally stable mother who loves her child. TELL ME that men are abusive and that the police officers who arrested the father with clear evidence of his innocence are out to make women’s lives hell.

Tell me that everything found in the investigation is a lie. Tell me that they’ve come out with bite-sized flat screen TV’s that can be shoved in a child’s mouth:

http://pittsburgh.cbslocal.com/2014/09/15/mother-faces-charges-for-11-month-old-sons-injuries/

Tell me that women and men can’t be equally psychotic. You know what I’ll tell you in response?

You’re a fucking liar.

Do not abuse life. Live in today. Be reverent towards each day. Love it, respect it, do not sully it, do not hinder it from coming to flower. Love it even when it is grey and sad like today. Do not be anxious. See. It is winter now. Everything is asleep. The good earth will awake again. You have only to be good and patient like the earth. Be reverent. Wait.
—  Romain Rolland

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This masterpost needs so many more notes. You might save someone’s life, or make their day, or you can turn their life around by showing them this. When I’m not so sick, I’m going over the links I need because this is hella helpful right now.

PSA

Today I found this website called “teensafe”. It allows parents to view everything their child does on their iPhone or android.

This is dangerous and flat-out disgusting.

The iPhone version of this uses data from iCloud.

DO NOT give your parents your iCloud account name and password. Tell them you forgot it if you must. I went through about a year when I had forgotten my password and I could not get the damn password recovery to work, so this is plausible. Input subtly incorrect information to the recovery if you can’t do that. Simple things like skipping a letter, or using “con” instead of “com”. Anything that will make it not go through.

I also recommend making a second iCloud account on your phone. Send mundane texts from it, nothing incriminating.

I highly recommend changing your iCloud password right now if your parents know it and you have something you don’t want them to know.

There is no way to check if this software is being used.

Stay safe.

danielinsomanywords said:

As long as people are calling out Sam Pepper and Shane Dawson for their toxic behavior, I think WAY more attention needs to be given to someone like Onision, who does so many problematic and harmful things in his videos I wouldn't even know where to begin, between transphobia, fat-shaming, slut-shaming, racism, slandering his ex's, his mockery of self-harm, mockery of mental illness, etc., etc., et-fucking-c.

Wasn’t he also accused of abuse too?

The fact that there are people out there that ship Daroline makes me want to puke. Tell me what about this is romantic? What about this makes your heart melt with happiness? What makes you ship an innocent girl like Caroline with a monster like Damon?

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Shit that I don't like:

Katless.

This has been bothering me and now I just gotta say it after that Variety article. Umm.. no. There’s nothing remotely romantic about the Katless love story given their past history with each other. Sixteen-year-old me would’ve lapped that shit up and thought that it was ‘true luv’, and that it was okay for men not to take ‘no’ for an answer because eventually the woman will see passed his faults and fall in love. But that’s not how life is and that’s certainly not what love is.

It worries me that some people may look at this and legitimately think that Abraham’s actions are normal. In the promo clip he literally chokes her and forces her back down in her seat. That’s not okay. That’s not love. That’s control. Don’t confuse hatred/control for chemistry/lust.

So Abraham ‘loves’ her and has made sacrifices to be with her, but damnit that was his choice. No one asked him to do that shit. He chose to sell himself to the devil. He doesn’t get a reward for playing ‘nice’ and allowing Katrina to see a different side of him. Like no. 

I hate Ichatrina, ya’ll know this. And ya’ll know I don’t give a damn about Katrina Crane, but I won’t support the writers allowing ANYONE (including men, too) in a abusive relationship. Point blank. End of discussion. 

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My heart is no heart
No longer
No more
So deep this hole of sorrow
You’ve cursed upon my insides
No my heart is no heart
No more
No longer
Call it an abyss
Where once the thud
Of pumping blood
Is now a quiet darkness
So deep and endless
No one dares enter
Can’t be mended
Not by one single soul but yours

Expecting too much of the broken girl
Never got you anywhere
The abyss swallowed you whole
You disappeared into what you created

You threw rocks into the sky
Then wondered why the stars didn’t shine
And without their light
Everything fell apart
You now realize what you ruined
The abyss in my chest is now the place you call home
I’m alone
And it’s too dark for you to make it out alive

—  T.S. (Abyss)

Parents who abuse their child because they want them to be perfect have no idea that they’re pushing for their kid to become an angel. There. Your child is frozen and gone to this world, their braces will remain as the rest becomes dust. But there’s your perfect angel that you only wanted to succeed. That’s what you wanted, isn’t it? Don’t cry.

Soos and the Real Girl

in which the part of an abusive romantic partner is played by a kawaii dating simulator girl

She starts out cute and friendly and nice, saying that she wants to be “together FOREVER”, telling Soos that he “doesn’t need real girls”, and when he does eventually try to break up with her, she goes COMPLETELY BATSHIT and tries to KILL EVERYONE, including Soos.

You can’t tell me cartoons don’t teach kids important lessons about real life.

Stop. Stereotyping. Pitbulls.

My dog likes to dig holes under the fence and no matter how many times we cover them she just keep digging and getting out of the yard. When she does this, she just comes back around to the driveway and cries until someone opens the gate for her.
A couple days ago, my mom came home to a warning on the door from animal control. Apparently, my dog had gotten out, was in HER driveway, and “aggressively barked” at someone who was walking by. This persons statement said “I was walking by and this dog (white with black patches, a pink collar, and a red heart name tag that read “Bella”) started barking at me. I am handicapped and was unable to defend myself so I threw rocks at her”
OKAY HOLD UP RIGHT NOW.
If my dog was “aggressive” then how the fuck did you get close enough to read her name tag?
If you’re “disabled and unable to defend yourself” how the FUCK were you able to pick up ROCKS and THROW them at my fucking dog. Isn’t that defending yourself? As if throwing rocks at a dog isn’t gonna piss it off more?
If you’re so handicapped then why the fuck are you walking ALONE in the GHETTO!?
My dog has NEVER been aggressive towards any person or any other dog. Her “aggressive barking” was her protecting her territory. I bet if she was a golden retriever then there wouldn’t be a problem right?
Be careful.
Bella might fucking lick you to death.
STOP FUCKING STEREOTYPING MY DOG YOU FUCKS!!!!!!

EXTREMELY IMPORTANT

I wouldn’t be so concerned about warning everyone on here if not FOR EXTREME REASONS

this motherfucker  - juststfualready.tumblr.com - is a fucking asshole and everyone should report his sexist abusive ass RIGHT NOW if you need convincing take about 3 seconds to look at his blog he is disgusting and harrassing girls non-stop 

I couldn’t even believe at first that it was serious but it is so yeah please kindly SIGNAL BOOST HIS ASS OUT OF TUMBLR

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