A Work In Progress

I try to be the best person I can be in every community I’m involved in and as an ally in every other .

If I do something that is
- racist
- transphobic
- cissexist
- misandristic
- ableist

or anything ignorant / offensive

CALL ME OUT ON IT -
but politely.

Explain what I did. Then I will correct myself for the future.

Even if you are not polite I will STILL try to talk it out with you.

I want to be the best person I can be, and that involves making unintentional mistakes.

And I’m sure others do too.

If you just unfollow someone and then trash them without tagging, how will we learn, change, evolve?

This has been a PSA on making a difference.

"You’re way too outgoing to have anxiety!"

"You’re way too happy to have depression!"

"You’re way too caring to have antisocial personality disorder!"

"You’re way too nice to be bipolar!"

"You’re way too sweet to have borderline personality disorder!"

"You’re way too smart to be autistic!"

"You’re way too normal to have dissociative identity disorder!"

*throws up*

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This is basically a post for people who think that the world is accessible for those who are disabled, although this is centred around those who use a wheelchair. 

And this doesn’t include when people park in disabled spaces without a badge, or question those who park in disabled spaces who don’t use a chair.

The first picture is of a disabled parking space, where the snow has been pushed into that space whilst people were clearing the car park. This also happens when snow ploughers push the snow to the side of the road and onto the pavement as it blocks the dipped down pavement where wheelchair users can get on/off of the pavement and most wheelchairs struggle to be able to push through the snow.

The second picture is of a lift/elevator in Boots a store in the UK, where there are baskets and cases in front of the lift, which block wheelchair users from using it and accessing other levels in the store.

The third picture is of a zebra crossing with a lowered pavement for wheelchair users, and there is an island in the middle with a normal height curb, which blocks wheelchair users, and it means they have to go around, along with having bollards near the entrance which don’t look wide enough to fit a wheelchair through.

The fourth picture is that of a ramp, which has a step in order to get onto the ramp. (I’m pretty sure they didn’t even try.)

The fifth picture is of a ramp with a tree in the middle, which doesn’t have enough room on either side for a wheelchair to get through.

The sixth picture is of a very very steep ramp, which even if you have someone pushing your chair you probably won’t be able to get up it!

The seventh picture is of a disabled parking space, which has a ramp leading to the entrance, which again has steps in order to access the ramp.

The eighth picture is of ‘disabled parking’, where non of the spaces have room to allow chairs to get out of the car, except at the back. They are just normal spaces where a blue sign has been placed in an attempt to make the parking ‘wheelchair accessible’.

The ninth picture is of a reception desk which is too high for wheelchair users to access, as they can’t be seen, due to the fact that they are smaller than the desk.

The final picture is of a ramp which only goes halfway up the curb, essentially meaning there is a step at the top of the ramp.

If anybody still thinks the world isn’t staked against those who are disabled, then I honestly worry about you.

The 10 Phrases I’ve Stopped Saying And The People Who Appreciate Me For It (via Upworthy)

It’s pretty common for people to use disability metaphors like “That guy is crazy!” or “This weather is so bipolar” without giving it a second thought. It’s important to realize how these words and metaphors can affect people with disabilities and perpetuate stigmas surrounding mental health. If you’ve never thought about the impact these words can have, you’re in luck because this chart provides some common disability metaphors and easy alternatives!

ps. Special thanks to m-arkiplier for inspiring me to create this graphic! (and for his permission to use his post) For more info on why it’s important to be conscious of the metaphors we use, check out this HuffPost article ”10 Reasons to Give Up Ableist Language.”


Here’s why disabled people don’t like when books end with a cure. Imagine you’re a gay youth. After searching and searching, you finally find a book that has representation of gay youth. You read through it and it’s totally rad and you can really relate to it. You get to the end, and suddenly, through some miraculous force, they’re straight. Now do you see the problem?

Rebuttals to Assholes Who Think They're Autism Experts

"Autistic people are stupid!"

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"Autistic women are ugly freaks!"

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"Autistics aren’t capable of being artists!"

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"Autistic people contribute nothing to society!"

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"Autistic people just aren’t capable of deep feeling or empathy."

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"Autistic people drive their parents to abuse them!"

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"Autistic people aren’t capable of any normal play behavior, especially not with children."

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"Autistic people are a drain on our economic system!"

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"Autistic children are horrible monsters!"

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Diabetic high school girl beaten by police officer & arrested…for falling asleep in class
May 9, 2013

A student who was arrested and beaten for falling asleep at school is now suing an Alabama city, its police department and some school employees for civil rights violation, battery and negligent supervision and hiring. After the diabetic student fell asleep while in a room reserved for “in school suspensions,” a school police officer slammed her face into a cabinet and then arrested her. The incident occurred at a high school in Hoover, Alabama.

Ashlynn Avery, who has diabetes, asthma and sleep apnea, was suspended for cutting class, and had to sit in the in-school suspension room. While she was reading “Huckleberry Finn,” she dozed off. First, the in-school suspension supervisor walked over to her cubicle and struck it, which caused the cubicle to hit Avery’s head, according to the lawsuit. She woke up, but soon fell back asleep. The supervisor, Joshua Whited, then took the book from her and slammed it into the student’s chest.

Avery was then told to leave the room, according to the complaint, and police officer Christopher Bryant followed her. Bryant slapped her backpack, and then “proceeded to shove Ashlynn face first into a file cabinet and handcuff her,” the complaint states. While in the car, Avery vomited. She was taken to a hospital and had to wear a cast as a result of her injuries.

“Ashlynn required follow-up care to her shoulder, arm, and wrist, Ashlynn also required extended mental counseling for trauma caused by the defendants,” the lawsuit states. The Averys are seeking “compensatory and punitive damages for civil rights violations, battery and negligent supervision and hiring,”.

The case is another example of abuses committed by school police officers. Activists have long decried the “school to prison pipeline” which disproportionately affects communities of color. A PBS factsheet, as the Courthouse News Service notes, states that “70 percent of students involved in ‘in-school’ arrests or referred to law enforcement are black or Latino.”

“When police (or ‘school resource officers’ as these sheriff’s deputies are often known) spend time in a school, they often deal with disorder like proper cops — by slapping cuffs on the little perps and dragging them to the precinct,” wrote Chase Madar in the wake of the Newtown massacre. The school shooting in Connecticut has sparked more calls—from both Democrats and the National Rifle Association—for more police officers in schools.

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I know it’s not really sexism but I felt like issues like this should come up.

Because as far as I’m concerned when people make jokes about minimum wage workers wanting a better living wage but not being “smart enough” for it, they’re:

a) Saying fuck poor people they don’t deserve to be able to live properly and

b) Saying fuck people with learning disabilities or couldn’t go to college or even had to drop out middle/high school.

To me this is classist and ableist because god forbid we actually try to help the people in minimum wage jobs who were unable to get anything better because they’re set up to fail. 

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tbh, I don’t think it’s any coincidence that they drew what appears to possibly be a WOC who is the object of their scorn. It’s all intersections, peeps.

Hey, SJWs, did you know your made-up word, ableist, completely contradicts the basic rules of linguistics that most people have down at, like, age ten? You see, when you add a suffix beginning with a vowel (IE, -ist) to a word that ends in a silent E (IE, able), you drop the E because it is no longer needed. For example, like + -ing = liking, not likeing.

And no, able is not different just because it ends in LE. Let’s take a word that ends with exactly the same sound, like scale. Scale + -ing = scaling, not scaleing. Therefore, able + -ist = ablist, not ableist. It’s deliciously ironic that people who rail against others ‘insulting’ people partially because of lesser intelligence demonstrate such a lack of intelligence.

"But English grammar rules were invented by white people!" I hear some fragile SJW protesting. So were computers. So was the internet. So was tumblr. If you don’t like utilizing things made by white people, stop using all of those things. LOL.

What to do if you see a disabled person struggling to do something

1. Politely ask if they would like assistance. DO NOT do whatever task they’re trying to complete without asking them if they want your help, that is rude.
2. If the decline, accept their refusal and let them know that if they change their mind to just holler. DO NOT get upset or angry that they don’t want your help.
3. FUCKING WALK AWAY AND LET THEM DO THINGS FOR THEMSELVES UNLESS THEY DECIDE TO ASK FOR YOUR HELP

Okay i feel this was really important to share. I saw a post of this guy defending Elliot Rogers and saying all kinds of fucked up shit about the shootings. I went to his page and found these statuses (WAY more where this came from).. All I can think of is how this guy could be the next Elliot Rogers. I’m no sure how to report this or what to do so I turned to facebooksexism

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Scary shit.

Try this…Go to his profile. Next to the message feature on his banner should be a button w/ 3 dots. Click that. Click block/report. Click report content from him. Submit the 2 where he makes distinct threats. Unfortunately FB won’t do shit about general bigotry, but maybe they will about him saying he’s gonna kill…

A PSA from a person with a disability

For the love of God, DO NOT clip an oxygen tube to your nose unless you normally use it. DO NOT wheel around in a wheelchair unless you normally use it. DO NOT even use a crutch or a cane unless you normally use them. DO NOT shave your heads. Do NOT wear glasses (like Isaac) unless you normally wear them. If you want to make Hazel’s t-shirt and carry around a copy of her book or wear a basketball jersey and carry around cigarettes, go ahead. BUT DON’T YOU DARE cosplay as being disabled, unless you yourself have said disability and are incorporating it. Seriously. I don’t care if you mean well and don’t think that anyone will mind. DO NOT DO IT. You have no idea how unbelievably offensive it is. Just don’t. Please. Okay? Okay.

destroyingenjoying asked:

Can you please explain why being “sapiosexual” or attracted to intelligence is ableist? I can’t date anyone who I can’t have quality conversations with, on a wide variety of topics. I don’t care about formal education, but I do care about being able to connect with someone on an intellectual as well as a physical and emotional level.

Okay sapiosexuals are attracted to intelligence, well “intelligence,” is a bullshit term. What does one consider intelligent? Speaking “properly?” A Westernized idea of correct grammar? Being good at math or science? Graduating from high school or college? Getting straight A’s? Being able to do this or that, etc.

One is using their idea of intelligence and judging whether someone is up to their standards of “smart.” It’s basically “I find intelligence sexy, here are my very specific terms of intelligence.” That concept is very ableist.

And since some people idea of intelligence stems towards higher education, it’s pretty classist as well. Some people cannot finish schooling, and judging one’s worth based off of education is eliminating those people and automatically categorizing them as “unintelligent.” 

It’s just a very problematic term, and it always comes off as ableist, to me. 

Let's talk about spoons

Have you heard of The Spoon Theory? Well a lot of people in the social justice community have. Instead of respecting and trying to understand what this analogy does for people with invisible disabilities and how we suffer daily, they’ve taken it to mean anything that upsets them, especially in the context of dealing with social justice issues.

Yeah, I get it. It sucks repeating the same thing about feminism or any other oppression and can get frustrating and tiring. However it is nothing like having a chronic  disability like lupus.

I would know, I’m disabled. I may not have lupus, but i suffer from other things like IBS. I never knew real chronic fatigue and pain until IBS. What a normal person might call out sick for, I just have to deal with because then I’d be calling out sick every fucking day. I still miss a lot of work because of these symptoms, but luckily am protected by fmla. 

Sometimes the hardest things to do is wake up in the morning. If I do a task that is more than sedentary, I can be in pain for days. When I am unable to eat because my IBS makes me nauseous, I barely have the energy to get through the day. 

This is what the author of The Spoon Theory was trying to convey. Chronic illness is invisible, only we know how we get through everyday, and just like she says it comes with making choices about what you will do that day, because it sure as hell will affect you tomorrow. It explains why we can’t do simple things after a little bit of activity. It explains the limitations put on our life because of our illness.

So when some SJ idiot starts saying they don’t “have the spoons” to deal with something someone said was offensive, I’d wish they’d shove it up their ass.

If you use this expression and are not disabled, you are appropriating a term meant specifically for people who suffer from chronic fatigue and pain. You’re ignoring the true spirit of the analogy and are being an ableist fuckhead for reducing our daily struggle to get by with something that just upsets you. 

Even if you are disabled, using that expression to refer to something that is just frustrating and you don’t want to deal with belittles the meaning and what we are trying to convey.

So stop it. It doesn’t make you look more socially aware, just fucking stupid. 


Edit: And just to clarify, I suffer from depression and anxiety too, and they certainly have a physical effect that can be explained with the spoon metaphor. The whole concept started from “but you don’t look sick”, which is the host of the article I linked to, and applies nicely to all invisible illnesses that bring chronic pain and fatigue, that make every day a daily battle but you can’t explain to your coworkers, your friends, your family, because they don’t experience it. This is why I hate when the spoon theory is taken out of disability context and made into way to say “i’m frustrated with this argument” in social justice discussions. 

Also for clarification purposes, this rant was made in response to what happened on shakesville.