"I am a lost cause," I told the nurse as she was removing my self-harm stitches. Suddenly the look in her eyes changed, as they began to well up with tears. "It’s okay though, I’ve accepted it," I said.
—  30/09/2014. A lost cause.
People With Mental Problems, Like

Suicidality Or Suicidal Thoughts

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Schizophrenia Or Psychosis

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Paranoia

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Depression

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Self Harm

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Anxiety Disorder

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Bulimia Nervosa

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Anorexia Nervosa

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Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder

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Post Traumatic Stress Disorder

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Mental illnesses also are important

Reblog if you support people with mental illness

So my dad taught me this trick today for dealing with PTSD attacks

It sounds really simple but it’s already helped me a lot.

Make a list of :

Four things you hear

Three things you feel

Two things you smell

One thing you taste

And repeat this list to yourself five times.

I know it sounds super simple and I’m sure a lot of people do it already, but if it helps anyone, then it’s worth sharing.

I’ve been getting really fucking tired of people who don’t have triggers talking about how “trigger warnings are insulting to people who have survived trauma because it presumes they can’t deal with the material.” Motherfucker, road signs don’t insult me, they just tell me what’s coming up ahead of me so that I can prepare for it.
—  Amy Rebecca (source)
Let's set something straight

Yes, multiple personality disorder is real.

Yes, schizophrenia can happen.

Yes, depression can be severe.

Yes, panic disorders are a real condition.

Yes, OCD is a real problem.

Yes, PTSD can be hard to deal with.

Yes, Bipolar Disorder is an actual disorder

Fuck no, these people don’t need to be locked up forever. These people are not overreacting or faking it, and if you think so, shut the fuck up.

I think that the accurate representation of PTSD in In The Flesh goes straight into the background when people talk about this wonderful show as more issues are represented correctly such as homosexuality, suicide and sexual assault.

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But I honestly think that the character Jemima Walker is one of the most important characters and she never gets the recognition she deserves because people link her in with Gary and what she did in her past; she’s also over shadowed by the lovely Amy who is larger than life (no pun intended).

The fact that Jem is suffering with nightmares and full blown panic attacks speaks volumes about what she really felt about killing the PDS sufferers and the fact she is still torn between two groups of people is destroying her mentally as she doesn’t want to be seen as a ‘Zombie protector’ nor does she want to be seen as a ‘Zombie killer’.

Jem’s emotional and physical torture is a perfect representation of PTSD and I love the fact that the BBC weren’t afraid to go into that subject and go into it so much that it’s quite disturbing to watch at times.

I don’t know I just loved how they done all of the sequences showing Jem having those nightmares about being trapped in a test room with zombies, panicking and crying when one on Blue Oblivion came at her in the school corridor causing her to be so afraid that she wet herself.

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It’s realistic.

It’s acted perfectly.

Written perfectly.

Why the hell can’t this be done in all shows?

THIS IS HOW YOU REPRESENT PEOPLE.

I’d also like to point out that this show is about zombies and they were still able to make an accurate representation of all of the mentioned issues were as shows centred on ‘normal’ people can’t even be bothered to represent them and if they do then it’s normally in a very insulting manner and not taken seriously as it is in In The Flesh.

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The conflict she suffers between being terrified of her brother, her best friend and wanting to be right by his side standing up for him is powerful and beautiful when she eventually learns to look past her fear, not get rid of it but learns to push it away from her and ask for some help, hugging her brother as she’s crying.

( Let’s not forget that she’s not only holding the killings of many zombies over her head but the accidental killing of her own friend yet somehow she still manages to try and go about her life. )

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I can’t even put into words how much that scene moved me, it broke my heart and filled me with joy at the same time as Jem was going to get help for her breakdown and PTSD.

People call Jem weak when she’s actually one of (if not the) strongest character in the entire series and the hate towards her is extremely difficult for me to understand.

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10 Tips for Understanding someone with PTSD:

#1 – Knowledge is power. Understanding the process of a triggering event, the psychic reaction to trauma, the warning signs and symptoms of PTSD, and available treatment options for PTSD allows you to help recognize, support and guide your PTSD loved one toward diagnosis, treatment and healing.

We need you to be clearheaded, pulled together and informed.

#2 – Trauma changes us. After trauma we want to believe —as do you—that life can return to the way it was; that we can continue as who we were. This is not how it works. Trauma leaves a huge and indelible impact on the soul. It is not possible to endure trauma and not experience a psychic shift.

Expect us to be changed. Accept our need to evolve. Support us on this journey.

#3 – PTSD hijacks our identity. One of the largest problems with PTSD is that it takes over our entire view of ourselves. We no longer see clearly. We no longer see the world as we experienced it before trauma. Now every moment is dangerous, unpredictable and threatening.

Gently remind us and offer opportunities to engage in an identity outside of trauma and PTSD.

#4 – We are no longer grounded in our true selves. In light of trauma our real selves retreat and a coping self emerges to keep us safe.

Believe in us; our true selves still exist, even if they are momentarily buried.

#5 – We cannot help how we behave. Since we are operating on a sort of autopilot we are not always in control. PTSD is an exaggerated state of survival mode. We experience emotions that frighten and overwhelm us. We act out accordingly in defense of those feelings we cannot control.

Be patient with us; we often cannot stop the anger, tears or other disruptive behaviors that are so difficult for you to endure.

#6 – We cannot be logical. Since our perspective is driven by fear we don’t always think straight, nor do we always accept the advice of those who do.

Keep reaching out, even when your words don’t seem to reach us. You never know when we will think of something you said and it will comfort, guide, soothe or inspire us.

#7 – We cannot just ‘get over it’. From the outside it’s easy to imagine a certain amount of time passes and memories fade and trauma gets relegated to the history of a life. Unfortunately, with PTSD nothing fades. Our bodies will not let us forget. Because of surging chemicals that reinforce every memory, we cannot walk away from the past anymore than you can walk away from us.

Honor our struggle to make peace with events. Do not rush us. Trying to speed our recovery will only make us cling to it more.

#8 – We’re not in denial—we’re coping! It takes a tremendous effort to live with PTSD. Even if we don’t admit it, we know there’s something wrong. When you approach us and we deny there’s a problem that’s really code for, “I’m doing the best I can.” Taking the actions you suggest would require too much energy, dividing focus from what is holding us together. Sometimes, simply getting up and continuing our daily routine is the biggest step toward recovery we make.

Alleviate our stress by giving us a safe space in which we can find support.

#9 – We do not hate you. Contrary to the ways we might behave when you intervene, somewhere inside we do know that you are not the source of the problem. Unfortunately, in the moment we may use your face as PTSD’s image. Since we cannot directly address our PTSD issues sometimes it’s easier to address you.

Continue to approach us. We need you to!

#10 - Your presence matters. PTSD creates a great sense of isolation. In our post-traumatic state, it makes a difference to know that there are people who will stand by us. It matters that although we lash out, don’t respond and are not ourselves, you are still there, no matter what.

Don’t give up, we’re doing our best.

PLEASE READ AND REBLOG.

Okay, let me first say this. I have a lot of mixed feelings about posting this. I have trouble admitting when I need help, I don’t like asking for help, and most of the time I just feel like I should be able to handle things on my own. I hate the idea that I sound like I’m whining, so I’m really trying not to sound whiny, but I also feel like I really want to convey the gravity of my situation here.

My name is Cassandra. I’m 22 years old. I dropped out of school two years ago, and ended up having to move back home. I have an emotionally and psychologically abusive family. It has been this way all my life. Due to their treatment of me, I developed Dissociative Identity Disorder (multiple personalities brought on as a mechanism for coping with trauma) by the time I was three years old. Somewhere along the way, I also ended up with Post Traumatic Stress Disorder, and the symptoms include high levels of anxiety and an intense fear of conflict. I’ve also had depression for as long as I remember. I have been a self-harmer for nearly ten years and have attempted suicide twice. The household I live in is severely toxic to me: it has gotten to the point where my DID has kicked in so strongly that I am in a heavily dissociated state whenever I am at home because I cannot handle existing there.

I dropped out of college because I was massively suicidal at the time due to the stress. Since then, after taking some time to try to pull myself back together, I have been working retail jobs at the local mall. I currently have two jobs. One pays CO minimum wage ($8/hr), and one pays $9/hr. I work 5-6 days a week. Balancing two jobs with strong anxiety and multiple personalities is a nightmare. While I’m living at home, I don’t have to pay rent, which is a small consolation for the awful environment. I do however pay for gas, food, and my medication. The medication alone, with insurance, sometimes costs up to $90/month. I am lucky in that currently my parents are paying for my medical bills such as psychiatrist and psychologist visits, but they have indicated that in the near future they expect me to start paying for these. I currently have a credit card bill of nearly $2,000 that I am doing my best to pay off. The amount of money I actually have in my bank account? Around $400. I have been selling things on eBay and doing freelance jobs online to supplement my income but it hasn’t helped much.

Now, on top of this, the car that I have been driving is my parents’ car. I use it to get to and from work, and to see my boyfriend. My boyfriend is a very important part of my life. He helps me remain stable and gives me hope. However, the tires on the car I’m driving now, are really bad. I took it in for an oil change a few days ago and they basically told me I should not be driving this car because the front tires are bald and the back tires are almost so. My parents refuse to replace the tires. Their excuse is that they “can’t afford it” right now. I know this is bullshit. My mother is the type of woman who replaces all of her major kitchen appliances on a whim. Instead, my parents have taken this as an opportunity to exercise their control over me even more, telling me that I am no longer allowed to drive anywhere but to work and back. Which makes seeing my boyfriend (who lives about an hour away and who doesn’t have a car yet) immensely harder. I have been dating him for almost two and a half years, and I get to see him once a week. The idea of not getting to see him, or getting to see him less often than that, ratchets my anxiety up into astronomic levels. I live in an area where buses don’t even run, okay? But new tires run for about 600$ and I clearly don’t have that kind of money to spare.

So what it comes down to? I need to get out of this house. I need to get away from my parents. If you need any convincing that they are horrible people who make me suicidal, I’d be glad to elaborate. Whenever I am able to move out, I will be getting an apartment with my boyfriend. But right now I’m financially incapable of paying any part of rent. I also need new tires for my car and am effectively grounded in a toxic environment until I get new tires.

So I am asking for donations. Every tiny bit helps.

I swear I wouldn’t be doing this if I didn’t actually need the help. If you’ve got five bucks to spare, that would be so helpful. 

You can donate here.

PLEASE REBLOG.

PTSD is a common long-term effect, and, in fact, rape survivors may be the single largest group of individuals suffering from this disorder. According to one large community survey, the lifetime prevalence of PTSD in rape victims was 57 percent, and symptoms may not actually appear until years after the assault.
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Edited by Paula K. Lunderberg-Love & Shelly L. Marmion, "Intimate Violence Against Women: When Spouses, Partners or Lovers Attack." Praeger Publishers, 2008. (p. 66)

Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder:

PTSD, is an anxiety disorder that can develop after exposure to a traumatic event or ordeal. With PTSD, the “fight-or-flight” response, which is a healthy reaction meant to protect a person from harm,is changed, damaged, and often over activated. People who have PTSD may feel stressed or frightened even when they’re no longer in danger.

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