You dismantled your right to approve or not and threw away the key

Let me report a side of the outcome of the referendum that I had not expected.

We knew that the debate would have personal costs. An Irish lesbian who is now a law professor in England predicted it last November. And so it came to pass. BeLonG To, the lgbt youth service, had a 10-fold increase in calls for support from lgbt teens during the campaign; a lesbian couple wrote about the stress for their daughter when the poster saying every child needs a mother and father appeared on a lamp-post outside their house.

When the result came in (on a beautifully sunny Saturday), it was clear that our fellow citizens were not merely allowing us to marry whom we choose. They were endorsing our right to be gay or lesbian or bisexual. We are no longer merely tolerated, or even, in an odd way, accepted in that Irish way of “he’s gay, but he’s our gay”. The majority called a halt to even that. They dismantled their right to approve or not and threw away the key.

As @efferal said on twitter:

“It’s like every closet exploded open when we were only supposed to blow the bloody doors off.”

And the photograph on the front page of the New York Times shows just what that means to some of us who, no matter how out we were, know that being gay was simply not equal. The unarticulated pain of conceded rights — conceded rights to not be criminals, not be discriminated in the pub, of being allowed second-class civil partnerships — had been silently sitting on our shoulders. Until Saturday.

This photograph(above) from Dublin Castle on Saturday and published on the front page of the New York Times shows you what it feels like to have that yoke of approval lifted from our necks.


Equality for all

Whether is gender equality or social equality for LGBT people, I think that governments should not be influenced by religions…

Gay bashing at Chelsea Dallas BBQ in New York. Aside from the graphic violence they were also called faggots. This is why LGBT couples live in fear when we go out in public. We can’t hold hands or show any bit of affection without fear of being hurt. Don’t let the media or pop culture fool you. Many LGBT people are still being attacked, killed and harassed every single day.

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