Professionalism is a funny term, because it masquerades as neutral despite being loaded with immense oppression. As a concept, professionalism is racist, sexist, homophobic, transphobic, classist, imperialist and so much more — and yet people act like professionalism is non-political. Bosses across the country constantly tell their employees to ‘act professionally’ without a second thought. Wear a garment that represents your non-Western culture to work? Your boss may tell you it’s unprofessional. Wear your hair in braids or dreadlocks instead of straightened? That’s probably unprofessional too. Wear shoes that are slightly scuffed because you can’t yet afford new ones? People may not think you’re being professional either.
We live in a world where not only does everyone have to have an opinion, but it tends resonate more if the opinion is shitty and mean. So unless you’re saying something really shitty about something, you’re not going to get heard. There were a lot of great reviews that really liked the show and thought it was really interesting. The stuff that kind of got through was negative: “‘Arrested,’ Not What It Was.” That was inevitable! People trip over themselves to be the first to say the shit thing. They go out of their way. That, by way, cuts across everything. “Arrested Development” is not the only example of that. Everybody is susceptible to that. Not like I need to make some huge social commentary, but it’s absolutely true. People can’t wait — whether it’s Twitter or Facebook — people can’t wait to say something shitty.
—  Will Arnett, on what he thought about the response to Season 4 of “Arrested Development.” (huffingtonpost)

5 Never Before Heard Stories about Nirvana, As Told By The Band’s First Drummer: Aaron Burckhard.

At this point I have a request for our fans. If any of you in any way hate homosexuals, people of different color, or women, please do this one favor for us — leave us the fuck alone! Don’t come to our shows and don’t buy our records.

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Special Thanks to the HuffingtonPost and Todd for including me in the article!

The UK Huffington Post posted an article all about Vader. Vader was a beloved pet fox who harmed no one, and due to a crazy animal activist in tumblr who filed a false bite claim, and an officer who did not follow protocol, he was killed. Regardless of some peoples opinions on keeping these animals as pets, please help out for Vader. I rescued a fox and they definitely are NOT suited for the general public and are NOT domestic exactly like cats or dogs. I cannot imagine how his family must feel, foxes change your life deeply and quickly. Please sign this petition and pass it around and help get some justice for Vader and his family. No animal, exotic or domestic, should have to suffer like this. This petition is asking the government to make it mandatory that all domestic animal bites and attack reports are fully investigated. #vader #vaderfox #vaderpetfox #vaderthefox #justiceforvader #maythefoxbewithyou #huffingtonpost #petition (at

What is affectional bonding, “AB”? It’s defined as emotionally significant, not transitory, involving a particular person who is not interchangeable with anyone else. “AB” is being responsive and open to deeper, intimate experiences with women you know, love, and admire — like the friend you travel with to Europe every summer or the quiet, interesting gal in your book club. Maybe my lonely, single, women friends who’ve been influenced by outmoded values and religious beliefs, but hungry for appreciation should consider “AB.”

If you’re still not ready to make any sexual leaps, but want a caring touch, consider cuddle parties: One participant said, “My experience at cuddle parties has blown the top off my ability to experience pleasure and intimacy in a safe environment with open, honest and warm people. It’s given me the ability to make changes in my own way of thinking, making a big improvement in my other relationships…”

For those who want love and contentment in their lives, maybe they already have it with the loving adoring devoted women in their life — that love just doesn’t happen to have a penis. But, since the social acceptance of nice girls who own vibrators, the sexual need for men could become obsolete in the next decade or two…

Ladies, tired of the hairy chest? Try the softer touch. Has erectile dysfunction got you down and disappointed? Try reframing your options. With affectional bonding, enjoy everything you ever wanted without the messy clean-up.

Mid-life women have a sense of wonderment about the world, spontaneity, and they can navigate life’s ups and downs with a sense of humor. Experiencing menopause through the same lens is a bonding experience. Women stick around. So why not hold them a little closer?

Thanks Huffington Post, for turning bisexuality into an escape route from m*n. I wonder if this will be better than being considered the first bus stop on the way to chilled Mimosas at GAYGAYGAYtown. 

I think those lonely, single friends are likely lonely and single for being awful rather than all these hairy chests and erectile dysfunction. Also, I’d love to see an article on men exploring bisexuality to escape having their surface layer of skin seared off from inadvertent hot flashes or getting too many hairs stuck in their teeth each night at sexy supper time. 

What does it take to get to the top — without losing your center? Our “Making It Work” series profiles successful, dynamic women who are standouts in their fields, peeling back the “hows” of their work and their life, taking aw…

What does it take to get to the top — without losing your center? Our “Making It Work” series profiles successful, dynamic women who are standouts in their fields, peeling back the “hows” of their work and their life, taking away lessons we can all apply to our own.

Lea Michele has quite the impressive resumé. The 27-year-old singer and actress, best known for playing the annoying, yet lovable Rachel Berry on "Glee," has worn many entertainment industry hats — from TV actress to Broadway star to recording artist.

The Bronx-born Michele spent most of her formative years in Tenafly, NJ where she attended high school before moving to New York City to pursue acting. She made her Broadway debut at the age of eight in “Les Miserables” and went on to star in other Broadway shows including “Ragtime,” “Fiddler On The Roof” and “Spring Awakening.”

This past December, Michele debuted her first single "Cannonball" and quickly followed it up with the release of her solo album "Louder" in March. “It’s more than just an album to me — it’s a piece of my life that I’m so glad is here for me to have for the rest of my life,” Michele told Billboard in Jan. 2014. “Be loud, be bold, be yourself, whether or not people understand that message. That’s what I think of when I think of the song and album.”

These days Michele is preparing for the publication of her book Brunette Ambition(coming out in May 2014) and serving as an ambassador for the L’Oreal Paris’"Women Of Worth" campaign.

Michele recently spoke with The Huffington Post about her definition of success, staying true to herself in the entertainment industry and why she loves being a woman.

How do you define success?

I really think that in this business it’s so funny because you achieve different levels of success and you always think: “Well maybe I just need to get that next award or that next job.” You always think that when you get to the next level you’ll be the happiest, but for me success is really about being happy and proud of myself and the work that I do. That to me is the greatest success.

So by that definition do you consider yourself successful?

I definitely consider myself successful because I really love what I do. And I’m happy in what I do every single day.

Michele enjoying a beautiful day outside via Instagram.

What’s the best piece of advice you’ve ever been given?

If I’ve learned anything over the past five or so years of moving to Los Angeles and getting [cast in “Glee”] is that being yourself is the most important thing. I always thought that I needed to fit into a mold and be a certain type of person in order to become successful or to make it in this world, but it was really just being me that introduced me to the people that have opened so many doors for my life and for my career. I don’t want to have friends that I can’t be myself around and I wouldn’t want to be at a job that I couldn’t be myself.

As a Women Of Worth ambassador what’s one issue that you think women should focus on in 2014?

I think it’s so important that women really focus on encouraging and empowering other women. That’s definitely something that people struggle with in [the entertainment] business and in this industry, and that the media especially likes to bring attention to in a negative way. It’s so important that we empower one another because it’s hard enough being a woman! We could use all the support that we can get from each other.

Michele at the Women Of Worth celebration this past November via Instagram.

That issue definitely goes beyond just the entertainment industry. As anyone who’s attended high school knows, girl-on-girl hate is toxic. Speaking of high school, what’s one thing you desperately wish you could tell your high school self?

You know, I’m really proud of my high school life. I really feel like I had a pretty good head on my shoulders, but I think that in high school you think that it’s never going to end and you’re like, “Oh my god, am I ever going to get out of here?!” I’d probably tell myself not to worry and that those four years will be over before you know it and then your real life will begin.

I feel proud to be a woman because _________.

I feel proud to be a woman because I wouldn’t want to be anything else! The level of strength that a woman has inside of her is just unbelievable.

Michele with Glee co-star, Darren Criss via Instagram: “Bway style w/ @darrencriss #Glee”

L’Oreal Paris is holding an all-day Twitter forum Wed. April 16 to kick off the ninth annual Women Of Worth program. The conversation will include Michele, Maria Shriver, Mika Brzezinski, Eva Longoria and Liya Kebede. Tweet at@LOrealParisUSA with #WomenofWorth. 

Huffington Post Reviews #LoveApparatus Live in Philly 

written by Craig Carpenter 

The roots of rock and roll come from the African American music of gospel and blues. Everyone knows that. For those who don’t, let Jesse Boykins III stand as a statement of fact and proof. Returning to Philadelphia for the first time since 2008, and greeted by a young crowd of rabid R&B fans — the kind of crowd that chides an opening act for daring to cover D’Angelo’s “How Does It Feel” while fully clothed. The kind of crowd hungry for… no, starving for R&B. Into this city, whose musical history includes the oeuvre of Philly International Records, the Delfonics and the Spinners, Boykins sauntered into the cavernous Union Transfer, to deliver a reminder of where soul music comes from. The audience, however, a collection of mostly twenty-something music and style cognoscenti, clearly didn’t need the lesson. The venue, formerly a popular family-style Italian restaurant, outfitted with stained glass windows, ornate chandeliers and dark wood furnishings provided a fitting, churchly pomp for the spirited performance of Boykins and his magnificent band. There was no choir, but there was indeed, a sermon.

To be fair, his music has already been affixed another moniker. His fans and reviewers have dubbed it “World Soul,” because he so gracefully combines elements of many genres, including near and far Eastern rhythms and melodies. Many artists are hesitant to accept labeling, and Boykins is no exception. He does however use another term: schwaza, which is a feeling or moment of positivity and excitement. Described as such (and used as a pronouncement throughout his show), the term is certainly fitting. This is emotional music, evocative of feeling good. Which was evident in the reception he received at Union Transfer, as well as in the hearty call and response his performance garnered.

Philadelphia is known amongst musicians as one of the harder cities to play, with it’s knowledgeable audience, keenly aware of style over substance. It’s been many years since a legitimate “Soul Man” could command a stage with the operatic control of a conductor, the physical grace of a danseur, and the aggressive, yet tender cooing, a la, Teddy Pendergrass (albeit in falsetto). Panties were not thrown on stage, this time, as, perhaps, the practice is considerably less common these days. None the less, the mostly female crowd overwhelmingly approved, and was rewarded with about an hour and a half of material from his new album, as well as crowd favorite catalog material, including a stunning cover of the James Blake ballad, “Limit To Your Love.” It should be noted that while Blake’s music has been called “minimalist,” Boykins’ rendition of the song should then be called “maximalist,” as he extended the spare, subtle song into a tour de force experience which would take a bit to convince one it was indeed a cover. His own material, mesmerized throughout the show. Standouts included “The Blame Game,” “The Wonder Years” and “Make Believe,” undulating with deep, curled bass lines and crisp snares. For his generation — this is grown folk’s music. Frankly, this was an all-around great performance, from a young prodigy, maybe still growing to his greatness. His delivery of showmanship, theater, style and gutsy performance is only underserved by the barren landscape of contemporary radio. There’s no place for this kind of star on the frequency modulated dials, but the savvy listener will find him anyway.

Boykins, a native of Chicago, now making his home among the brood of artists and creatives that is Brooklyn, has earned a quiet reputation nationwide, equally as a producer, collaborator, performer — even music video director. Having previously released two EP’s and one full length album, the two-week-old tour to support his latest release, The Love Apparatus, has brought him to dates on the West and East coasts, and will carry on to Europe later this summer.