CBS doing what they can to pave the way for Zankie

Here’s the thing:

If you were production, and you knew how groundbreaking it would be for YOUR SHOW to have the first same-gender relationship on a reality TV show that is actually openly shown and discussed by the couple, you would do whatever you could to give those two guys the space and anything they need to be able to openly discuss it!  

You’d know how groundbreaking it would be ESPECIALLY when it involves a straight-identified guy realizing he has feelings for his guy friend, and in the end, during the live finale, proves himself to be SO F-ING BRAVE as to talk to all of America on live TV about pursuing an actual relationship with the guy. 

You would definitely offer both of them to be able to talk to whatever family members and whatever friends on the phone they needed to, to sort out their feelings with trusted friends and loved ones, and to nurture their relationships with those loved ones and friends as they told them and listened to their reactions and talked it all out. 

I would.  Absolutely.  

(First of all, because I would see just how badly they needed to talk to their people after a summer of all that sexual orientation questioning happening in front of cameras.) 

But also, without that, there’s no way anyone would ever be able to come out openly with their relationship on live TV if one of them has always identified as straight. 

And wouldn’t you give them anything they need in order to be able to do that, and make your show the most talked-about show for a long time???

Yes, yes you would.  And by the looks of it all; with the way they designed tonight’s show and the things CBS was tweeting, and the fact that there’s a rumor that they let the guys talk to their families right before their families all started tweeting Zankie love, I think they DID. 

So now it’s all up to Zach and his bravery.  

He’ll know how much homophobia (added to all of the homophobia that’s been directed at Frankie all summer) and biphobia (“just come out as gay already!”…) he’ll be in for.  

I have to mention, though, that so many of the interviewers have been AWESOME about accepting his current label for himself and simply reporting that he says he’s straight, we all saw him falling in love with Frankie, we all hope that their relationship works out for the best in whatever way outside of the house.  That’s ENORMOUS progress in media representation, at least from some of the people reporting on the show.

There will still be so much of the usual; all the truly difficult hate to slog through.  But my gosh that boy is open and strong and brave and seems to never back down from anything he cares about. 


"Arthur Evans, in Witchcraft and the Gay Counterculture, suggests the term "faggot", used to refer to queer individuals, originates from these persecutions. A faggot is a bundle of sticks, used for kindling. Faggots are used in cooking and home fires, and were used in the burning of heretics. When the words “faggot” and “flaming faggot” are used to refer to homosexuals, it is a reference to the Burning Times. Academics have strongly argued against this point, but in any case, it makes one think about the etymology of such slurs. “Faggot” and “fairy” possibly have a connection, as the root word, fagus, refers to the mythic ruler of the beech trees (a source of kindling), who devolved with the pagan faiths into a tree spirit, or fairy. What was once a derogatory remark is now a title claimed by gay men on a pagan spiritual journey. Evans suggest some historical records equate heresy with homosexuality. In the historical records, it is often unclear if someone is being accuse of witchcraft or homosexuality. A popular defense against the charge of heresy was to show a wife and child to prove one wasn’t gay.”

― Christopher Penczak
Gay Witchcraft: Empowering The Tribe

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you cannot debate someones life experiences unless you know for a fact (aka you were there and were a witness) it didnt happen

life experiences are not a debate

ive been bullied and harassed by cis people solely for the fact that im trans

that is not a debate or an opinion. its a fact

peoples lives are FACTS THAT HAPPENED

never, ever, ever tell someone something that happened to them didn’t happen


Okay so apparently the police don’t want me to press charges because they think I won’t win the case because me being drunk and that guy following me into the bathroom were implied consent because they think I went into bathroom with him. But I think they just don’t want to deal with a gay rape case. 

My experience sounds like so many others, but I still felt like sharing it nonetheless. I live in a very religious place where homophobia is rampant and with a very religious family according to whom I’m just confused. I have amazing friends who support me, and I know other bi ladies like myself but who don’t talk about it much. The internet has been my only safe haven when it came down to bi “stuff”. It still is.

I have learned so much about bisexuality and the community just surfing online. But best of all, I have learned more about ME. I can’t believe how far I’ve come from that homophobic little girl, to a questioning teenager to now an adult who’s finally realizing what she wants. And I thank the bi safe spaces online, mostly in tumblr, for that. So many sites were vital to me when figuring shit out, and still are. Just reading about others who were going through something similar was mindblowing.

So to me, it comes down to this, bi safe spaces are important because with them you learn you are part of a WE. That WE MATTER. Bi safe spaces are vital because they tell you YOU ARE OKAY JUST AS YOU ARE, or better yet they let you know YOU ARE NOT A FREAK, YOU ARE MORE THAN OKAY. Bi safe spaces tell you YOU ARE WELCOME HERE, and godammit did I needed to hear that. I still do, so thank you.


Former t.A.T.u. Singer Would ‘Condemn’ A Gay Son, Wouldn’t Mind If Her Daughter Was A Lesbian

When asked during a recent TV appearance if she would “condemn” her son if he was gay, Yulia Volkova, former member of the Russian girl band t.A.T.u, shocked fans by saying that “yes,” she absolutely would.

"A man must be a man," she told the host of the Ukrainian TV show “Lie Detector,” as the audience cheered. Volkova added that God created man for the sake of “procreation.”

The singer also appears to have said that a man has “no right to be a faggot.” The slur was beeped out of video.

However, Volkova — who became famous for openly kissing her bandmate Lena Katina on stage — said that she’d be OK with it if her daughter was a lesbian.

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The Bizarre Behavior of Christian Conservatives This Week

If Christianity had its own PR flack, he would be slamming his fist on the desk right about now, as the faithful are spinning out of control. 


A Tennessee man, Ronnie Monday, and his friends thought they were doing the “Lord’s work,” by raising money to erect a massive billboard in the town of Portland that called homosexuality an abomination. It quotes Leviticus 18:22: “You shall not lie with a man as with a woman. It is an abomination.” To the right of the verse the billboard says, “Love the Sinner, Hate the Sin.” Yet what Monday didn’t address is that a few verses later in Leviticus, homosexuals are condemned to death. So much for loving the sinner.

The United States Air Force entered the religious battle this week when it said it would not let a veteran airman reenlist unless he swore an oath unto God. The airman, who has remained unnamed, signed the oath document, but crossed out the words “so help me God.” Bryan Fischer of the ultra-conservative American Family Association said that atheists should not even be allowed to serve in the armed forces. “There is no place in the United States military for those who do not believe in the Creator,” he said. “A man who doesn’t believe in the Creator … most certainly should not wear the uniform.”


How quickly Fischer dismisses the lives of those like Pat Tillman, an open atheist who lost his life not long after he walked away from his professional football career to fight Al Qaeda after 9/11. The American Humanist Association and the Military Religious Freedom Foundation quickly took action against the Air Force, which strongly defended the wording of the oath. Eventually, the organizations wore the Air Force down, and it dropped its religious enlistment requirement.


After the Air Force’s decision to drop the requirement, the 700 Club’s Pat Robertson went onan anti-Semitic tirade: “There’s a left-wing radical named Mikey Weinstein [president of MRFF] who has got a group about people against religion or whatever he calls it, and he has just terrorized the armed forces.” He continued, “You think you’re supposed to be tough, you’re supposed to defend us, and you got one little Jewish radical who is scaring the pants off of you.”

On the subject of the military, former presidential candidate Mike Huckabee declared in front of a crowd that the US should not fear a war with the Islamic militant group ISIS because Huckabee has read the Bible, and it contains a prophecy. ”I got good news for all the dispirited and disquieted Christians in America who somehow are afraid that the Sons of Ishmael who are challenging us now in the Middle East will overwhelm the Sons of Isaac,” Huckabee said. “Let me assure you, I have read the end of the book! My dear friend, we win!”


For those who have not read the Bible, there is a massive lack of information about how to deal with ISIS, but that did not stop Huckabee, who even appeared on Fox News endorsing greater military action, saying dropping bombs is not enough to “eradicate ISIS.”

And last, if you are not familiar with Jesus’ famous sermon on the mount, Jesus blessed the poor and the hungry. But now he’s blessing the gun nuts? Pat Robertson, who can’t stay out of the news, has added a new verse: “Blessed are the fully armed because theirs is the kingdom of Heaven.”


Robertson was referring to earlier fear-mongering comments in which he claimed, “Violent attacks and even deaths on church property occur far more often than people realize.” But Robertson had good news for his viewers, saying, “The good news: You can protect yourself. What are you going to do, are you going to give church members AK-47s at the door to let them blow away those intruders?”

I don’t think Jesus meant handguns when he said, “Blessed are the peacemakers.”

Just so we're clear

Because some of you seem to have forgotten

The word “Headcanon” denotes the idea that your idea is something that is going from the canon. For example, you have something you’ve always been curious about and the canon never directly answers that. So you come up with your own answer. THAT is headcanon. 

Straight up ignoring the canon (for example, making a character who’s a POC, white or making up things about Hogwarts students asking for the wifi password, even though magic makes electronics go haywire (Goblet of Fire)) is NOT headcanon. That is you ignoring the canon so that the story can suit your specific needs. Stop calling your ignoring of the canon “headcanon”, at best, it’s you being asinine, at worst, its your excuse to be racist/sexist/homophobic/transphobic. 

This has been a PSA. 

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HBO Documentary Hunted: The War Against Gays In Russia

A startling expose about the violence gay men and lesbians face in Russia is set to debut next month on premium cable network HBO.

Out actor Matt Bomer (White Collar, The Normal Heart) narratesHunted: The War Against Gays in Russia, which premieres Monday, October 6 at 9 PM.

Directed by Ben Steele, Hunted features “disturbing insider footage of homophobic Russians who, in the name of morality or religion, beat and torment gay people, posting graphic videos of their encounters online with few or no legal repercussions,” according to the film’s description.

The film’s trailer features a woman saying, “They use the pretext of fighting pedophilia in Russia to attack gay people.”

“Pedophiles, gays and people like this, are basically serving the Devil,” a religious cleric says. 

Groups such as Occupy Pedophilia inaccurately claim their attacks against gays are justified because sexual abuse of children is most often committed by homosexuals.

last month i was in a lesbian night a club here had and let me tell you even there I had to hear can i join in by a str8 dude and the worst part is the club was on a street with literally dozens of str8 clubs the dude could go to but no he had to go to a lesbian night, I’ll go even further and say I bet this dude wouldn’t go to a LGBT club where he could be mistaken by gay but no lesbian night is totally where he wants to be - I got so mad I’m p sure I told this to everyone I know so now I’m posting this because damn it str8 dudes are everywheeere they like the plague