How I will raise my kids.

1.) My daughter will never be taught that a boy being mean to her means that he likes her.

2.) My son will not be taught to make fun of a girl if he likes her. He will be taught to be nice to her and try to be her friend.

3.) My daughter will never be shamed for her body. She will never see me shaming MY body. A girl with a confident mother, has a good idea of what body positivity is at a young age. She will never see me shame another woman for what she looks like.

4.) I dare my son to call her fat or ugly. That thought should barely cross his mind. But if it does, he’ll keep his comments to himself.

5.) Sex will not be taboo. it will not be strange to talk about. They will understand it, how it works, and there bodies once they’re mature enough.

6.) My daughter will never feel less of a person for having sex. She will be taught to never let a comment like “slut” or “whore” keep her from doing a completely natural thing. She’ll understand that she can come to me when she is ready, and I will give her the protection she needs.

7.) If my son calls a girl a slut or treats a girl with less respect because of the amount of partners she has, he can say goodbye to all his friends and all his stuff became that just won’t be tolerated.

8.) Consent will be taught by the time they can walk. My daughter has the rights to her body. She can say “please don’t touch me” without being scared or uncomfortable. My son will be taught to always ask to hug a girl or touch a girl in any ways. Sexually or not, consent will be extremely important.

9.) My son and daughter will understand that depression runs in the family. That there is absolutely no shame in asking for help.

10.) yelling and hitting doesn’t solve anything. Yelling will be kept to a minimum and hitting is what cavemen do.

11.) if my son wants to do ballet, he can do ballet. If he wants to wear pink, sparkly shoes, he can wear pink, Sparkly shoes. If he hates pink and only likes monster trucks and wrestling, then that’s the coolest thing ever. He can be whoever he wants and that’s amazing.

12.) My daughter can play t-ball and she can wear her dads or brothers clothes. She can tell me she absolutely hates piano lessons and refuses to wear a dress on picture day. I won’t tell her she isn’t girly or feminine enough. I won’t tell her she looks like boy as if it’s a bad thing.

13.) Sexuality and gender expression is encouraged and nothing you are or choose to be regarding either is bad. If my son comes to me saying he’s Gay, I’ll hug him and say I’m proud. If my daughter comes home holding Susie Q’s hand, I’ll hug them both and say I’m proud. We will celebrate when they realize who they are. Straight and cisgendered included.

14.) They will be raised to be tolerant, but to stand up for what’s wrong. Other people having different opinions is okay. No matter how ridiculous it is. other religions are okay. No religion is okay. conservative opinions or liberal opinions are okay. It’s not okay when those opinions lead to wrong-doing and hateful comments.

15.) Neither of them are ever going to think that when a female has sex, she will get “loose.” They will have a complete understanding of the human body and how it works when they’re old enough. They will have correct and healthy sex and body education.*

marlasinner sagte:

Today is 121 years since New Zealand gave women the right to vote! Our suffragettes were led by Kate Sheppard, a lady who kicked butt! PLUS she celebrated changing the world by being yourself! - “We are tired of having a ‘sphere’ doled out to us, and of being told that anything outside that sphere is ‘unworthy’. We want to be natural just for a change….we must be ourselves.”


I was appointed six months ago and the more I have spoken about feminism the more I have realized that fighting for women’s rights has too often become synonymous with man-hating. If there is one thing I know for certain, it is that this has to stop.

For the record, feminism by definition is: “The belief that men and women should have equal rights and opportunities. It is the theory of the political, economic and social equality of the sexes.”

—  Emma Watson, UN Women Goodwill Ambassador (9/20/14)

okay so if you haven’t seen Sam Pepper’s new “prank” video, you can watch it here (x) (also you should probably give it a big thumbs down when you’re there)

OR you can let me give you the rundown. Really all it is, is him pretending to have both hands on dispay and going up to random females on the street and as he called it “pinching” their butts with his hidden hand.

I am so disgusted about how someone can even think this is a prank, and think its okay to harass random women on the street, this is setting a horrible example for any younger viewers he has. I never have nor will I ever support Sam Pepper and his actions, this video needs to be taken seriously and there needs to be major consequences given to him for posting this. 

I am very disappointed that this video was ever even made, and that is was ever even posted, but honestly we have seen what people on the internet have put up before so, as much as it angered me it didn’t shock me as much as it should have. What shocked me more was the horrible comments people were leaving, I know youtube commenters are bad, but I have never seen them be this bad, I collected a few here, but there are many MANY more horrible ones on the video. 

Something people need to realize

When a women tells her rape story, saying ‘not all men do that’ won’t make the situation any better.

Men get raped too, but some dont reported because there are assholes who think that getting raped shouldn’t be something a men should complain about

When a women tells you ‘no’ or ‘stop’, you do it.

When a man tells you ‘no’ or ‘stop’ you do it.

You can still be a feminist and want to have children and be a stay at home mom.

It’s okay if a man wants to stay home and take care of the kids while his wife is working. This ^ doesn’t make him any less of a man.

Just because a women wears revealing clothing doesn’t make her a slut, learn the definition of this over used word before your throw it a someone.

It’s okay if a woman likes sex

It’s okay if man likes sex

It’s not okay to judge someone based on their sex life, because frankly, this in no way affects you.

It’s not okay to hate someone based on their gender

It’s not okay to generalize a certain

Just because someone is a feminist doesn’t mean s/he is a misandrist

Just because a person is a anti feminist doesn’t mean s/he is a misogynist.

Women kill

Women rape

Men kill

Men rape

I’m a feminist, and I feel like a lot of people lose sight of the true definition of feminism; equality between women AND men.


My blog is a safe place for everyone, everyone is always welcome here, I want everyone, no matter who they are, to feel safe and loved. My blog is particularly a safe place for women, because I feel like women, all women, need a place to feel safe, loved, respected, and heard, and I want my blog to be a place where women, all women, feel they are always welcome, with open arms. Just wanted to say that.

How can we affect change in the world when only half of it is invited or feel welcome to participate in the conversation? Men, I would like to give this opportunity to extend your formal invitation. Gender equality is your issue, too. To date, I’ve seen my father’s role as a parent being valued less by society. I’ve seen young men suffering from illness, unable to ask for help for fear it will make them less of a man. I’ve seen men fragile and insecure by what constitutes male success.

Men don’t have the benefits of equality, either. We don’t want to talk about men being imprisoned by gender stereotypes but I can see that they are. When they are free, things will change for women as a natural consequence. If men don’t have to be aggressive, women won’t be compelled to be submissive. If men don’t need to control, women won’t have to be controlled.

Both men and women should feel free to be sensitive. Both men and women should feel free to be strong. It is time that we all see gender as a spectrum instead of two sets of opposing ideals. We should stop defining each other by what we are not and start defining ourselves by who we are.

—  Emma Watson giving the speech that Shailene Woodley needs to hear so she can stop misrepresenting what feminism is.