• Josh:*finishes singing a French song*
  • Darren:*comes on stage* How am I supposed to follow that?!
  • Both of them begin to talk in heavy French accents -
  • Josh:Paint me like one of your French girls, Darren!
  • Darren:Oh no, we must not speak of our relationship in front of all these people!
  • Josh:Oui!
  • Darren:*starts babbling in French*
  • Josh:Then we will talk about fromage!

#pandorapresents Josh Groban and Darren Criss’ opening discussion. There’s Hedwig talk included.

If the only argument you can make for why you are doing something is “This is what I want to do, I feel it is my right,” while completely disregarding how your actions are impacting others, you absolutely are being selfish. That’s the literal definition of the word selfish. 

self·ishˈ /adjective/ (of a person, action, or motive) lacking consideration for others; concerned chiefly with one’s own personal profit or pleasure.

If seeing people discussing this makes you feel uncomfortable or angry and your first instinct is to respond defensively in an attempt to justify why you think you should have as many opportunities to meet Darren as you want, you need to take a step back to think about why that is. Chances are it’s because deep down you know you are being inconsiderate and selfish and you don’t like feeling that way or having other people call attention to it. Here are some of the arguments and justifications I’ve seen people use and why they really don’t hold water:

1) “I paid for a ticket which I means I have the right to stage door.” Yes, if you bought a ticket and attended the show THAT NIGHT, you do have the right to also go to the stage door after the show. You DO NOT have the right to get a picture with Darren, get unlimited things signed for you and your friends, get Darren on video responding to you or saying hi to other people who can’t be there, or to be at the front of the barricade night after night. Contrary to popular belief, Darren does not have unlimited energy and time. Not everyone who goes to the stage door after the show gets their things signed, gets a hello or wave from Darren, or even gets to make eye contact with him. Most people get one shot at meeting Darren after the show if they are LUCKY. That’s it. And the fact that they are often ending up at the back of the barricade (where at best they catch a glimpse at the top of Darren’s head if they stand on tiptoes) or possibly get a Playbill signed if they pass it up to someone in the front is very frustrating and disappointing for them. Why is that all they get out of their stage door experience? Because fans who haven’t seen the show that night are lining up before Hedwig even ends to stake out the prime spots in front of the barricade. People who haven’t paid for and attended the show that night have ZERO right to stage door. It’s basic Broadway etiquette and IT IS WRONG. END OF STORY. I don’t care if you are going to get something signed for a friend or if you’ve bought tickets for the show for a different night or whatever excuse you might have for why you should be allow to break the rules. You aren’t above them. No one is. 

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