This month marks the third year of my personal writing, womanist commentary/analysis, and content curation with my blog Gradient Lair. Thank you for being thoughtful, respectful and supportive of my personal space. It is still a one-person, ad-free, personal blog on the Tumblr platform/social network. (If you want to financially support Gradient Lair, click here!)
I have been through a lot (some wonderful, a lot good, an incredible amount of really really bad) using social media primarily since 2006 (if I exclude AOL/message board days in the late 90s in undergrad), writing online in general since 2008 and having this space since 2012. In 2012 I expected maybe 100 readers, which would have been totally fine with me, if you know me. As of now, there are 21,400+ subscribers and way more readers than that; hundreds of thousands of page hits monthly, 50-100K+ notes monthly, 30-50+ college IP address hits per day, and personal Twitter (@thetrudz)/blog Twitter (@GradientLair) retweet/mentions reach and impressions in the tens of millions per month. It’s a lot; being an introvert and someone not big into hypervisibility (as in *shivering* terrified of hypervisibility; exhausted by plagiarism and other exploitation), it is a lot to take in.
However, who I want to focus on right now are the wonderful Black women–who I primarily write to/for (other than for myself; again a personal space)–who have reached out to me in friendship and sisterhood. I thank you and appreciate you. You’re beautiful, kind and wonderful. Also to other people who are respectful of the purpose and intent of the space but still engage kindly, thank you. It’s good to know you online, and some of you I’ve met offline.
I can’t say that I always thought that I would make it to year 3 of this space (or at times life itself) because of what I’ve been through online (and offline), which you are well aware of if you’ve read here for a while. But alas, I am here, in body and life, and still with this space too. Now, some changes are pending; I’ll explain this summer. It’ll be okay though; I promise.
To keep this space going–the emotional/intellectual labor it takes and the time–as well as general support or gift, I do have a DONATE page and I need and appreciate that. You can give a one-time donation or sign up for monthly recurring donation, if affordable. (If not, I still thank you for the verbal encouragement and support.)
So I’ve been seeing a lot of complaining about the finale but I’m still excited about the upcoming season, and I want to find other people who are too! So if you want some more positivity on your dash and are looking forward to s11, this is the network for you :) [Gif credit]
Since I am slowly closing in on 4000 followers, I wanted to do some promos for you wonderful people ♥
Rules. . must be following me . reblog this post (likes don’t count) . must reach 50 notes . open until June 15th
What you will get. . I will promote everyone in lists of ten. . Favorites bolded, mutuals italicized . Blogs I start following because of this will get a “+f” behind their url . One random screen shot promo per list ♥
oh my god i posted a text group conversation i had with my friends about wanting to go to pepe’s mexican restaurant and i didnt’ think twice about it so it has 2 of their full names on it and i never thought it got more than like 50 notes and i was just scrolling down my dash and saw it and i wa slike hey wow i know those people oh hey wow they have the same conversation and the same contact emojis in their names oh wow thats my phone oh wow thats my screenshot oh fucK and it has 29000 notes like uGHHHHH i feel so bad why didnt i black out their names
first of all, bipolar is nothing like hormones at all. bipolar causes long stages of mania and depression. your mood doesn’t just change all the time, that’s a huge stupid fucking myth perpetuated by people like you that don’t know shit about psychology. you go through long phases, weeks at a time, of mania, depression, or both. nobody gets diagnosed with bipolar because they have hormones. as someone who’s bipolar that offends the fuck out of me.
secondly, the reason mental disorders are getting diagnosed more in children is because we’re more aware now of what constitutes disordered behavior. guess what? that “loner” is probably suffering a lot. in 1980 he was probably suffering a lot too, but no one bothered to diagnose him because he was just “being a kid” or whatever the fuck you call it and because people didn’t take depression seriously.
people are occasionally misdiagnosed, but increased awareness and diagnosis in childhood has resulted in so many children that could’ve had much more difficult childhoods getting the help they need. it is so much better to diagnose more than less, because people getting no help for years of their life or even being told they don’t have a disorder and thinking that for the rest of their life and never getting any help at all is so much more of a problem than not “preserving childhood” or whatever the fuck you’re worried about. we’re talking many people’s entire lives being on the line. that’s much more important than your nostalgia-obsessed bullshit.
the rates of diagnosis have increased because there’s more awareness. more people that really need help are being diagnosed and helped because of it. parents are actually taking their children to get psychological evaluation now. and you know who diagnoses them? psychologists WHO HAVE BEEN STUDYING THE SUBJECT FOR YEARS. do you really think you know more than them about what disorders a kid has??? who the fuck made you an authority on psychology that’s somehow better than a person with a fucking college degree in it??? i know you’re all afraid of anything changing and so you try to find a way to make it evil and wrong but you don’t know shit about this subject and you’ve never studied it at all, so take this pretentious bullshit and shove it up your ass.
Special shout-out to Jersey Love (Primarily images, also memes, news): …I’m not sure I’ve seen anything else like it: nearly 700 posts in April and 900+ in May, all but three of them related to basketball. (I’d like to tell you how many posts there were in January and February but my computer freezes before I can scroll down far enough in the archive to find out.) An exceptional batting average in regards to quality posts, too. Certainly one of the bigger collections of neat basketball content that you’ll find on tumblr. It’s a good stop for anyone who wants to see today’s best posts all in one place.