How to Start a Conversation When You Have Nothing to Talk About

Starting a conversation to get to know someone or breaking an awkward silence can be very stressful. To start a conversation when you have nothing to talk about, use these guidelines.
1. Introduce yourself if necessary. If you don’t know the person, breaking the ice is very simple: look approachable, tell the new person your name, offer your hand to shake, and smile.
2. Remark on the location or occasion. Look around and see if there is anything worth pointing out. Examples of location or occasion comments include: “This is a gorgeous room!”, or “Great dog!”
3. Ask an open-ended question. Most people love to talk about themselves, and open questions can help with this. These require an explanation for an answer rather than just a simple yes or no. Open questions tend to begin with who, when, what, why, where, and how.
4. Keep the conversation going with small talk. This keeps the conversation light and simple, and helps to establish similarities.
5. Synchronize. Once the other person has started talking, follow his or her cues to keep the conversation going smoothly. Use active listening to reflect what they’re saying and, perhaps, feeling.
6. Helpful techniques and cues to convey your interest include: Say the other person’s name from time to time; give encouraging feedback (by nodding, saying “ah-ha”, “wow’, “oh” “That’s amazing!”, etc.); keep your body language open and welcoming; and make comfortable, genuine eye contact with the person.
7. Be aware of your internal monologue. When you suddenly feel that you’re not able to engage in conversation with someone else, it’s likely that you’re saying negative things to yourself. For example, you may be worrying that you’re boring, not good enough, too unimportant, intruding, wasting their time, and so on. Try to keep in mind that everyone has these self-doubts from time to time.
8. Respond thoughtfully to someone who remains awkward or uncomfortable. If he or she appears withdrawn and uninterested, don’t persist for too long. Try a bit more, and then make the decision to move on and talk to somebody else. Also, be careful not to ask too many questions as they may feel shy discussing themselves.
Source: (Adapted)


Flavia Pitis: Breaking the Silence with

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Looking at the quiet, still paintings of Romanian artist Flavia Pitis, one gets the sensation that something wicked is looming on the horizon. Dimly lit with a chiaroscuro effect, the works present solitary children and sometimes adult women blissfully playing with floating objects and dolls, seemingly unaware of the ghostly ambiance surrounding them. Much like the scene before a big scare in a horror movie (when it’s tempting to scream “Don’t go over there!” at your TV), Pitis’ works uphold a fragile silence that might be broken at any moment. Take a look at some of her works below, images courtesy of Flavia Pitis.


anonymous said:

niall taking care if you when you have a cold

"Don’t you dare get your snot rags all over me nice leather couch!"

You glare at him in response, dragging the tissue underneath your nose once more as another sneeze worms its way past your mouth. “I will make sure you don’t get any kisses for the next week, Niall.” 

Niall shrugs. “I’ll just have Harry meet my needs, then,” he says, but he’s joking, and soon silences while taking in your appearance. A few moments later, he asks in concern, “Seriously though, are you alright? Has that cold medicine not kicked in yet?” 

"I’m feeling a bit drowsy, if that’s what you mean, but I," — another sneeze — "can’t get rid of this sneezing." 

Tsk’ing softly underneath his breath, Niall moves his hand across your forehead until it’s tangled somewhere in your hair. He kisses your temple gently and drags you a little closer to his lap, where you eventually curl up to rest your head on his shoulder. 

"You just say the word and I’ll go get you some more soup, alright? I might somehow fuck it up in the microwave, but I’ll get you whatever you need, you got me?" 

You’re about to reply until a coughing fit attacks you, and Niall pats and rubs at your back until he’s murmuring, “Poor baby,” and curling his fingers around the back of your neck to pull you in closer, soon pulling the blanket back around your shoulders. 

"S’just a cold, Niall," you assure him, but your face is all scrunched up to hold back a sneeze and he’s quietly laughing at you, smoothing the crease in your forehead with his warm mouth. 

"I know. Doesn’t give me any less of a reason to make sure you have everything you need."

"I thought Harry was going to meet your needs.”

"Nah," Niall whispers affectionately, shaking his head while tucking a piece of hair behind your ear. "I’ve got the real deal right here. Might not be able to kiss you for a while, but…" His eyes twinkle. "You’ll do, I guess," he teases. 

Go placidly amid the noise and the haste, and remember what peace there may be in silence. As far as possible without surrender, be on good terms with all persons. Speak your truth quietly and clearly, and listen to others, even the dull and ignorant; they too have their story. Be yourself. Especially do not feign affection. Neither be cynical about love – for in the face of all aridity and disenchantment is it perennial as the grass. Take kindly the counsel of the years, gracefully surrendering the things of youth. Nurture strength of spirit to shield you from misfortune. But do not distress yourself with imaginings. Many fears are born of fatigue and loneliness. Beyond a wholesome discipline, be gentle with yourself. You are a child of the universe no less than the trees and the stars; you have a right to be here. And whether or not it is clear to you, no doubt the universe is unfolding as it should. Therefore be at peace with God, whatever you conceive Him to be, and whatever your labors and aspirations, in the noisy confusion of life keep peace with your soul. With all its sham, drudgery and broken dreams, it is still a beautiful world.
—  Max Ehrmann, Desiderata: A Poem for a Way of Life

burningupasun said:

Like come to think of it, who even arrested River? What court was she tried in? What planetary justice system figured out she killed him, took her OFF EARTH, arrested her, tried her, and put her in jail? Is that prison like an intergallactic prison????????Are they like, time/space cops??????????

pfff amy, trying to apply logic to moffat who

nevermind the fact that she shows she can escape past the cartoonishly inept guards anytime she likes, yet she keeps on returning to keep up the pretence that the doctor’s dead… even though whether or not a murderer is imprisoned is irrelevant to whether their victim is alive or not, and that the silence KNOW she was made to do it against her will and is therefore innocent so idk why they would blame her on not staying in prison

nevermind that she gets pardoned when her murder gets deleted from a database… because obviously prisons just release their inmates when the victims are wiped off records?




anonymous said:

Whats your opinion on censorship? To be more specific, would you rather have a silenced biased/racist/misogynist majority of people or a very vocal biased/racist/misogynist minority of people?

The framework of your question is a fundamentally flawed view of relationship between oppressed and oppressor.  

It is not simply about preventing people with harmful views from ~expressing them~ through censorship. These views expressed or kept hidden actively harm us because the people who hold them wield structural power. Preventing them from being vocalized will not stop that.

No one is advocating we censor bigotry. We are advocating for it’s destruction. The systems that cause these ‘opinions’, the people who hold them and the way they are used against marginalized people.


One moment I loved from episode 4 of Gravity Falls season 1 was when Dipper shows his protective brother personality when he asks Mabel if things are over with Gideon. 

First he takes things sensitively when Mabel returns from her first date with Gideon, asking how things went and putting down the journal so that he can talk to his sister about the date. 

When Mabel replies that she doesn’t really know how the date went and that she got a lobster out of it, Dipper reassures her that it’s over now and tells her that she’ll never have to go out with Gideon ever again.

But hearing silence from Mabel, Dipper becomes openly concerned and asks Mabel if things are truly over with Gideon. Hearing silence again, Dipper puts his hands on his hips and says her name very sternly to get an answer out of her. 

Mabel’s face when Dipper asks if things are truly over between her and Gideon is an aspect that a lot of fans seem to glance over and not think too deeply about. She’s ashamed that she couldn’t tell Gideon off and to tell her brother that she has to go on another date with him must have been one of the most shameful moments that she had to go through in that episode. 

But I’m happy that Dipper didn’t take his sister’s silence as a yes. He simply asked her over again if things were really over between her and Gideon & I’m glad that he actually sounds like he’s concerned over how she handled her date and if she really cut things off with him for good. 

I just think that Dipper’s concern in this scene was really well done and I would really appreciate it if in season 2 of Gravity Falls we get more scenes with Dipper being protective & concerned about Mabel. 




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anonymous said:

Can you say all of your songs to me? Plis, i nees those songs!!

Yes, the names of the songs are :3  >

1- Kim Tayor - I am you

2- Carla Bruni - Quelqu’un m’a dit

3-Elliott Smith - Between the bars 

4-R3hab & Bassjackers - Raise Those Hands

5- Natalie Walker - Waking Dream

6- Wolf Larsen - If I Be Wrong

7- SOJA - When We Were Younger

8- Oasis - I’m Outta Time

9- SOJA - Don’t Worry

10-Jake Bugg - Slide

11-Julian Jordan & Martin Garrix - BFAM 

12-Soul Asylum - Runaway Train

13- Matt Walters - I Would Die For You

14- Lucia - Silence 

15- Jake Bugg - Broken

16-Jake Bugg - Seen It All

17-The Fray - Run For Your Life

18- Showtek - We Like To Party (Original Mix)

19-Lifehouse - Blind

20-Quintino - Go Hard

21- Martin Garrix & Jay Hardway - Wizard

22- Chief Keef - Hate Being Sober - 50 Cent & Wiz Khalifa (Dotcom’s Festival Trap Remix)

23- W&W - Lift Off! (Original Mix)

24- Oasis- Don’t go away

25- Showtek ft. We Are Loud & Sonny Wilson - Booyah (Original Mix) 

26- Carnage & Tony Junior - Michael Jord

27-Sarah Jaffe - Clementine 

28-Oasis - Sad Song

29- Lorde - Swingin’ Party

30- Axwell - Center of the Universe

31- Victor Ruiz - Sub Castle

32- Kings Of Leon - Sex on Fire

33-Howie Day - Collide

34-Eectro & House Festival -  Ultra Music Festival 2014

35- Pearl Jam - The End

36- Lana del Rey - Lucky Ones

37- Kodaline

38-Tom Odell - Hold Me

39-Oasis - The Masterplan

40- City and Colour - The Golden State

40- I am hardwell - 2 hour hd liveset giveaway

42-City and Colour - The Girl

43-The Fray - You Found Me

44- Hardwell Live @ Tomorrowland 2013

45- Hardwell On Air Yearmix 2013

46- Wildstylez Feat. Niels Geusebroek - Year Of Summer

47- Of Monsters and Men - My Head Is An Animal 

48- Deadmau5 - 4x4=12

49- W&W - Thunder (Original Mix)

50- 4 Non Blondes - What’s Up

51-Knife Party - LRAD

52- Lorde - Buzzcut Season

53- Tomorrowland 2013 - Avicii

54- Danny Avila - Voltage 

55- Kim Taylor - Lost and Found

56- Birdy - Wings

57- David Guetta vs Afrojack vs Nicky Romero - Live at Tomorrowland 2013

58- Bon Jovi - Misunderstood

59- Armin van Buuren live at Ultra Music Festival 2013

60- Steve Aoki - Pursuit of happiness

61- Scorpions - When you came into my life

62-Tomorrowland 2013 - Tiësto

63- James Blunt - You’re Beautiful

64- Oasis - Stop Crying Your Heart Out

65-Somewhere over the Rainbow - Israel “IZ” Kamakawiwoʻole

66- Mil Pedaços - Legião Urbana

67- Joan Osborne - What if god was one of us

68- Kim Taylor - Save My Life

69- Arctic Monkeys - Black Treacle

70- Swedish House Mafia - Don’t You Worry Child ft. John Martin

71- Oasis - Let There Be Love

72- Coldplay - Yellow

73- Advertising Space - Robbie Williams

74-Tom Odell - Sirens

75- Oasis - Slide Away

76- Dimitri Vegas & Like Mike - Live at Tomorrowland 2013

77-  Ed Sheeran - Cold Coffee

78- Afrojack - Rock The House

79- Keane - Strangeland (FULL ALBUM) <333

80- Snow Patrol - Chasing Cars (Gazzo Remix)

81-Daft Punk - Instant Crush ft. Julian Casablancas

82- Dimitri Vegas & Like Mike - Bringing Home The Madness

83- Red Hot Chili Peppers - The Zephyr Song

84- Kansas - Dust In The Wind

85-Scorpions - Always Somewhere

86- Coldplay - Strawberry Swing

87- Ed sheeran - In Memory

88-Lana Del Rey vs Cedric Gervais ‘Summertime Sadness’ Remix

89- One Republic - Stop and Stars