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#SPN 10 countdown challenge  |  day 20 - episode 20, season 6
For a brief moment…I was me again.


This is going to be the first of many posts dealing with characters who are written to be hated but actually deserve sympathy from the readers. Inspired by the 8 Fictional Girls You Were Supposed To Like But Who Actually Suck article.

First off is Cho Chang, who is arguably one of the most hated characters in the entire Harry Potter franchise, particularly in the books. And what for?

Well, in the film she’s kind of bland, her relationship with Harry seems pretty shallow and forced, and she doesn’t have a really huge part other than being forced into revealing the location of Dumbledore’s Army. At first her peers hate her for it, Harry apparently breaks up with her for it, but even when it’s revealed that she was forced into telling Umbridge after taking Veritaserum (a powerful truth serum that is used in interrogations), nobody makes an effort to apologize to her for ostracizing her. Harry doesn’t go out of his way to apologize, tell her that he’s sorry, or do anything in regards to her mend her broken heart and hurt feelings. It honestly makes you wonder why they even revealed that she was given Veritaserum to begin with. So Harry wouldn’t hate her when we see her again in Deathly Hallows Part 2? If anything, I think Cho would have every reason in the world to not forgive Harry for knowing that she didn’t tell on purpose and STILL not doing anything (on screen at least) to mend their friendship.

In the book however, this character’s only crime is that she literally has a lot of emotions and expresses them in a way that annoys the main protagonist.

Now let’s think about this for a minute. What happened to this girl to make her “cry over boys more than she speaks,” as Rachel Rostad put it in her video?

  1. She was about fifteen or sixteen years old when her boyfriend was murdered.
  2. If we are going by the film version, she is literally there, front row, dead center, WHEN HARRY ARRIVES WITH HER BOYFRIEND’S DEAD FUCKING BODY.
  3. Not only was he murdered, he was murdered by a wizard so evil and so feared that people can’t even speak his name out loud. Which means there’s going to be a whole lot of shit that’s probably going to go down very soon that may result in more death and more pain.
  5. In addition to not getting over the murder of someone who was probably her first love, she gets ridiculed and teased for it by people like Pansy Parkinson.
  6. She tries to connect with the only person who might understand just what sort of pain she went through. She wants to talk to him about it. She wants to heal and thinks that maybe he could help her do it, and what happens? He starts talking about another girl. On a date with her.
  7. She has the audacity to be angry about this, even jealous, and somehow this is annoying and stupid and unreasonable even though she is a young girl whose boyfriend was murdered, who clearly isn’t getting the care and support that she needs from her friends or from a the guy who apparently has a crush on her, and her emotions overwhelm her.

I believe i also heard somewhere that Cho Chang’s character was specifically created in contrast to Ginny’s to show that Ginny is the better match for Harry because of how much stronger and tougher she is and how she has a better grip on her emotions. Which quite frankly, that infuriates me to no end. Maybe Cho is annoying because of her jealous outbursts, but that does not make her feelings invalid or unimportant because she chooses to cry about everything that had happened, wants to express herself and talk about those feelings to someone she thought she could trust, and then just gets shot down for them. And what’s worse is that the fandom genuinely hates her for being distraught and traumatized over the very recent death of her boyfriend.

All things considered, Harry and Cho could’ve easily been a very deep, complex couple. They could’ve helped each other heal and learned how to love, or at the very least (in the film version) ended on better terms. I’m actually really sad that it didn’t go that way. Even so, I don’t think there is any reason in the world for this character to be as hated as she was.

Khaled Hosseini, And the Mountains Echoed 

"30 traits of an Empath:

1. Knowing: Empaths just know stuff, without being told. It’s a knowing that goes way beyond intuition or gut feelings, even though that is how many would describe the knowing. The more attuned they are the stronger this gift becomes.

2. Being in public places can be overwhelming: Places like shopping malls, supermarkets or stadiums where there are lots of people around can fill the empath with turbulently vexed emotions that are coming from others.

3. Feeling others emotions and taking them on as your own: This is a huge one for empaths. To some they will feel emotions off those near by and with others they will feel emotions from those a vast distance away, or both. The more adept empath will know if someone is having bad thoughts about them, even from great distance.

4. Watching violence, cruelty or tragedy on the TV is unbearable: The more attuned an empath becomes the worse it is and may make it so they eventually have to stop watching TV and reading newspapers altogether.

5. You know when someone is not being honest: If a friend or a loved one is telling you lies you know it (although many empaths try not to focus on this because knowing a loved one is lying can be painful). Or if someone is saying one thing but feeling/thinking another, you know.

6. Picking up physical symptoms off another: An empath will almost always develop the ailments off another (colds, eye infections, body aches and pains) especially those they’re closest to, somewhat like sympathy pains.

7. Digestive disorders and lower back problems: The solar plexus chakra is based in the centre of the abdomen and it’s known as the seat of emotions. This is where empaths feel the incoming emotion of another, which can weaken the area and eventually lead to anything from stomach ulcers to IBS (too many other conditions to list here). Lower back problems can develop from being ungrounded (amongst other things) and one, who has no knowledge of them being an empath, will almost always be ungrounded.

8. Always looking out for the underdog: Anyone whose suffering, in emotional pain or being bullied draws an empath’s attention and compassion.

9. Others will want to offload their problems on you, even strangers: An empath can become a dumping ground for everyone else’s issues and problems, which, if they’re not careful can end up as their own.

10. Constant fatigue: Empaths often get drained of energy, either from energy vampires or just taking on too much from others, which even sleep will not cure. Many get diagnosed with ME.

11. Addictive personality: Alcohol, drugs, sex, are to name but a few addictions that empaths turn to, to block out the emotions of others. It is a form of self protection in order to hide from someone or something.

12. Drawn to healing, holistic therapies and all things metaphysical: Although many empaths would love to heal others they can end up turning away from being healers (even though they have a natural ability for it), after they’ve studied and qualified, because they take on too much from the one they are trying to heal. Especially if they are unaware of their empathy. Anything of a supernatural nature is of interest to empaths and they don’t surprise or get shocked easily. Even at the revelation of what many others would consider unthinkable, for example, empaths would have known the world was round when others believed it was flat.

13. Creative: From singing, dancing, acting, drawing or writing an empath will have a strong creative streak and a vivid imagination.

14. Love of nature and animals: Being outdoors in nature is a must for empaths and pets are an essential part of their life.

15. Need for solitude: An empath will go stir-crazy if they don’t get quiet time. This is even obvious in empathic children.

16. Gets bored or distracted easily if not stimulated: Work, school and home life has to be kept interesting for an empath or they switch off from it and end up daydreaming or doodling.

17. Finds it impossible to do things they don’t enjoy: As above. Feels like they are living a lie by doing so. To force an empath to do something they dislike through guilt or labelling them as idle will only serve in making them unhappy. It’s for this reason many empaths get labelled as being lazy.

18. Strives for the truth: This becomes more prevalent when an empath discovers his/her gifts and birthright. Anything untruthful feels plain wrong.

19. Always looking for the answers and knowledge: To have unanswered questions can be frustrating for an empath and they will endeavour to find an explanation. If they have a knowing about something they will look for confirmation. The downside to this is an information overload.

20. Likes adventure, freedom and travel: Empaths are free spirits.

21. Abhors clutter: It makes an empath feel weighed down and blocks the flow of energy.

22. Loves to daydream: An empath can stare into space for hours, in a world of their own and blissfully happy.

23. Finds routine, rules or control, imprisoning: Anything that takes away their freedom is debilitating to an empath even poisoning.

24. Prone to carry weight without necessarily overeating: The excess weight is a form of protection to stop the negative incoming energies having as much impact.

25. Excellent listener: An empath won’t talk about themselves much unless it’s to someone they really trust. They love to learn and know about others and genuinely care.

26. Intolerance to narcissism: Although kind and often very tolerant of others, empaths do not like to be around overly egotistical people, who put themselves first and refuse to consider another’s feelings or points of view other than their own.

27. The ability to feel the days of the week: An empath will get the ‘Friday Feeling’ if they work Fridays or not. They pick up on how the collective are feeling. The first couple of days of a long, bank holiday weekend (Easter for example) can feel, to them, like the world is smiling, calm and relaxed. Sunday evenings, Mondays and Tuesdays, of a working week, have a very heavy feeling.

28. Will not choose to buy antiques, vintage or second-hand: Anything that’s been pre-owned carries the energy of the previous owner. An empath will even prefer to have a brand new car or house (if they are in the financial situation to do so) with no residual energy.

29. Sense the energy of food: Many empaths don’t like to eat meat or poultry because they can feel the vibrations of the animal (especially if the animal suffered), even if they like the taste.

30. Can appear moody, shy, aloof, disconnected: Depending on how an empath is feeling will depend on what face they show to the world. They can be prone to mood swings and if they’ve taken on too much negative will appear quiet and unsociable, even miserable. An empath detests having to pretend to be happy when they’re sad, this only adds to their load (makes working in the service industry, when it’s service with a smile, very challenging) and can make them feel like scuttling under a stone.

If you can say yes to most or all of the above then you are most definitely an empath.” 


Since so many of the readings I’ve been doing seems to indicate some of you guys are empaths and just had no idea what that meant, I’ve decided to collect this list with some of the most common traits, for you to finally understand that you are not alone and your feelings are perfectly “normal” ;) Hope this helps, let me know if you have any questions.

Also, you can check the post with Essencial Practices for Empaths, to find out more on how to deal with your gift ;)