I did post my view on the issue in this post - but I suppose I’ll use this ask to expand on that.
I absolutely believe in God’s forgiveness and grace. There is no denying that. Even the most horrible person can be redeemed because Christ’s sacrifice covered everything. No exceptions.
However, that does not mean that we can fail to hold accountable people in sin - and this is ESPECIALLY applicable to abuse. Abusers may say that they’re sorry (and it’s not up to me to decide whether they’re genuine or not - though we might be able to guess - only God really can know), but sorry doesn’t mean they get to escape the consequences of what they do. That’s not it works.
Also, an unfortunate thing in Christian culture is that we praise people who forgive right away, and sometimes guilt them into doing so before they’re ready - which isn’t a genuine forgiveness at all, just a stuffing of feelings and being hurt and isolated when what they need is support and help. We need to support abused people more than we need them to forgive their abuser. I think something we need to learn is how to stand by victims, be an advocate, and let them forgive when they are ready instead of acting scandalized when they don’t verbally say ‘I forgive you.’
These are some jumbled thoughts (maybe I can formulate them better later) but I hope they made some sort of sense!