I was anything but fond of the things Frankie said while on the show, in fact, I wasn’t fond of what a lot of the houseguests said, but the rationalist in me knows that most of the “problematic” things Frankie said weren’t said with ill intent. And I am a firm believer that intent trumps content.
When he called certain people names behind their back it was done without thought and I know for a fact that there aren’t many people on earth who haven’t at one point or another been guilty of doing the same thing.
Yes, he called Nicole a cunt, but he also said that he ADORED her in this video. Funny, isn’t it? How people never mention the several times he spoke positively about her or any of the other houseguests, but go on for months about the few times he spoke negatively about them.
I suppose it’s because everyone is so adamant on making him out to be the bad guy, hence every time he says anything that supports that theory it eclipses all the evidence that shows he’s not as terrible as he’s been made out to be.
Also, all the examples you’ve presented can easily be negated:
- Frankie never made a rape joke about Victoria; he made a distasteful joke which he has since apologized for. Mind you, the most horrifying aspect of the joke was the blood comment which wasn’t made by Frankie, but by Caleb. Yet, no one ever mentions Caleb’s part in the ordeal, nor was he made to apologize.
- Frankie absolutely never made a racist comment about Devin; it was a long running joke between ALL the houseguests that whenever Devin got into the hot tub the water would change colors due to something or other that I can’t remember. But it had nothing to do with the color of his skin. I know because I watched the live feeds and the clips in which they all—Jocosta, a woman of color, included—were discussing it.
- I have no idea how Frankie “harassed” Derrick and Cody. Yes, he was touchy feely, but so was everyone else in the house. However, he never crossed the line with anyone but Zach (who obviously didn’t mind). All he ever did was cuddle on occasion, but so did everyone else. I admit there were a handful of times where I thought he should reel it back a bit, but it wasn’t as though he was sexually assaulting anyone, and if anyone ever told him to stop, he’d stop.
Lastly, no, I do not like Frankie Grande because I like seeing “two boys kiss”. Please. As someone who is also “queer” I could care less about gender and more about the connection between two people.
To set the record very straight, I spent the beginning/middle of the summer avidly disliking Frankie, but not for the reasons that everyone else seems to dislike him because those are all ridiculous, senseless and far too easy to negate. I disliked him because of how he treated Zach. However, he has since made up for the bad things he said about Zach inside of the house by saying nothing but good things about him outside of the house.
Because of this, I’ve been completely converted into a Frankie supporter.
Do I agree with everything he’s done and said in his life? No. He’s human just like the rest of us and humans have flaws, some more than others. But do I think his flaws are deserving of the hate he receives? No. Not at all.
So, if you really respect rationality, perhaps you should practice it yourself. Just try to step outside of your preconceived notions of him and make an effort to understand him a bit.
Just because a lot of people hate him doesn’t mean that their reasons for hating him are valid, it just means that people are prone to a mob mentality. We all see someone being hated, so we figure they deserve the hate and mindlessly join in without taking the time to think for ourselves and unbiasedly analyse the situation. But in doing that, aren’t you just making yourself out to be the bad guy rather than him? Is fighting hate with hate a rational thing to do?
Love will always trump hate and positively will always trump negativity. I choose to practice love, regardless of what anyone thinks of me and I choose to see the best in everyone. I suggest you try that too.